"National First Love" Dong Jie: Shooting a wedding dress with a 10-year-old son has attracted heated discussions, and the morbid mother's love is lamentable?

Deformed maternal love is hotly discussed

Pay attention to it, the picture of this skillfully holding up the face of the mother, bluntly saying that the baby is obedient, the father loves your child, is Dong Jie's 7-year-old son top.

Dong Jie

Imagine, a 7-year-old child should be spoiled in the arms of his parents, why is the top like an adult coaxing his mother?

Dong Jie

The reason points to Dong Jie's suffocating maternal love, when Dong Jie took her son to the restaurant to eat, and Dong Jie looked at her son at the dinner table.

Dong Jie

The first time is to fantasize about the picture of living in a big house with two children in the future, as well as their own life ideals.

It is not so much parent-child time as more like dating, but it is only Dong Jie's unilateral idea.

Dong Jie

Just when Dong Jie shattered his thoughts, Dingding was already attracted to the world outside the window and was eager to find his peers to play.

Anyone with children knows that it is normal for children to play greedily, but Dong Jie does not think so.

Seeing that the child's mind was not on herself, she actually unexpectedly wiped away tears in front of the camera, and there was a scene of opening her head to coax her.

It wasn't until Dingding gave up the opportunity to play with his peers and hugged Dong Jie to call herself a father, that Dong Jie, a 36-year-old middle-aged girl, stopped her tears.

Dong Jie

If you say it's just because her son is upset with her mother, then I tell you, her son himself didn't accept it all willingly.

Dong Jie

For example, Dong Jie bluntly said that she would kiss her son a hundred times a day, and even the way to get her son up was to kiss him.

Dong Jie

The intolerable top said a disgusting death, it was such a big truth, Dong Jie's glass heart was broken again.

Dong Jie

It wasn't until the top of her arm was coaxed for a while that she regained her smile and, more damningly, kissed her son mouth-to-mouth.

Dong Jie

For Dong Jie, it is already a common thing, and the health problems are all afterwords, you know, the child has a gender consciousness since the age of three.

Dong Jie

Therefore, Dong Jie's education without a sense of proportion is not conducive to the cultivation of children's gender awareness, but she herself does not seem to care, and even enjoys it.

Why is it that the way Dong Jie and her son get along is more and more difficult to understand?

Dong Jie

I think there are two reasons: First, Dong Jie regards the child as a sustenance for love.

Dong Jie

After being a single mother for many years, in order to satisfy her girlish heart, Dong Jie pulled her son to take wedding photos and let her son propose to herself.

Seeing this, have you ever remembered that when you were a child, you said to your mother that you wanted to marry your mother in the future, but your mother told you that you could not marry your mother.

Dong Jie

You will meet the girl you like, but Dong Jie does not.

Dong Jie

At one point, he threatened to show him this wedding photo when he got married at the top, and to compare beauty with his daughter-in-law.

Dong Jie

What is it to start demonstrating with a future daughter-in-law when the child is 7 years old?

Dong Jie

And this second reason points to what Dong Jie did to the child.

Dong Jie

Impose your will on your son

Dong Jie just took the child to a pet store, and let her 7-year-old son learn what is called hidden forbearance.

This suffocating scene occurred in a variety show with a baby in 2016, when Dong Jie took her son to the top of the pet store.

The long-thinking Top said with joy that he wanted a small dog, because top was very afraid of large dogs.

For such a simple request from her son, Dong Jie could not sit still and bitterly persuaded her son to buy a golden retriever.

Dong Jie's son

The reason is because the golden retriever is large and can protect the child, whether this is buying a pet for the child or buying it for himself.

Obviously, he bought it for himself, because Dong Jie himself liked the Golden Retriever.

Dong Jie

So even if her son liked the little white dog, she still insisted on instilling her ideas into her son.

In the end, the son agreed to the old mother's request with a lonely face and brought home a golden retriever, but the top could not stand it, and he was still a 7-year-old child.

Dong Jie

So not long after taking the Golden Retriever away, he began to lose patience.

But Dong Jie only saw the three-minute heat of his son's pet, but ignored that it was not the pet his son wanted.

The reason why Dingding endured the pain of giving up his beloved puppy was only because of an unconditional compromise with his mother.

