Recently, Taiwan media reported that Selina, a famous singer and member of S.H.E., and her boyfriend said that they would not get married.
If the boyfriend proposes, he will agree, but he will not register.
She said that her feelings do not need to be secured by a piece of paper, and two people do not need anything to bind together.
Selina and her current boyfriend were officially announced in March this year, when the two had been in love for half a year.
The boyfriend is 7 years younger than her, and traditionally, the sister-brother relationship is relatively less stable.
But the two men still came together resolutely.
Selina also has a condition when choosing a boyfriend, that is, she does not care about her appearance.
Once she was still a young and beautiful woman, active on various stages.
But 12 years ago, Selina had an accident while filming and was severely burned.
With burns as high as 54%, Selina, who had been closed at the ghost door, slowly grew into a new her.
She became stronger, braver, and lived more transparently.
Selina also experienced a failed marriage before meeting her current boyfriend.
But the boyfriend didn't mind her former marriage or her skin graft after burns.
He said Selina's scars were like the scales of a mermaid, and she herself was like a mermaid with legs.
Selina's parents were reluctant for their daughter to have a younger boyfriend.
But over time, the parents gradually changed their minds about their daughter's boyfriend and thanked him for taking care of his daughter.
The relationship was also recognized by the parents.
Selina, now 41, has already seen through life.
Whether she is married or not, whether she has children or not, will not affect her enjoyment of her own happiness.
01.
Selina, whose real name is Ren Jiaxuan, was born in 1981 in Taipei, Taiwan Province of China.
Her parents have been very fond of her since she was a child.
She herself once said: "I am a little princess who is loved by thousands of people." ”
Her father, Ren Mingting, graduated from Zhongxing University and was a full-fledged intellectual.
Later, he served as the host of The Dongfeng Satellite TV program in Taiwan.
Selina also has a younger sister named Ren Rongxuan, who is seven years apart.
The older sister Selina grew up in a privileged family and developed a lively and outgoing personality.
After graduating from primary school, she was admitted to the best girls' high school in Taiwan.
In secondary school, the grades have always been among the best.
In 2000, when her sister Ren Rongxuan was 13 years old, she had always loved singing and had a dream of becoming a singer.
So she signed up for the singing competition "Universe 2000 Strength Beautiful Girl Battle" co-organized by Universe Records and China Television.
But she was too young to compete.
So in order to fulfill her sister's dream, her sister Selina still went to the scene of the game.
It was in this game that the members of S.H.E met and made their debut in combination afterwards.
They are Ren Jiaxuan (Selina), Tian Fuzhen (Hebe), Chen Jiahua (Ella).
All three competed for a simple purpose, selina for her sister.
Both Hebe and Ella are for the final ten thousand dollar prize.
A total of six people participated in the final, and all three of them reached the end.
After that, Ella was eliminated, and Hebe, despite the mistake of forgetting words, still advanced once.
But in the end, Selina came to the end and won the championship.
02.
Record companies hold competitions with the purpose of launching some singers.
But under consideration, they think it is better to debut in combination.
So a total of 8 contestants, including finalists, were invited to audition.
After discussion, three people were finally left to make their debut in a group, and S.H.E was born.
The three girls, who were not very old, went home to discuss each other.
With permission from their families, they returned to the company and formally formed a group.
Among them, Selina has received strong support from her sister, who also said that her sister has realized her dream for herself.
The company found dormitories for them, lived together and received professional training.
In September 2001, S.H.E released the group's first album, Girls' Dormitory.
Among them, the title song "Lovers Are Not Enough" is their debut work.
The album sold 160,000 copies in Taiwan and about 750,000 copies in Asia, and S.H.E has received great recognition from the outside world since its debut.
At the 13th Taiwan Golden Melody Awards, he was nominated for the Best Newcomer Award for this album.
After that, S.H.E was even more out of control, and once became the first women's group in China.
Their glory lasted only until 2010.
In March of that year, the twelfth album "SHERO" since its debut was released.
At the same time, it was announced that the three members will start flying alone in the second half of the year.
The record label says Hebe is about to release a long-simmering solo album.
Ella and Selina, on the other hand, are likely to move towards movies and TV series or hosting.
However, S.H.E has always said that they flew alone but never disbanded, which is a reassuring pill for fans.
But this decision to transform and develop completely changed Selina's life.
03.
In June 2010, Selina signed up for China Television's "I Guess I Guess I Guess" show and became a host.
In addition to hosting work, she also took over the new drama "Love in Spring" of Hunan Satellite TV.
Everything, in the filming of this play, was wiped out.
During filming, there was a scene where Selina escaped from a fire in a blast.
The director began filming in preparation for the countdown: "Five, four, three, two, one..."
Before he could finish speaking, the filming site suddenly lost control, and a huge explosion suddenly came from Behind Selina.
Then a very large force threw Selina out.
Although she fell on the mat, her body had been ignited by fire, and her stockings were instantly melted by the heat.
After that, Selina struggled desperately, and the on-site staff quickly found a fire extinguisher.
The fire was eventually extinguished, but Selina was already badly burned.
Her body area burned to 54%, of which nearly 80% were third-degree burns, which were very serious.
Selina was taken to the nearest Matsue hospital, where her socks were burned and her shoes had long since been taken off.
In the hospital, she walked barefoot into the toilet, using water to constantly cool herself.
Later, when the hospital ambulance arrived, she was already very weak.
She asked the driver how long it would take to arrive?
The driver's eldest brother said that it was traffic jam time, and Selina could never forget what the driver said, "An hour and forty minutes." ”
You can't walk, you can't eat hard food, and you can't even move at will.
The star that shone on the stage collapsed because of this accident.
04.
In order to be able to recover, the doctor recommends grafting the scalp.
