"Face is for dogs, and people who have no ability care about face." ------ Ren Zhengfei's father
In this world, many occupations are actually created because of demand.
For example, some people may hear about the profession of crying spirits for the first time, but some people have been doing this profession for more than 20 years.
This profession, to say the difficulty, to put it bluntly, is a word: cry!
The barrier to entry is very low, who doesn't cry? As soon as a baby is born, the first thing they do is cry.
However, if you want to cry for more than an hour in a row, if you want to cry sincerely and with great sorrow, and if you cry for people who don't want to do it, you must have the ability.
This is not the biggest difficulty of this profession.
People who are willing to engage in this profession must have a strong psychological quality, as well as be able to pull down their hair and not be afraid of losing people.
There is a professional weeping spirit li Meizhen in Changle City, Fujian Province, who has been engaged in this industry for 22 years, she is famous for crying in the local area, and now others invite her to cry for the spirit, a fee of 3,000 yuan, has become the top card in this field.
Compared with many weeping spirits, the first half of her life was extremely difficult, and she suffered 10 years of domestic violence.
By chance, she embarked on the road of weeping spirits, and did not think that this profession, which was despised by many people, changed her fate and the fate of her children.
Li Meizhen's parents are both from changle rural areas in Fujian Province, and they have a total of 8 children, and their family is very poor.
Coupled with grandma's blindness, the hardship of life can be imagined.
Li Meizhen is the third oldest in the family.
Soon after his parents got married, his father went to work in other places and returned home for the New Year.
The family relies on the mother alone, taking care of 8 children, but also taking care of the blind mother-in-law, working all day long.
A large family, relying on the father's meager income, is not enough, so the mother still sells some cloth in the local area to supplement the life. In short, it is a well-known difficult household in the local area.
The house is very simple, built of wood, and there are only two rooms, which add up to more than 20 square meters.
Grandma lives in a room alone, too many children, not enough beds, only the floor.
When Li Meizhen was in junior high school, because the school was far away from home, other students were riding bicycles to school.
Li Meizhen's family could not afford to buy a bicycle, and she could only walk to school.
At that time, she was very envious of others in her heart, and inferiority sprouted in her heart, and she followed her for many years after that.
After graduating from junior high school, Li Meizhen did not continue her education. When she was still in school, her father often said:
"Why do girls read so many books?" No matter how much you read, you have to marry someone. ”
Li Meizhen can finish junior high school, and the previous tuition fee was also borrowed by her mother to find someone else, so that she reluctantly graduated from junior high school.
Seeing that the family had no money and her father was that attitude, Li Meizhen could only say goodbye to the school with tears.
In fact, she wanted to be a teacher before, but due to the pressure of reality, she could only bury this ideal in her heart.
Soon, a matchmaker came to the door to propose to him.
In fact, she did not want to marry so early, after all, there are still many dreams that have not been realized, she once thought about becoming a substitute teacher first, and then studying for the exam, hoping to become a formal teacher in the future.
Even if it's a teacher in a rural school.
At first, when her parents told her about the engagement, she cried for days.
Persuaded by her parents, she was betrothed.
My father said to her:
"Where is the turn of a family like ours to pick someone else?"
If someone wants it, it's good. ”
This sentence deeply stung Li Meizhen, and she tearfully agreed to marry.
Her parents accepted the bride price, but did not have the right to give her any dowry.
When she got married, she was only 18 years old, and at an age she didn't understand, she married someone and started another life.
I didn't think that after getting married, what awaited her was a nightmare.
The man she married was from the same village, had not read a book, could not read, was very rude, and the two had almost no common language.
And her husband was very hot-tempered, and when he got angry, he beat his wife,
At that time, Li Meizhen was very young, her personality was relatively weak, and her mother's family conditions were not good, and she did not have a dowry when she married, and she always felt that she was shorter than others.
Her in-laws scolded her and even beat her, and she didn't dare to say anything, but just endured in silence.
Soon after getting married, she and her husband went to work in a brick factory in Guangdong.
The work in the brick factory is very tiring and dirty, and at the end of the day, the whole body is gray, gray head and gray face.
