Remember aunt Su Min, who exploded on the Internet some time ago, 56-year-old who fled the family and traveled by car and tent?
Today, I accidentally swiped a video she posted on the Internet.
In the video, Su Min's face is full of joy and pride that cannot be hidden, and she leans on the motorhome and says this passage excitedly:
"This motorhome really belongs to me, and I finally have my own home."
"My family used to know that there were a lot of things that didn't belong to me, and a lot of things didn't have my name, but this motorhome can finally bear my name."
Running away from home and traveling by car for less than two years, she not only saw scenery she had never seen before, but also became a million Internet celebrities because of her attempts to shoot and edit the travel Vlog, appeared in the Overseas New York Times, and now she likes to mention the caravan.
From Su Min's body, we can see more possibilities of life.
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For Su Min, the self-driving tour is not a simple journey, but a self-help in a desperate situation.
Before fleeing the family, Su Min was already suffering from moderate depression.
She was born into a patriarchal family and basically did not enjoy the love of her parents.
It was hard to leave the painful original family and get married and start a family, but I didn't think about falling from one cage to another.
In all aspects of life, Su Min must follow her husband's preferences and requirements. As long as her husband is at home, she doesn't even have access to televisions and sofas.
After she was laid off, she was subjected to strict economic regulations. Every time her husband gave money, he would ask Su Min to tell him the details of each expense, as if he were "interrogating" the prisoner.
In order to get rid of this humiliation, the strong Su Min began to work all kinds of odd jobs to earn money: she worked as a tailor, swept the streets, worked as a waiter, delivered newspapers...
But her husband not only did not praise and encourage, but also often said that she was useless.
Even because she can make money, she simply does not give money.
As long as the husband feels that something is not going well outside, when he comes home, he will lose his temper with Su Min, throw things, and scolding is even more commonplace.
If Su Min dared to resist, her husband would throw her aside with one fist. Even once, he the bench and smashed it on her.
In more than 30 years of marriage, her husband has always had only dissatisfaction and complaints about her, making her feel that everything she does is wrong.
Living with such a husband, every day is depressed and depressed.
At the age of 56, Su Min's spirit and body were on the verge of collapse.
Only then did she make up her mind to step out of this family that had consumed her.
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Su Min, who was on the road, underwent a drastic change.
September 24, 2020, the eighth day of the eighth month of the eighth lunar month.
Su Min stuffed the car full, stepped on the accelerator, grasped the steering wheel, and set off.
From Zhengzhou to Xiaolangdi, from Sanmenxia to Xi'an, from Qinling to Chengdu.
Su Min is like a bird that breaks free of its cage, running between its own world and earth.
She said: "I finally took back the Volkswagen white POLO that I bought after working in the supermarket for two years, without worrying about my husband suddenly taking away the car keys;
"Even eating can come according to their own ideas, in order to take care of the husband's taste, the stir-fry dishes are very light, and now they are full of peppers, chili fried meat, chili scrambled eggs, fried chili peppers, and sweating until the tip of the nose is eaten."
She would finally laugh from the bottom of her heart, while she would only sigh long and short.
She had more beautiful encounters and felt the love and warmth from strangers.
She became confident and free, no longer staring at the troubles of the past, and no longer torturing herself.
She just wants to sing and go all the way forward to experience a whole new life.
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The first half of Su Min's life was painful, repressive, and patient.
The person who hurt her the most was the person who should have been closest to her.
That person, let her continue to give, but also feel taken for granted.
Let her constantly lose herself, blindly compromise and tolerate, and seek perfection.
That person, never considering her feelings, will only continue to consume her money, feelings, and even life.
When two people get along, in fact, she has always contributed to each other.
For the second half of su min's life, she made up her mind to stay away from the person who consumed herself.
With more possibilities in life, it is important to find yourself.
Life is only once, and it is precious to everyone.
The right people can nourish each other and make each other better people.
The wrong people, pulling at each other, consuming each other.
The writer SuZen said, "You don't have to bring everyone into your life."
Life should not be overdrawn with limited energy, and should not be given for people who are not worthy.
In this life, we cannot decide who to meet, but we can decide who to be close to and who to stay away from.
The rest of your life is expensive, whether it is making friends or romance, stay away from people who constantly consume you.
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