Today's opening chapter will first tell you one of the most unfortunate things I have encountered:
I remember that not long after I stepped into YZ University in YZ City, I was a freshman, and my friends who had gone to college should all know: freshman shopping, sophomore busy, junior and senior are very confused...
What do you mean?
That is to say, because I came to the freshman year, I was very curious about everything, especially for the city where the university was located, it was always full of a sense of freshness, and I wanted to "understand" it thoroughly, so the first year of college, which was not very heavy, was basically a city tourist, so it was called "shopping".
In the sophomore year, some people began to be busy with their studies, some people were busy finding objects, that is, "busy", and in the third year, the fourth year basically all the freshness was gone, coupled with the pressure of graduate school and employment, they felt very "confused".
Since the freshman year is "shopping", then "visit" well: the streets and alleys, the attractions in YZ City, anyway, as long as it does not cost money, or spend less money, basically I will not let go. (Since the living expenses were not very abundant at that time, it was only about three hundred yuan a month, so for me, I could only be a poor traveler in one city)
However, what I most want to go to is the SX Lake in YZ City, which is a national 5A-level scenic spot known as Xiaoxi Lake, full of scenic spots and historical sites, and the scenery is extremely beautiful, which can be said to be a national treasure scenic spot in YZ City.
However, the ticket is too expensive, one is fifty or sixty yuan, equivalent to one-third of my month's living expenses, reluctant ah...
For a tourist enthusiast, it was a kind of torture: I wanted to go and couldn't bear it...
At this moment, my roommate Xiaowan gave me an idea:
Wu Bin in Room 602 said that there was a broken wall in SX Lake, and last week, a bunch of buddies in their dormitory had slipped in from there, and they didn't spend a penny... If you really want to go, you can ask him..."
Naïve me, after hearing the words, did not think that this was an opportunistic idea, but woke up the person in my dream with one word: the bright can't work, then come to the dark... The living can't be forced to die by urine.
So I quickly found out from Wu Bin about the "secret passage" to SX Lake: the place that fell into disrepair and fell halfway through, and with a little effort, I could climb over the wall.
However, what I did not expect at all was that when I triumphantly climbed over the wall and was preparing to enjoy the beauty of SX Lake without spending a penny, a pair of large hands seemed to fall from the sky, like iron tongs to lock me down...
It is the security guard of the park, the original staff of SX Lake also found this loophole, these days are 24 hours a day to send people on duty...
Stealing chicken did not become a corrosion of rice, and in the end I not only paid for the entrance fee, but also was fined a hundred yuan... You say bad luck is not bad luck?
However, I also realized a truth from bad luck: people, you still can't be greedy and cheap... Greedy and cheap, will inevitably suffer big losses.
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Life in the world, it is impossible to go smoothly, let alone say that I am a stumbling caused by "bad intentions", even if I am a decent person who never does anything against my heart, when I encounter bad luck, it is normal, such as:
Xiao Zhang is smart and capable, originally going to get a raise, but was given a small report by someone, and the result was not only that the salary was not increased, but it was lowered by one level... Xiaoming missed his mouth on the wine table, resulting in the miscarriage of the project, and eventually saddled with a debt of 1 million yuan... Wait a minute......
I believe that the vast majority of people, after bad luck will always complain about the sky, sighing to themselves, such as me, because of that incident, the hand will soon be tight, because of their own "loss" and dare not ask the family for "support", and finally can only swallow the steamed bun plus boiled water to deal with for half a month, the quality of life has dropped sharply, not to say, my travel interest has also been beaten into the "cold palace", since then, until the university graduated, I have not gone to a scenic spot in YZ City, even if it is a classmate invitation, or a school organization, I also refused for various reasons... It seems that this is called being bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope ah...
In fact, bad luck is not terrible, what is terrible is how to get out in the shortest possible time after bad luck and get rid of this haze as soon as possible.
So, when people are unlucky, how to turn over and quickly "remove mold"?
The famous educator and master of traditional Chinese studies, Nan Huaijin, actually gave the answer long ago:
The more unlucky people are, the more they must pay attention to their own image, and they can do two things well...
What the hell is going on?
Listen to me give you a rip-off and see if it makes sense...
First, prevent villains
The reason why the villains are villains is because they are snobbish in appearance, just like when they were fined a third of the month's living expenses, I returned to the dormitory, slept in the dormitory for a whole day, until six o'clock in the evening, I casually put on a coat, wore a pair of slippers "untidy" and ran to the school canteen to eat dinner, and as a result, I was "recognized" by Xiao Li at the same table:
"Dude, what's wrong? Look at your decay, you must have encountered some unfortunate thing, right? ”
In the face of Xiao Li's proud look, I was so angry that I didn't say a word, and I went back to the dormitory with an empty basin and continued to sleep hungry.
What is even more infuriating is that Xiao Li did not know where to hear about my bad luck, and vigorously publicized it in the class, and as a result, he was used as a "negative teaching material" for a semester by some ill-intentioned people, which caused great harm to my heart.
Therefore, when people are unlucky, the first thing to guard against is the villain, how to prevent?
One of the most important points is to pay attention to their own image, that is, the crown, which is the so-called: words suppress the gentleman, the little man in the town of yiguan, which is the truth.
But make no mistake, the crown here does not refer to how expensive and fancy it is to wear, but to be neat, clean, and decent; the reason why you should pay attention to your own clothes is actually not to let your spirit be scattered because of "bad luck" to prevent villains from taking advantage of the void.
Second, meet nobles
Contrary to the villain, the appearance of the noble can often help the unfortunate you to reorganize the "majestic wind", and then quickly get out of the trough, just like when I became depressed because of the unfortunate thing, if it were not for the sincere enlightenment of the department head, I am afraid that I would sink like this.
"Look at you, what you have become now, all day long, depressed, frowning, and there is no little vitality that young people should have, isn't it a little setback, what is remarkable, who has not been unlucky, whose road will be smooth ..."
This was the first sentence that the head of the department enlightened me, and it was a countdown, and it didn't save me any face.
Yes, who has not been unlucky, whose road will be smooth, think of those great people, which one has not encountered setbacks, which one has not been ridiculed, which one has not been unlucky... Compared with them, what is my frustration?
The words of the head of the department were like fireworks burning in the darkness, and they instantly awakened my "fighting spirit":
"Professor, so, what should I do?"
"Starting from the image, how can a hat be uneven and the world be flat..."......
This is the second and final introductory sentence of the head of the department.
I nodded:
"Got it..."
Since then, I have begun to pay attention to the crown again, pay attention to the image...
And the truth is also as the head of the department predicted, after the image "reorganization", I smiled more, became more confident, such a sunny me, soon met the first noble person in my life: the director general of the student union A (that is, my later wife)... At a networking event organized by the school, my humor and sunny vigor quickly attracted her attention, and then, under her strong recommendation, I successfully entered the student union, and then, we fell in love, and I finally sat in the position of vice president of the student union...
Therefore, when people are unlucky, the first thing they think of is to meet noble people and get out of trouble through noble people...
People will meet many people in their lifetime, and any of them may become your nobleman, so always be prepared to meet your nobles, so that you can always be in a state of giving the best first impression to others, so it is likely that because the first impression is good, you will have a second chance.
Overall:
Respect the shirt first, then respect the people——
In fact, most of the world is like this, so the more frustrated, the more you can't lose your attitude, shave your head frequently, often shave your face, and a little bad luck does not show ...
Finally, it is important to remember a sentence: people can have bad luck, but they must not have bad luck.
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