Re-read The Weakness of Human Nature
Xueba Dabao has repeatedly suggested that I read more books when I have time, but I always push that I don't have time and have not put it into action. Now that Erbao is also older, he is about to go to school. In order to cultivate Erbao's interest in reading, I picked up the book again after many years of not reading.
Shame on you! In order to catch up with the child's footsteps, it is necessary to learn with the child in the future.
I took a copy from my son's bookshelf, a book I had read before but hadn't read—The Weakness of Human Nature.
The book was first published in 1936 and has become one of the best-selling books in the world, after several years of work by Mr. Dale Carnegie, an American.
The author lists many real cases, leading the reader step by step to analyze the weaknesses of human nature. After watching it, there will be a feeling that hits the heart.
Among them, the point that struck me the most was that criticism was futile and dangerous, hurting a person's self-esteem and provoking his resentment.
I have a deep understanding of this passage, which reminds me of the scene when my parents reprimanded me when I was growing up. In fact, I know in my heart that I have done something wrong, but I feel wronged and want to justify.
However, when he was upgraded to a parent, he unconsciously blurted out criticism of his children. When I saw this passage, about the theory of criticism, I knew that my method was wrong.
When criticizing a child, he may have confessed his mistake under your coercion. But in his heart, he should not think like this, which can be seen from his stubborn and disobedient small eyes.
I knew I should change my strategy.
That day, Erbao returned home from kindergarten, threw away his clothes and school bag as usual, and ran to watch TV. I suppressed my anger, and instead of throwing away her clothes as usual, I calmly told her that the bag and clothes were not yet put away. As a result, after she listened, she went to sort it out.
This experiment made me feel that the same meaning was expressed in different ways, but the effect was completely different.
"The Weakness of Human Nature" is really a good book, and it is recommended that you also read it when you have free time.