Although she is so industrious and simple, she can still avoid her husband's domestic violence:
Her husband often beat her and even pinched her neck.
Sometimes it was a messy hammer that hit her in the stomach.
She worked in Guangdong for more than 6 years, during which time she gave birth to 2 sons.
However, after the birth of her two sons, her condition did not improve at all, and she was still abused by the family.
Once, his husband beat her up again, and at that time, her husband's sister was still fanning the flames next to her:
"You're like a dog in front of my brother!"
This sentence deeply stung Li Meizhen.
Weak, she thought not of resistance, but of self-harm----- she picked up a brick and smashed it on the door of her head!
She wanted to die, and it was too painful to live.
At that time, the blood was flowing, and her husband was a little scared again, and took her to the hospital for stitches.
After the line was removed, she secretly took a bus back to her mother's house in the middle of the night and escaped from the nightmarish in-laws' house.
When she returned to her mother's house, she hugged her head and cried with her mother, and she told about her inhuman treatment in her in-laws' house over the years.
At that time, her parents opened a restaurant in Changle, and she has been helping out in the restaurant ever since.
She wants a divorce.
When the in-laws saw her like this, their attitude eased up again and they ran over to negotiate.
The two sons were still young at the time, crying and saying to their mother:
"Mom, you don't want to divorce Dad, we want Mom!"
For the sake of her children, she softened her heart and did not divorce her husband.
Since then, Li Meizhen has lived in Changle with her children, and her husband has continued to work in Guangdong.
She did not divorce her children in order to have a complete home, but her husband rarely came home all year round.
When Li Meizhen was helping at her parents' restaurant, one of her older sisters, 4 years older than her, formed a stilt team in Changle to perform at funerals.
Seeing that her sister's marriage was unhappy and her economy was in difficulty, her sister let her join the stilt team, let her dress up as Hua Dan, and sing Min opera.
Although Li Meizhen's family is very poor, her brothers and sisters are not bad in terms of appearance.
Once at a funeral, Li Meizhen and others on the stilt team also performed.
Li Meizhen saw a woman crying and singing, pushing the sad atmosphere of the funeral to a climax, and everyone present fell into mourning.
That was the first time Li Meizhen had seen crying spirits.
Then she asked the person next to her, how much can I charge for crying? Others answered: 70 yuan a game.
That's many times higher than her playing Hua Dan on stilts.
She felt she could sing too, and if she did it, she would make more money.
After she returned home, she asked her master to write her the words of weeping spirits, and said to her sister: I can also do weeping spirits.
At that time, her sister did not have much confidence in her, and her sister attended the funeral a lot, knowing that it was not easy to do this.
After getting the lyrics, Li Meizhen read it, choked up in her voice, and then burst into tears.
She thought of her parents, thought of the suffering she had suffered in the past, and naturally she shed tears down her eyes when she thought about it.
After deciding to do this, she learned to sing, and during the time when she learned to sing, she was very diligent, and she could hardly leave her hands.
Even when she was eating, she could shed tears every time she read it.
When crying for the first time, Li Meizhen had no bottom in her heart.
Before taking on this job, she carefully asked the deceased about some things before he died, and then added some words when she cried.
Although she only graduated from junior high school, when she went to school, her Language scores were always good, so her language organization ability was relatively strong.
It rained heavily on the funeral that day.
She knelt on the ground alone, crying, and sang about the experience of the deceased's life, crying for more than half an hour.
After crying, the owner pulled her and said, "I really admire you." ”
In that case, the owner was very happy to pay her 70 yuan.
It can be said that the first crying spirit was more perfect, and later more and more owners looked for her crying spirit, and she began to specialize in crying spirit.
After Li Meizhen took crying as her profession, she also had a very professional spirit:
The owner let her cry for an hour and a half, she will never stop when she does not have time,
And throughout the process of crying, there is no pause in the middle.
During the period of crying, she did not dare to drink water, because as soon as she drank the water, it would affect her mood.
In fact, when she first started her profession as a crying spirit, she was not yet 30 years old.
She had not experienced a life-and-death separation before, nor had a single loved one passed away.
