What happens if you sleep too late in a room with your child? The answer may be beyond parents' imagination, but it is very true.
A small child left me a message saying that her mother was often bullied by her father in the middle of the night. But mom's voice was strange, and she couldn't tell how to describe it. After she heard it, she wanted to get up a few times to help her mother, but her mother found that she had the intention of getting up, so she immediately stopped making a sound, and then her father stopped bullying her mother.
The child's question, asked very awkwardly, I guess it is a matter between her parents, the child is really confused. That's why the child will remember and talk to a strange aunt on the Internet.
With a sense of concern and concern, I searched the Internet for relevant posts. There are some adults who have left such handwriting online. Little A said: When he was a child, he slept late with his parents, and his parents did not wait for him to fall asleep, he could only pretend to sleep, and even coughed, which was really a shadow of childhood.
Xiaoqu said: When I was a child, there was a stage where I was particularly resistant to sleeping with my parents. It feels like mom and dad always fight, but after a while, they reconcile again, no longer crying wolf howl, the two will lean together and talk. At that time, I was particularly afraid that my parents would leave me.
In the children's memories, there is always a period of privacy that cannot be mentioned. Children are embarrassed to tell others, let alone joke with their parents. Even as adults, children are reluctant to mention this shadow of childhood. However, everyone has done one thing in unison, that is, after they have children, as far as possible when the children should sleep in separate rooms, they will divide the rooms to the children, so that the children have a space to live independently, because the disadvantages of being too late in the rooms, they have experienced.
At the age, the disadvantages of not giving children a room to sleep in may be unexpected by parents
Ø Children will have "childhood shadows"
All along, I have been encouraging Bao Mom bao dad, as long as the family conditions allow, the child is a little older, has a memory, to the age of giving the child a room, really do not covet the warmth between the child and the child. Parents are overly attached to their children, but also unconsciously hurt their children.
For example, the personal experience of these netizens mentioned above is already the epitome of many families, which is very real. I hope that everyone can take this as a warning to avoid the privacy of parents who let children see and should not see, and prevent children from precocious puberty or childhood shadows.
Ø Delay the child's sleep, cause the child's anxiety, and affect the child's independence
The child has grown taller and more psychologically mature, but the personal space is not large and not secretive. These disadvantages of sleeping without dividing the rooms will gradually be revealed in daily life. Whatever the reason, it may cause tension and anxiety to the child and affect the child's sleep and rest.
In addition, if the child is not given a room to sleep, parents will usually do things in a big package as in the past. For example, make a bed for your child and warm your child's bed. After these trifles are arranged, it is easy to affect the child's independence and cause the child to be dependent. Even, some children are not small, and they will not sleep alone after leaving their parents, and they can't even make a bed.
Of course, the situation of each child is different, some children have slow physical and mental development, more than 5 years old and have not been separated, this situation is another matter. However, as long as the child is physically and mentally healthy and develops normally, parents should give the child a room to sleep at the appropriate age as soon as possible.
3 years old split bed, 5 years old split room! Did your baby sleep in the room?
When the child is 3 years old, it is basically possible to give the child a bed to sleep. When the child is 5 years old, it is possible to give the child a room to sleep. In general, the vast majority of families do this according to this law.
However, the matter of dividing the child's room cannot be forced, and there must be a gradual process. Avoid children who can't accept it, are not used to sleeping alone, and the quality of sleep is too poor, resulting in a decline in physical resistance and illness.
Then, the problem is, if the child does not agree to sleep in a separate room, as soon as the child is divided into a room, the child will resist and cry. In this case, the children are 5 years old, do you still want to split the room?
5 years old does not have a room, in the end can not be?
Neither the law nor the family rules stipulate that when a child is 5 years old, he must be given a separate room to sleep. It's just that parents have agreed to the rules, thinking that the child is 5 years old, and when it reaches the age of the room, it is best for the child to sleep in the room at this time.
After all, 5-year-old children already have a good memory, once sleeping with their parents, parents have "bullied and bullied" things, always taking advantage of the child's sleep to "fight". This is not a good thing for the child, and it is extremely bad for the child's physical and mental development.
Therefore, if parents do not plan to give their children a room for 5 years old, they must ensure that their words and deeds are appropriate and do not damage the quality of their children's sleep. In this way, you can also wait until the child does not resist the matter of dividing the room, and then arrange for the child to sleep in the separate room. Or, when the child is older, more independent, not afraid of the dark at night, can sleep alone without anxiety, for example, about 8 years old, it is also possible to divide the room, which is the broadest age limit.
In short, it is not simple to divide the room for the child, and parents should arrange it step by step, and they cannot pursue speed. For example, when dividing the room, parents can first try to tell stories to coax the sleeping baby, and then leave the room; after the first few nights of the room, they can sleep with the child. Slowly, the child gets used to sleeping in separate rooms.