Dabao was bullied 3 times, and the second-born mother summed up 3 points of experience
Parents do this and no one dares to bully their children
It is very common for children to be bullied, especially after school. So when a child tells you, "I've been bullied," what should parents do to keep their children from being bullied? Not long ago with a two-child mother to talk about this topic, this mother is very sincere according to her family treasure was bullied experience, gave me 3 points of advice, here, I also share it with you, I hope that our children will become free from bullying.
According to the mother of the second child, her family dabao suffered 3 times of bullying when she was a child. The first time was when the child first entered school, when the child came home from school every day, he was very unhappy, and every day he said that he was bullied at school, but at that time, the mother did not care, but comforted the child that at your age, it is normal for everyone to play and play together, don't be too sensitive. As a result, the son did not say anything more.
However, after a while, the son told her that the child who bullied him was getting more and more excessive, not only often looking for his son's stubble after class, but also often bullying his son during class, so that the child could not listen to the class normally. So the mother told her son that if this was the case, you should tell the teacher about his behavior and let the teacher help educate him. The son was very obedient, and the next day he reacted to the situation to the teacher, and the teacher also criticized the classmate fiercely.
I thought that the matter was solved, but a few days later the child began to bully his son again, this time the son did not look for his mother, but directly went to the teacher to complain, but the teacher was very impatient, let the son be careful. Helpless children, can only go home to their mother to complain, so the mother gave her son an idea, told her son that the next time he bullied you, you will fight back, but the son is timid by nature, and he does not have the courage to fight back, and finally can only endure silently, fortunately, at that time they bought a new house, and the son quickly transferred.
After arriving at the new school, the son was very happy and gradually became more cheerful, but in the second semester of the second grade, the son was bullied again. One day, the mother went to school to pick up her son, and when they met, they saw that their son's nose was covered with blood, so the mother asked her son if he had been bullied. As a result, the son cried very aggrievedly and told his mother that when he was out of school today, he forgot to bring the kettle, so he quickly ran back to get it, did not think, ran too fast, he knocked a classmate in the next class, he quickly said sorry, but did not expect the other party to directly hit him, so he also began to fight back, but the classmate was much stronger than him, so the son finally suffered a loss.
Listening to her son's words, the mother had the heart to find the teacher and the other parent's theory, but after thinking about it, she felt that after all, her own child bumped into someone first, so she told the child not to be so impulsive next time, so as not to suffer losses.
In the days that followed, the son was finally safe, and he often went home to tell his mother that someone in the class had given him a nickname, and his mother felt that this was a child's joke, so she didn't care. However, I did not expect that in the 5th grade, my son fought with my classmates because of this "nickname", the reason was that when the classmate shouted the nickname, his attitude was teasing, so that his son felt insulted, so the son could not bear to punch the other party a few fists. In the end, the classmate was not criticized, but the son was severely criticized by the teacher, so the son was very aggrieved and hid in his bedroom and cried as soon as he came home.
It was also this experience that made the mother begin to reflect on herself and realize that every time her son was bullied, her response was lacking, neither firmly protecting the child, nor telling the child how to face bullying. So she summarized 3 suggestions, and parents looked at them
Be practical in helping your child
When the child is bullied, parents should not always let the child go to the teacher to complain or let the child fight back by himself, but firmly stand on the side of the child, pay attention to it, actually help the child, communicate with the teacher, communicate with the other parent, let others know that you attach great importance to the child's bullying, so that the child will have a more secure and confident feeling, and others will also attach importance to the child because of your attitude.
Don't look at your child for a problem
Many parents like to find problems from their children when their children are bullied, thinking that their children are too sensitive, not easy to get along with, or simply scold their children for not showing up. This leads to children becoming more and more timid and cowardly when they are bullied, dare not resist, and finally leave a shadow on their physical and mental development.
Cultivate children's sense of self-protection from an early age and teach children to deal with problems correctly
Many times, at the beginning of being bullied, it is difficult for children to realize that they have been bullied, and as a result, when he reacts, the other party has become unscrupulous. Just like the mother's son, at first he was called a nickname, a big grin, and as a result, the children around him became more and more excessive, and finally began to insult him with nicknames. In the final analysis, this is the lack of self-protection awareness of children and the lack of ability to distinguish between "bullying".
As a parent, if you want your child to be completely free from bullying, you must cultivate your child's sense of self-protection from an early age, let your child understand bullying, and learn to deal with bullying. Here, Miao Miao sister recommends that you use this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Enlightenment Education Picture Book". This set of books is rich in content and has a clear theme, which can help children to suggest anti-bullying awareness and let children learn to protect themselves correctly.
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