But when she cried, she cried from the bottom of her heart, as if her own relatives had passed away, which was particularly infectious at the scene.
She analyzed it herself, presumably because:
First, she had suffered from her husband's domestic violence for many years and experienced a very painful period.
Second, when I was a child, my family was very poor, and I also experienced a lot of white eyes and heartache.
She witnessed her parents working hard all day to support their family.
Another one, she is particularly emotional, in a word, very empathetic.
She easily substituted herself into the life story of the deceased, feeling that the deceased had lived too hard before his death.
Li Meizhen can be said to be the first generation of local weeping spirits. After five or six years of doing this, she slowly had other people join the industry.
The market demand has increased, the cost of a session has risen to more than three hundred, and she can cry three times a day, that is to say, she can earn 1,000 yuan a day.
Even now, 1,000 yuan a day is a high salary, not to mention more than ten years ago, but in the small place of Changle.
However, the work of crying spirit is not easy, and it is often not until 11 o'clock at night to go home.
Because I cry a lot, my vocal cords are also affected, and I often speak hoarsely. For this reason, she usually can't eat spicy, can't eat too heavy taste, can only eat a light diet.
But at that time, in order to earn more money and think more about the future of her two children, she could eat any bitterness and endure it.
She also didn't care what other people thought of her. Anyway, don't steal or rob, and make money by your own labor.
Although this profession sounds very bad, there is no doubt that you can make money.
She also took her son with her to participate in crying.
Some owners do not have grandchildren, and they want a "grandson" in front of the spirit.
When her eldest son was 11 years old, Li Meizhen let her son kneel beside her in filial piety, and when she cried and sang, her son also wiped away tears.
And her eldest son is also very sensible, and he does not feel that it is very humiliating. The eldest son did not know what his mother relied on to make money, and from then on he began to understand his mother's hardships.
Yeah, if there was a better choice, she probably wouldn't have done this profession that was not good to say--- crying spirits.
In the 22 years of being a weeping spirit person, she has witnessed too many funerals, seen too many examples of "filial piety and relatives are absent", and has seen more of the world's cold.
Some deceased people have never enjoyed happiness in their lives, are reluctant to eat, are reluctant to wear, and raise their children with hard work, and when the children have a job, the old man is gone.
The family she cried the hardest at all, the deceased was a woman in her 30s who had cancer and left behind an 11-year-old daughter and a 7-year-old son.
She and her husband were in free love, and at first the mother's family did not agree to their marriage, but the two of them had a deep relationship and later got married.
After giving birth to the child, she was diagnosed with cancer, treated for several years, and spent more than 1 million yuan, but still left.
The two children suddenly lost their mothers, and the tears of the children at the funeral made people sad,
Her husband, on the other hand, was already numb and couldn't cry.
Why can she get 3,000 yuan at a time?
Li Meizhen cried very professionally and sincerely, and she can now get 3,000 yuan for crying.
But not every weeping soul can get that high compensation:
Some crying spirits can only get 500 yuan when they cry, and some people with better levels can get 800 yuan to 1000 yuan.
And Li Meizhen can get several times higher than the average because she has been in the industry for more than 20 years and has long become an expert and master:
The real master can make the listener cry and drive the sad atmosphere of the scene, so the owner is willing to pay 3,000 yuan.
And those who are willing to send three or four thousand to invite a weeping spirit are by no means ordinary people's homes.
There are many people in Changle, Fujian, who have gone abroad, and many people have made a lot of money doing business abroad, even if they work abroad, their income level is much stronger than that of many people in their hometown.
In addition, many business owners in Fujian pay special attention to pomp and circumstance when holding funerals.
Some rich people spend more than a million on a funeral:
For those who attended the funeral alone, more than 100 tables were arranged at the banquet, and the tobacco and alcohol on the table were excellent.
The funeral of an old man from a family impressed Li Meizhen.
The old man's son went to the United States to work hard earlier, and the daughter-in-law did not go with him, but stayed at home to take care of the old man and the child.
However, the old man's son later developed in the United States, and he found a young and beautiful little wife in the United States.
At the time of the funeral, the old man's son returned with his little wife, and everyone around him knew the fact that he had two wives.
