The author | Dong Lin Fu
Is it better to let your child go to kindergarten at the age of 3 or to go to kindergarten at the age of 4? This has left many parents confused and anxious. Before my daughter went to kindergarten, I also went through such a stage of contradiction and anxiety.
Parents who advocate that their children go to kindergarten at the age of 3: With the flow, most children will go to kindergarten at the age of 3, and after the children enter the kindergarten, parents will be more relaxed, so that children can go to kindergartens and live a collective life with teachers and classmates, which will help children grow better.
Parents who advocate that their children go to kindergarten at the age of 4: they are afraid that their children will not adapt to kindergarten, they are afraid that their children will not eat well, they will not sleep well, they will be bullied, they will be afraid that their children will be on fire, and they will be afraid that their children will love to be sick when they go to kindergarten.
When my daughter entered the kindergarten, I was also anxious for a long time, all kinds of worries and did not dare to let go, and then my mother-in-law's good friend, Aunt Wang, the director of a well-known kindergarten, talked to me several times before slowly untying my heart knot.
Aunt Wang said to me: "It does not matter how old a child is in kindergarten, what is important is the child's psychological age." That is to say, if the child is more mature in mind at the age of 2 and a half, has strong language expression ability, has a certain ability to take care of himself in life, and has a certain degree of independence, it will be no problem to go to kindergarten.
On the other hand, even if the child is 4 years old, the child's self-care ability is poor, there is no good living habits, too dependent on parents, poor language expression ability, and it is also unsuitable to kindergarten. ”
Thinking about it now, Aunt Wang really made a lot of sense.
Aunt Wang also told me that parents are not anxious and worried, it is better to grasp the ability to cultivate children from the following 3 aspects, and the iron needs to be hard, and the anxiety of parents often comes from the lack of confidence in their children's ability.
1. Cultivate children's strong heart and ability to get along with others.
Children with strong hearts and high emotional intelligence are more reassuring and worry-free for parents.
In terms of cultivating children's reverse quotient and emotional intelligence, in addition to parents' daily words and deeds, it is also a good way to tell children what to do when they encounter various problems through small examples in picture book stories.
Aunt Wang told me that her granddaughter Rainbow entered the kindergarten at the age of 2 and a half, and Rainbow lived happily in kindergarten, thanks to Aunt Wang's preparation for Rainbow in advance.
Aunt Wang said that Since She was less than 2 years old, she would read Tohbao half an hour's "Little Story of Bedtime Enlightenment for 2- to 6-year-old Babies" every night, which was very good for children's kindergarten education.
"2 to 6-year-old baby bedtime enlightenment short story" is divided into emotional intelligence management, emotional control, behavior training and self-protection 4 major themes, children in the process of listening to the story, can learn to deal with the world, solve the problem.
Like "Don't worry, take your time", "Do your own thing", "Good boy knows humility", "Don't lose his temper", "Piglet who loves to compare", "Kitty learns to fly", "Good boy, knows politeness", "I don't cry", "I'll try", "Honest child", "It's not good to cut in line", "Sorry, I'm wrong", "Tall and short", "Arrogant little peacock", "Hey, hello", "Precious friendship", "Sharing happier", "Wayward piglet", "Good boy has love", "I can do it", "I send you home", "Next time I will work harder", etc., Through the various contradictions encountered by various small animals, to tell children what to do when things happen, what kind of ideas are correct, and what kind of ideas are wrong.
Children from 2 to 6 years old are developing rapidly, curiosity is strong, receptive ability is good, the personality of children in this age group is like "wet cement", very malleable, so children in this age group are also called "wet cement period".
Parents cultivate their children's personality and behavior at the age of their children's "wet cement period", which is more effective with half the effort and is easy to produce results.
If the child is over 6 years old, especially in adolescence, it is too difficult to change the child's personality and values.
Therefore, parents should seize the opportunity to use this set of personalities to cultivate bedtime story picture books and cultivate children's strong hearts and good personalities.
