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Almost everyone who looks through old photos does the same thing, and that is memories.
Behind every old photo, there will be a story, either happy, or sad, or nostalgic.
Today, I saw a photo of my daughter going to an agricultural base to pick star fruit when she was three years old. The serious look she looked at her holding a long bamboo pole to hook a carambola reminded me of those conversation scenes with my daughter on the way to the agricultural base.
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In fact, on that day, the daughter did not want to go to the agricultural base at all, but going to the base to take pictures was the homework assigned by the kindergarten teacher, and she had to go.
So, when she went out, my daughter kept pouting and looking unhappy.
At that time, I was driving a women's motorcycle, and my daughter was wearing a small helmet with a protective baffle, clutching the left and right rearview mirrors with both hands, and standing on the foot pedals.
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Before driving, I told her, "Driving is windy, put down the windshield of your helmet and protect your face and eyes." ”
Unexpectedly, my daughter not only did not listen, but also scolded me: "If I crash, the board rots, and my face hurts, what should I do?" What if I insert it into my eyes? ”
I was really angry and afraid, but I couldn't find the right words to pay tribute to her, so I had to let her. But I was so frightened by her phrase "if I crashed" that I carefully drove to the base at the speed of a turtle line along the way.
When the car drove to the suburbs, there was a section of dirt road, and the bicycle would raise dust when it passed, so I said, "Baby, there is a lot of dust in front of you, you cover your nose and mouth." ”
To my surprise, she covered her nose and mouth with her hand, turned her head and said to me, "That's sand, not dust." I said, "Blown up by the wind is dust." ”
My daughter turned her head to look at me again and said unconvincingly, "Sand is sand, and it is still sand when it is blown up by the wind." ”
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At this moment, I was completely defensive, and I couldn't help but park the car on the side of the road, laughed, and then apologized to her.
Because, in order to complete the homework assigned by the kindergarten teacher, I began to urge her in the morning, and I did not pay any attention to her feelings.
When my daughter saw that I had apologized, she turned around, put her hands around my waist, buried her head in my stomach, and then looked up at me, grinned, smiled, and said, "Mom, I'm not afraid of dust like this." ”
At that time, I only regarded the change in my daughter's attitude as a child.
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It wasn't until today, more than 20 years later, after listening to Teacher Li Xinyi's class, that I knew why my daughter was against me and why she would reconcile with me immediately after I apologized.
It turns out that every child needs to be paid attention to and respected, and when parents make decisions without regard for their children's feelings, children will be resistant.
However, the child is a natural psychological master, he has a strong insight into his parents, so children often know how to "clean up" their parents, as long as the parents break the defense, he wins.
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Moreover, when parents apologize to their children, children tend to be very generous and immediately reconcile with their parents, because the parents' apologies make the children feel that they have received attention and respect.
Therefore, when we find that there is a problem with the child, do not rush to blame the child, but first find the reason from yourself, as long as you adjust your own problem, the child has no problem.
Because, first the problem parents, then the problem children.
As people often say: parents are originals, children are copies.
May every child be cared for and respected.
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