The 11th issue of Reader magazine in 2022 is coming soon! When you are intoxicated, the world is not imminent. May you find the ideal world in reading, through the glitz, and always have a firm heart.
Success Anxiety Disorder
The full text was published in The Reader Magazine, Issue 11, 2022
Text / Yang Wurui Photo / Wang Yuan
Most modern people suffer from success anxiety, and at the same time, the imagination of success is extremely lacking. It is common to imitate a limited number of successes: body, love, wealth, power. People are not only worried that they are not successful enough, but also worry about not being able to succeed in the way the public accepts. There is nothing wrong with success in these worldly senses, but if you can only imagine these things, society can become a monster full of coercion and oppression. Everyone will be coerced, and they will turn around and coerce others.
After middle age, Confucius traveled around the world and ran into walls everywhere. The way is not allowed, and he retreats to write a book, and he will never write to get a book. By all the single earthly standards, he was a loser. If you want to promote political ideas, you must hold political power. He was not without a chance to be in power, but he always stubbornly ruined opportunities. From this point of view, his life is a life of constantly missing opportunities. Mencius, however, said that Confucius was "the One of the Holy Time." Mencius believed that Confucius was the most opportunistic among the sages.
A person who can only imagine success will not understand Mencius's evaluation of Confucius. A society that can only accept success will not respect the efforts of Confucius. For individuals and societies who can only imagine success, invisible success is not success; if you can't change the world, you don't deserve the respect of this world. For Confucius, it was good to let the world change. What he is responsible for is not this world, but the Way of Heaven. In Mencius's view, Confucius made the dedication to the Heavenly Dao, so he was the "Holy Timer" .
The Gardener's Imagination
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For an amateur gardener who only regards the garden as a hobby, the beginning and end of the year, winter and summer are all times of thinking.
At the time of the summer solstice, everything in nature thrives, and the news that the heat of the sun is about to change is overwhelmed by the feast of flowers brought by the middle of summer.
After the winter solstice, the sun heats up. Every hour we get closer to that day: without any warning, after many false beginnings, everyone has an unspeakable feeling that spring has come.
For an old gardener, the winter solstice meant not only the anticipation of the arrival of joy, but also a nodule on a fast-growing branch, reminding himself that I was just like an ordinary plant in a garden.
At the end of the year, the first thing that comes to mind of a young gardener, old and young, must be gratitude: he can live to this day, to see such an amazing year coming to an end, and such a time is still unforgettable after the death of those who have experienced it.
Gardeners often complain about the frost in May, the wetness of winter, and everything else we see as abnormal weather, but no enlightened person thinks that the final result of good and bad weather is balanced.
"About The Mouth Without Saying Anything"
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Sentence / [Sun] Hinohara Shigeaki 译 / Gankan Tsubasa / unsplash
To this day, I still often have this kind of non-verbal situation, and the fact that such impersonal things happen every day also makes me constantly reflect. Behave appropriately, be grateful, speak attentively... We can't do this when we're cold and hard inside.
In fact, when getting along with people close to us, we can't question each other's behavior and attitude, but we must reflect more on whether we have a warm and soft heart. They are not soft inside, say hurtful things, and find reasons from each other's attitudes, which will only make the relationship between them more tense.
Whenever you feel that your relationship with the other party is getting cold, first consider whether it is your own reason, so as to improve it. In this way, even if sometimes our beloved person speaks with a prickly voice and loses his temper, we can feel that he is funny from the bottom of our hearts.
In this way, you will become a person who treats people with sincerity and kindness. Therefore, if you want to suppress your reckless impulse to "say whatever you want", you must first start with a warm and soft heart.
"Late Bloom"
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Last year in late autumn, passing by a begonia forest. A few bunches of weeping begonias, the first blooming in the wind. An interesting thing happened, a tree of begonias, both spring flowers, begonia fruits, and autumn flowers.
The old fruit and new flowers actually crashed into the same branch, like a pair of children, waiting for the spring and summer, and finally spoke. This scene makes people can't help but think about it.
So I took a photo and left a line of small print: Mordaunt mulberry yu evening, begonias also bloom in autumn.
Another autumn day, it's the season to see the leaves fall and dye the forest. No, walking in the white plum garden, but accidentally encountered a few white plums in bloom, only a few. Ling Han bloomed alone, and the plum blossoms were going to bloom in the bitter cold. Winter plum blossoms in autumn, it is too eager.
A garden of depression, a few white plums with confused footsteps, or people are happy. Take a picture and save the picture, note: a thousand mountain birds flying, surprised to meet a lonely hong.
Playing cards without the season is not plant willfulness. Naturally, there is always a reason to follow. You will find that the original flower blossoms and blossoms, not completely referred to time and season, temperature, humidity, light, these conditions required for plant growth, the growth law of life, is the real dependence.
Knowing this, you will wake up: Zi Yanhong, that is a good spring; if the grain is poor, it is a bad summer. The wind and rain are smooth, there is cultivation and hard work, everything is ready, and there is a harvest. The same is true of life. If you have more than enough responsibilities, you will thrive; if you work hard, you can also achieve late.
"Each Other"
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My mother braved the rain to buy vegetables, and it took half a day to return. A basket of fruits and vegetables, there is a half basket of "crooked melon crack dates", and the vegetables are not tender enough. It rained for days, and the vendors at the vegetable stalls struggled to support it, and my father naturally knew it. He took his mother's basket and said, "Yo! Today's dish is not particularly fresh. Yes, my father did not say, "The vegetables you bought are not fresh!" ”
My father added a washing machine to the house, and my mother always used it. She knows her father's kindness, but she still can't help but complain: "This brand of washing machine is really not easy to use!" Yes, even though the washing machine was difficult to satisfy, she did not say, "The washing machine you bought is not good!" ”
For the grandparents, maternal grandparents, they also have a surprising tacit understanding, all "our father" and "our mother"; for me, it is "our daughter" how. If you are already in the same boat, you don't have to be you, I am me, you have to think clearly.
Father's tea addiction is extremely heavy, a pot of several bubbles, a few pots a day. After dinner, brew a pot of strong tea to cool off the night. My mother repeatedly advised: "Before going to bed, you must remember to pour out the tea leaves in the pot, otherwise it will grow tea dirt!" The father agreed, but not once did what he said. In the morning, my mother cleaned the teapot and had to work hard to brush the tea scale, and for the father who "did not change his teaching", he could not help but drop it several times: "Why didn't last night's tea fall?" Subtlely, she rarely summed up: "You, the person, just can't listen to other people's words!" ”
"Always", "always", "forever", "not at all"... These words are too absolute to be "heavy on the amount of missing". Above the angry head, it is more important to speak carefully, there are light and heavy.
Life is a family lesson and cannot be cut. Triviality and happiness are also common, and attribution or attribution is not only meaningless, but also increases the gap. Get along day and night, take each other's strengths, and even more tolerate each other's weaknesses.
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