So Selina cut off all her beautiful long hair.
More conical than surgery is postoperative debridement.
After scarring, the dressing should be cut off, shock, infection, and even the possibility of organ failure.
Selina's dad burst into tears every time he talks about the painful process of his daughter's debridement, but he says with great pride:
"Her strength surprised us!"
During her hospitalization, Selina was shocked and fainted uncountably, but in the end, she woke up with tears of blood and tears.
Later, in "The Lecture Begins," Selina recounted her experience, saying:
"You must not be able to imagine how timid I am, I am afraid of insects, all kinds of insects are afraid, I am afraid of the dark, I am afraid of ghosts, and most importantly, I am very afraid of pain." 」
She was obviously scared to death, but she still faced the hellish test.
After 90 days in the hospital, she was finally discharged.
On January 19, 2011, after barely being able to act, Selina held a press conference for the first time.
Generously showed with a small flat head, without the slightest concealment.
But three months was just a time she barely managed to move.
In order to regain her health, Selina insisted on it for three years.
She said: "What I want to thank most, besides my father, is Ah Zhong, my life, I think he also saved it." ”
Ah Zhong is Zhang Chengzhong, Selina's lover at the time and her former husband.
05.
In 2007, Selina and Zhang Chengzhong met.
Zhang Chengzhong is 9 years older than her and has studied abroad.
So he is very mature and stable, and he has shown his knowledge in front of Selina.
In this way, Selina and Zhang Chengzhong fell in love.
In May 2010, at the "S.H.E Love for One" world tour, Zhang Chengzhong boldly confessed.
Selina was moved to tears.
On September 12, the two people, who had been in love for three years, got engaged in a low-key manner.
Just before that tragedy, Selina had sent a text message to Mr. Zhang.
She was very afraid of this explosion scene, but in the most frightening moment, the person she was still thinking about must be the person she really loved.
In October 2011, Selina and Zhang Chengzhong had a wedding in Taipei.
Zhang Chengzhong's inseparability made Selina moved.
The moment he held her hand, Selina thought that this man must be the one who would be with her for the rest of her life.
Unexpectedly, the wedding that moved Selina also became her painful memory.
Married life did not have the happiness Selina expected.
She had to bear everything in the house, even if her injuries weren't quite healed.
In public, Zhang Chengzhong also said that he had felt disgusted by photos of his wife's burns.
Is this still the sweet lover who "never abandoned" after Selina's burns?
Could it be that the reason he married Selina was not that he really loved her?
Selina ran a marathon to get out of the shadow of her former burns after her body finally recovered.
But just as she was about to reach the finish line, she was exhausted.
Crossing the finish line, Selina opened her arms in hope for her husband's hug.
Zhang Chengzhong just said coldly, "You don't hug me." ”
Later, Selina forcibly explained that because there were many people at that time, Zhang Chengzhong was very shy.
But her explanation could not deceive herself, in that desperate need to hug, if he really loved himself, how could he refuse?
06.
The most ridiculous thing is that Zhang Chengzhong wrote about Selina's rehabilitation into a book.
Her pain, and even many details unknown to outsiders, were run by Zhang Chengzhong as a business.
The scars in Selina's heart were directly exposed in front of people, and she didn't care about her feelings.
Moreover, Zhang Chengzhong has been photographed more than once with other women, and it is common for him not to return at night.
In 2016, Selina gave up on the man completely and chose to divorce him.
Selina found herself after the divorce and was not as decadent as she thought.
What does a girl who has been kissed by death get divorced?
Selina remains positive after the divorce.
Reunite with S.H.E's sisters and go on a variety show with their own sister.
"Go on vacation with your family in a pompous way".
In March 2022, Selina was photographed going out with her boyfriend holding hands.
After that, he generously admitted, "My spring is also coming." ”
At this time, the two have been together for more than half a year.
When Selina worked last year, the other party often went to visit the class, and the two were already a little ambiguous.
But Selina also turned it down because he was 7 years younger.
However, on a trip, he actually directly confessed "Sister I like you!" ”
Selina thought it was a joke and even told the whole table directly to her friends, "He said he liked me alas." ”
At that time, Selina only felt a little ridiculous, only thought that he was a younger brother, and took his confession in her heart, but had no idea of further development.
But under the man's continuous pursuit, Selina was finally moved and decided to give herself another chance to fall in love.
When Selina returned to Taiwan to record the variety show "Classmates Are Coming", she exposed the details of getting along with her boyfriend who was 7 years younger.
One day, she invited her little boyfriend to dinner at her house.
Before they came, they asked Selina if she needed help with something?
Selina replied casually, buy some coriander, and the little boyfriend said there was no problem.
He knew that Selina was very fond of eating parsley.
However, due to the weather, coriander was difficult to buy.
The boyfriend "swore" and Selina looked a bit like she was talking big.
As a result, that night, he actually appeared with a small bowl of coriander.
It turned out that he had run all over the supermarkets for Selina, and finally barely bought this point far away.
At this point, Selina was moved to tears: "This is called the weight of coriander, coriander is very light, but (he) has a lot of weight in my heart." ”
It was a warmth she had never felt in her ex-husband.
It can be seen that she really likes and appreciates this little boyfriend.
And knowing Selina's past, it's not hard to see why she insisted on not getting married.
After she made this request, it caused a discussion among the majority of netizens, but the male protagonist only silently expressed his support.
They think that as long as they are in sync with each other, get along well, and cherish every day.
Like Selina said,
"Instead of tying us up and restricting us with anything, it's better to communicate well and let the heat continue."
If the feelings are in place, whether or not to have children will not affect their happiness.
I hope selina meets her true destiny this time, and I hope that they can live this life together without any restraint.