The eldest wife appeared at the funeral dressed in simplicity and silence, watching her husband hold another young woman.
She cried heart-wrenching at her father-in-law's funeral, and it is estimated that she was crying for her own suffering in her heart.
Spend your youth on taking care of the elderly and raising children, with hard work, diligence and thrift,
I only hope that my husband will become famous abroad and then come back to the family together.
I didn't think that after her husband's career took off, she was already old and yellow, and there were new people around her husband.
In that scene, Li Meizhen cried her heart and lungs, and she also sympathized with this old man's daughter-in-law in her heart.
While crying, she said to the old man's daughter-in-law: Your life is bitter!
The vicissitudes of the world were revealed in a short funeral.
Another time, she was asked to cry for a deceased entrepreneur.
This entrepreneur, with a son and a daughter, was in his 30s at the time, because his father was an entrepreneur, so they were the second generation of the rich.
Li Meizhen knelt in front of the spirit and cried sincerely, hoping to take the lead, but the two children of the entrepreneur did not cry.
Li Meizhen cried while singing how much the entrepreneur had suffered in order to start a business and build this family business, but the two children seemed indifferent.
Li Meizhen felt that it was because these two children had not suffered any hardships, they had always been dressed in fine clothes and luxury cars, they could not experience the hardships of life, of course, they could not cry.
The reason why Li Meizhen can cry heart-rending is that when she cried, her mind came up with the pain of her parents raising children when she was a child, and the domestic violence she suffered after marriage.
People who have suffered the hardships of life especially cherish the hard-won sweetness.
Li Meizhen herself is very frugal in her life, and the money she earns is used for big family affairs: the house and the education of her children.
She was particularly good to her two sons, and when computers first emerged, they were more expensive, and she did not hesitate to buy them for her sons.
Now crying can earn more than 3,000 yuan, more than a dozen a month, that is to say, she can earn four or five hundred thousand yuan a year.
With money in her hands, she bought a marriage house for her son in Dongguan and built a new house in her hometown. He also partnered with his sisters to open a restaurant.
Separated from her abusive husband, she began to become cheerful in terms of personality and advanced with the times in concept.
Since 2018, she has also posted videos of her life on social media.
It can be seen that she is older than her actual age, and she is beautiful in appearance and slim in stature.
She summed up the reasons why she later became cheerful:
"Because they have their own income, they are more relaxed on the spiritual level, and people naturally become cheerful."
Responding to that sentence----- independent woman lives the most wonderful life.
At the age of 18, she married her illiterate husband, suffered domestic violence for 10 years after marriage, she was forced to be helpless, and at the age of 28, she returned to her mother's house, and then embarked on the road of crying spirits.
Although her job is to cry, she is very cheerful in life, very sunny, likes to make friends, and is very good at making atmosphere and telling jokes at parties with friends.
For many people, the weeping spirit may be a miserable job, but for her, it is a rebirth.
Because of her crying, she has an independent and high income,
This income makes her no longer dependent on her in-laws, no longer living in the fear and humiliation of domestic violence,
So that she can support her two sons, send them to school,
So that she can open a restaurant with her sisters, achieve financial freedom, and find the joy of life.
So that she can buy a marriage house for her son and pave the way for his future life.
She has a professional attitude towards her profession of crying spirits, and does not feel that this profession is inferior in the slightest.
Nor do I feel that this job is not worth the face.
Today, her grandson is also 2 years old, she is still engaged in the profession of crying spirits, because this line is very long, and very professional, so many owners still come to invite her.
Because she has experienced many funerals and is particularly sympathetic to the parting of life and death, she now cherishes the time with her family, and feels that people must be kind to themselves and their families when they are alive.
This is a rural woman who suffered a lot in her mother's and in-laws' families, and later changed her life by herself.
Ren Zhengfei's father once said to Ren Zhengfei: Face is for dogs to eat, and only those who have no ability care about face.
Her secret lies in professionalism, dedication, and pulling down.
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Reference:
Professional crying spirit people: have suffered 10 years of domestic violence, so crying really, the first 70 yuan and now 3000 yuan (China News Network)
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