With just 10 simple statements, you can not only determine where you stand with your child today, but also take the initiative to improve those relationships.
1. Show kindness and respect to you in the way your child can see and hear.
Ask questions that indicate that you are interested in what your child needs, such as "How can I support you?" Rude or imperative language is unlikely to make the other person feel like you care about them.
When you commit to something, such as completing a task, specify when you will be able to complete it — don't say "next week," say "before noon on Wednesday" — and, whenever possible, define exactly what the term "done" means.
2. Listen when your child speaks.
When your child is talking to you, try not to look at the phone and listen to him, and try to listen to his speech carefully.
3. Apologize when you feel hurting your child.
A friend once told me that she was in a relationship with a man who kept saying "I'm sorry". I like the analogy she makes: "He uses the word 'sorry' like a toll paid, giving him room for misconduct instead of a fine, admitting that he did something wrong."
A true apology begins with honestly acknowledging the harm caused. This is the beginning of the reconciliation process.
Maybe you feel you have good reason to hurt your partner. Put your relationship ahead of your reasons. Apologize.
Leadership in the partnership is taking the lead and being the first to apologize. Sometimes it's about taking the lead in apologizing for the role you played in a relationship breakdown, even if the other person isn't willing to apologize for their role.
4. Show interest in your child's future career.
When children start talking about what's going on in their lives, or about the problems they're facing, they often start coming up with solutions rather than actually coming into contact with them. "Tell me more..." can be used as a powerful tool in this regard, to listen to his story, not that we want to plan the future for him, we come to give them a framework for the future, if we do not recognize the future he himself planned, we can listen to him and then give suggestions and some drawbacks.