Dong Jie

And all this also verifies why Dingding said that sentence to Grandpa at the dinner table.

Dong Jie

At that time, Dong Jie accompanied the children and parents to eat at home, and at the dinner table, everyone unanimously persuaded grandpa, who liked to drink a little wine, to quit drinking.

Dong Jie

Dingding also echoed alongside, so far, everything is normal, but Dingding's next words make people wonder what the child has experienced?

Dong Jie

In the face of the excuse that Grandpa made for himself, Dingding actually said bluntly that you can't bear it?

A 7-year-old child says to a 60-year-old man why The top should have a maturity that should not be at this age.

I think everything points to Dong Jie's attitude towards her son, which is comparable to Chuan's changing face, such as she will lie in front of her children for comfort, and bluntly say that she is in love.

For example, because of some unworthy mistakes, she will threaten not to let the child eat, one second to return the mother's kindness and filial piety, the next second to raise an eyebrow.

Dong Jie

The top of the trembling life for 7 years, even if you don't want to endure, you have to endure, perhaps because of the misfortune of marriage, so Dong Jie poured all her feelings into her son.

Dong Jie

It's just that she never asked her children if they were willing, let alone whether her ex-husband Pan Yueming was willing or not.

Pan Yueming

Divorced for 7 years, Pan Yueming was not allowed to see his son

Pan Yueming has not seen his children for 7 years because of his work relationship, don't misunderstand, this is not what I said, but his own son.

Pan Yueming

In 2016, Dong Jie took her son to the top of the taekwondo class.

Dong Jie

Perhaps in order to stir up the heat of the program group, the coach actually asked Dingding why other children were accompanied by their fathers to participate in the training.

Dong Jie

And you are accompanied by your mother, and the always well-behaved top is overwhelmed, bluntly saying that it is because his father wants to work.

Dong Jie

So he has not been able to come to see him, only his mother and grandmother and grandfather are taking care of him at home, and a word at the top will make his father Pan Yueming fall into the target of everyone.

Divorced for many years without regard to children, is Pan Yueming really so desperate?

Pan Yueming

Whether Pan Yueming went to see the child, we have no way of knowing, but it is certain that Pan Yueming is helpless every time he talks about his son.

Unlike Dong Jie, who showed up with her children, Pan Yueming was almost reluctant to talk about her son's top in public.

Pan Yueming

He bluntly said that his words and deeds are likely to become a weapon for the outside world to hurt his son...

Pan Yueming

Until one time when Pan Yueming was mentioned by other guests on the show, his eyes were red in an instant, and he didn't say a word, so he turned his back to wipe his tears.

Pan Yueming

A big man wept in public because others casually said it, who has the right to say that Pan Yueming does not want to see children?

Pan Yueming

In fact, from Pan Yueming every year on Weibo to pinch the point to celebrate his son's birthday, bluntly said that if you can exchange your happiness for a lifetime, I would rather suffer for a lifetime.

I know that it is not so much that he does not want to see the child, but that he cannot see it, and that as the top of the son, he also misses the father.

During the date that Dingding accompanied her mother Dong Jie, Dingding was scratching her mobile phone the whole time.

And the picture on his mobile phone is not a cartoon or a small game, but the news of his father Pan Yueming.

Obviously, it is a father-son relationship that runs in both directions, but it can only piece together news about each other in the media, I think it is only because of Dong Jie's wishful thinking.

In the face of media questions, Dingding will ask about his father, Dong Jie said without pain, there is no way, because this is reality, I want to accept reality, and Dingding also has to accept it.

Dong Jie

Why force a young child to accept the reality of not seeing his father?

I think it's because Dong Jie grew up in a happy and happy family, and she would never know how much a child from a single-parent family craves complete love.

Dong Jie

In any case, in terms of appeasing the child's soul, I am more in favor of Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang's approach.

Although the trigger for the divorce between the two was some things that were not very on the table, after the divorce, Jia Nailiang not only gave up custody to Li Xiaolu, who was better at taking care of children.

Li Xiaolu

Even every three to five years will go to the ex-wife's house to accompany the children, which is why the husband and wife divorced, but also can raise such a radiant sweet.

Although the way of education is different for each family, it is certain that the relationship between parents has an irreplaceable effect on the development of children's personality.