2. Teach children basic life skills and develop good living habits.
Children in kindergarten self-care ability is strong, good living habits, naturally adapt to fast.
On the contrary, if the child's basic life self-care ability in the kindergarten is not available, everything must rely on the teacher, and there are many kindergarten children, the teacher cannot take care of each child one-on-one, and the child definitely does not like to go to the kindergarten.
Aunt Wang told me that some life skills, such as washing faces, brushing teeth, dressing, eating, going to the toilet, etc., if parents directly teach their children, after a few times, the children may be impatient, and they will not want to learn.
But if you use picture book stories to teach children, with a variety of children's favorite small animals as examples, children are very willing to learn.
Many of the "Little Stories of Bedtime Enlightenment for 2- to 6-Year-Old Babies" are small stories that develop children's life skills and habits.
For example, "Wetting the bed", "Getting Dressed", "Pulling Rice", "Washing Clean with Small Hands", "Brushing Teeth", "Don't Be Dirty Dolls", "Don't Be Cowards", "Don't Feed Your Mother", "Go to Bed Early and Get Up Early", "Sleep", "Do Your Own Thing", "Take a Bath" and other small stories, teach children good life concepts and good living habits with interesting little stories, cute little animals are good examples for children, and children will naturally imitate them.
Good living habits will accompany the child throughout their lives, benefiting the child for life.
Exercise the child's hands-on ability, but also conducive to the development of the child's brain, the mind of the hand has always been our pursuit, let the child do their own things, more hands, more brain, the child will become more and more intelligent.
Children have good living habits, familiar with basic life skills, to kindergarten parents no longer have to worry about children eating badly, sleeping well, will not go to the toilet by themselves.
3. Cultivate children's good language expression skills.
Children have strong language expression skills, and they will not suffer losses wherever they go.
A child who can express anything very clearly is definitely superior to a child who cannot communicate.
In the community, Yueyue was very uncomfortable at the beginning of kindergarten, and listened to Yueyue's mother say that it was because Yueyue's language expression ability was too poor.
Hungry, cold, want to go to the toilet, or have a conflict with children, Yue Yue will not tell the teacher, forced to be anxious Yue Yue will just cry, Yue Yue's mother is so distressed that she can't do it, and she went through the withdrawal procedures after a few days of kindergarten.
Aunt Wang told me that when telling children about the "2 to 6-year-old baby bedtime enlightenment small story", we should pay attention to the first few times to parents to tell, children listen, after speaking a few times, let the children look at the pictures, speak themselves, no matter whether the child is wonderful or not, parents must encourage the child, so that exercise the child, the child's language expression ability and communication ability will become stronger and stronger.
Whether it is after the mother tells the story or after the baby tells the story, the mother can ask the baby questions according to the story, and in a question and answer, the baby's language organization ability and expression ability will gradually become stronger and stronger.
This set of bedtime story language is very beautiful, but also conducive to children's mastery of written language, for children to go to primary school writing essays also laid a certain foundation.
In addition, this set of bedtime stories is large and has pinyin, and after the child reads it repeatedly, he will slowly increase his literacy.
After listening to Aunt Wang's introduction, I resolutely bought a set of "2 to 6-year-old babies bedtime enlightenment small stories", my daughter really liked it, reading bedtime stories every night became a habit, and I didn't read bedtime stories for a day, my daughter didn't agree.
This set of bedtime stories is based on the cognitive characteristics of 2 to 6-year-old children, the length of the story is moderate, and the size of the picture book is suitable for children to grasp, which is deeply loved by children.
The characteristics of children are tireless in reading stories, like to read repeatedly, in this repetition, not only enhance the child's memory, exercise the child's brain and language expression, but also let the child learn the way to deal with the world and life skills and habits, in one fell swoop.
This set of bedtime stories helped me a lot, my daughter entered kindergarten everything went well, life self-care ability and ability to deal with interpersonal relationships are very strong, a week after entering the kindergarten I completely relaxed my mind, no longer need to worry.
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