Three points for fine, three points for stupidity, and three points for children and grandchildren.
Some students have asked the master of traditional Chinese studies Nan Huaijin for advice, what kind of people are easy to succeed?
Nan Huaijin replied, "A stupid person, a person who does not play tricks and is very sincere about doing things to people." ”
People are generous, and the sky is not deceived. The shrewd person may win for a while, and the generous person can win for a lifetime.
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- The more shrewd you are, the more you suffer.
Teacher Bao Pengshan once said: "Calculating gains and losses is the biggest loss in life."
You will have gains and losses if you grin greatly, there will be gains and losses if you are careful, there will be gains and losses if you are open-minded and generous, you will calculate and calculate, there will still be gains and losses. ”
Man has a thousand calculations, and the heavens have a calculation.
Too shrewd and calculating, wasting time on small profits on the fly head can only ruin their own realm and pattern.
In the Qing Dynasty, Fang made a pilgrimage and brought servants into Beijing in the winter to participate in the examination.
He was particularly critical of the door, afraid that the servant would spend more money and make careful calculations on the servant's food.
After arriving in the capital, he instructed his servants to eat some pickles as soon as they wanted, and not to be extravagant and wasteful.
The servant had no choice but to order a few sour cucumbers.
He himself was upstairs making a big fuss.
Who would have thought that at the time of the final settlement, he would spend ten hangings of money, but the servant would spend forty taels of money.
Fang Juzi ran to the store to settle the account.
The shopkeeper said: There are few fruits and vegetables in winter, and this is the capital city.
This sour cucumber is pickled, a small plate of cucumbers is worth ten hangings in beijing, equivalent to a thousand yuan of money made in other provinces, which is much more expensive than meat.
Fang Juzi could only bear to pay for it.
I didn't expect to calculate all the way, but I lost a lot of money here.
Not only did it annoy the servants, but they also made the onlookers see the joke.
The calculation is not excessive, and the day of the excess will be reaped.
The more calculating a person is, the easier it is to lose.
Li Shiheng of the Northern Song Dynasty sent an envoy to Goryeo, and the king of Goryeo sent him a lot of fine silk.
Li Shiheng handed things over to the deputy envoy to take care of.
When he returned to China, the deputy envoy put Li Shiheng's silk cushion under the cabin to waterproof it and put his own silk on it.
Who knew that there was a storm on the road, and in order to prevent the shipwreck, the sailors threw out most of the cargo in the cabin.
After the storm stopped, people found that all that was thrown away were the things of the deputy envoy, and Li Shiheng's things were still in the cabin.
After returning to China, the deputy envoy became the laughing stock of everyone, and finally resigned in shame.
Everything is fate, half a point is not up to man.
Many times, personal calculations are not worth mentioning under the destiny.
Instead of being preoccupied and calculating, making yourself a shrewd city servant and a small family, it is better to be open-minded and open up the pattern.
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- The smarter you are, the narrower the road.
There is a person named Wang Rong in the "New Language of the World", who has a lot of money in the family and calculates the property with his wife every day with ivory chips.
But he was very miserly.
He had a very good plum tree at home, and when it bore fruit, he wanted to sell it.
Afraid that others would get the seeds, he drilled the plum cores and sold them.
When the girlfriend got married, she borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from him and did not pay it back for a long time.
The daughter went home to save her relatives, and Wang Rong threw his face to his daughter, until the daughter returned the money, he had a good face.
Wang Rong's nephew wanted to get married, and Wang Rong only gave him a single piece of clothing, and after the marriage, he wanted to come back.
At that time, people thought he was stingy, and no one wanted to make friends with him.
Although he is very rich, his son and daughter are not close to him.
The ancients always said: To suffer a loss is a blessing.
Because everyone has a scale in their heart.
If you are generous to others, others will remember you; you will be stingy with others, and others will remember you.
Everywhere calculated, everywhere calculated, time has passed, friends will be gone.
When Jiangzhou stabbed Shi Weizhan in Xunyang, he had a confidant and old friend who defected to him, and he did not want to take him in, but he was hindered by his affection and inconvenient to talk about.
So he gave his friends a pound of herbs "The king does not stay in line".
As soon as the friends saw it, they knew what Wei Zhan meant, so they all left him.
After a long time, no friends came to the door.
The writer Wu Jun once said something like this:
"Some people are shrewd and not smart.
They know very well how to seek advantages and avoid harms, and they will not let go of any small profits.
It's hard for this type of person to talk to him about decent behavior, cooperation and win-win. ”
People who are always stingy and calculating are doomed to have no friends.
No one shares when they are happy, and no one helps when they are frustrated.
Such a person, the road is getting narrower and narrower, and in the end it is difficult to walk.
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- The highest state of shrewdness is thickness.
Zeng Guofan once said: "Shrewdness must be hidden in the thick." The ancients suffered from misfortune, the shrewd people lived in the ninth of ten, and there were no thick and evil people. The man of today is afraid of not being shrewd, so he is foolish. ”
Since ancient times, the more shrewd people are, the easier it is to invite misfortune, but the generous people have almost no misfortunes.
Nowadays, people are always afraid that they are not shrewd enough, which is the biggest stupidity.
After Sheng Yong, a native of Wuxi in the Ming Dynasty, resigned his official position and returned to his hometown, he saw his neighbor being imprisoned.
When he went forward to inquire, he learned that these people were all unable to repay the money they owed to their families.
Sheng Hao was ashamed in his heart and let them all go.
Then he told his disciples to take the account books and IOUs, burn them all in front of the people, and say to the people:
"I'm sorry guys, please don't blame me. Please tell the villagers that you will not urge it from now on. ”
The crowd dispersed in gratitude.
Since then, Sheng Hao has been known for his benevolence in his hometown and is loved by people.
Teacher Bao Pengshan said: "Shrewdness is actually a cognitive defect, and people who are too shrewd are actually mentally incomplete. ”
Everything is calculated very clearly, and no one will eat anything, and no one will be willing to play with you in the long run.
Learn to suffer losses, learn to make concessions, and only then can a person truly mature.
Sima Biao's Book of Continuation records one such story.
Cao Cao's great-grandfather, Cao Jie's neighbor, lost a pig, and the neighbor came to Cao Jie's house to find the pig.
Looking at the two pigs looking the same, he said that it was his pig.
Cao Jie did not argue with him, and gave the pig to the neighbor.
Later, the neighbor's pig was found, and the neighbor knew that he had made a mistake and apologized one after another.
Cao Jie only smiled and did not blame his neighbors.
Everyone praised Cao Jie for his kindness and generosity, and his reputation soon spread throughout the township.
Chinese often said: "Forge good relations."
People's hearts are long flesh, and if you treat others for three points, others will also give you three points back.
He who desires to stand up for himself, and he who wants to reach and attain.
Kindness is the best talisman in life, like a tree planted for yourself, sooner or later you can shield yourself from the wind and rain.
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The ancients said: Three points for fineness, three points for stupidity, and three points for children and grandchildren.
Today, you build bridges for others; one day, others will come to pave a wider road for you.
Source: Insights
Author: Insight Yimo
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