"There are more than a dozen wolves behind me, including my sister-in-law's children, all of which I raise, and I am like a cow pulling a cart."
Zhang Hongjie, a veteran artist, had tears in his eyes in the program and said his heartache and helplessness over the years.
Everyone says "raising children to prevent old age", but he had two daughters and a son, but in his old age he had to take his paralyzed wife to a nursing home.
Zhang Hongjie not only did not enjoy the blessings of his children and grandchildren in this life, but also bought a house and a car for his children, and paid tuition and insurance for his grandson.
When he was young, due to work reasons, he neglected the care and education of his children, and he was very distressed about his wife's efforts for the family.
Whenever the children asked for anything, he would try to meet them as much as possible to make up for his debt to the family.
But it is this doting environment that has led to his children growing up to become lazy and lazy", "nibbling old people" who do not want to make progress.
Zhang Hongjie's eldest daughter and husband are both laid-off workers, who have no savings and have to provide for their children's education.
As a result, the eldest daughter was found to have tuberculosis, and the family was completely dependent on him to fund.
The second daughter is also not careful, has no business acumen, but wants to do business, and finally lost her family, or Zhang Hongjie took money to fill the hole.
In addition, there is a son who makes Zhang Hongjie even bigger, and after his wife was paralyzed, the son directly asked him to buy a new house and go out with his daughter-in-law and grandson to live alone.
As soon as he thought of these things at home, he sighed continuously, but for this big son to survive, Zhang Hongjie did not dare to stop, and now at the age of 77, he still insists on filming.
1.
Zhang Hongjie filmed the most short stories in some rural parents, and the role of village chief he played was deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and he was also known as the "first village chief".
Many people do not know that he himself was born in a poor village, and he can be said to have suffered a lot in his life.
Zhang Hongjie was born in 1945 in an ordinary family in Changchun, Jilin Province, and several brothers and sisters were raised by the hard work of their parents.
In that era of lack of clothing and food, solving the problem of food and clothing was the top priority of the family, and the older brothers and sisters began to work early to subsidize the family.
Zhang Hongjie, who is sensible, also wants to help his parents share the burden of supporting the family, but he is too young to find a suitable job for him.
When he was idle, he ran to the bottom of the stage at the entrance of the village to listen to the commentary, and after a long time, he was already familiar with those passages.
When he returned home, he saw his mother lying on the bed tired, and Zhang Hongjie said painfully: "Mother, listen to me sing you a commentary, just relieve your fatigue." ”
Listening to him babbling and imitating the performances on those stages, it was really quite like that, and the family thought it was very interesting.
After receiving the affirmation of his family, Zhang Hongjie instantly came to his senses, and the next day he ran to listen to the play, and then went home to perform for the family to see.
Not long after, the village knew that he could sing opera, and one of the critics in the troupe was looking for children who were interested in drama.
After seeing that he not only liked to sing, but also had a superior talent, he directly accepted him as an apprentice, gave professional lessons, and embarked on the road of learning art.
Don't learn not to know, a learning to be frightened, Zhang Hongjie has always felt that singing is like playing, but the real contact, almost did not tire him down.
As soon as it was dark, he was called up by his master by tugging at his ears, and after practicing for a few hours, he felt that his throat was about to smoke.
After practicing and kicking his legs, after a day's course, he was so tired that he fell on the bed and couldn't move, but the next day he still had to repeat all this.
Some children can't stand crying and begging their parents to bring them back, but Zhang Hongjie never complains bitterly, and in order to be able to get ahead in the future, he bites his teeth and swallows into his stomach.
His persistence has made his future, and in the year he left school, he was 16 years old, tall, handsome and thin, and he was favored by many girls.
Just when he was about to talk about a girlfriend, the change of circumstances found him in advance, catching up with the special era, and he became a group of people with "bad composition" overnight.
Zhang Hongjie also degenerated from a small star in a group to a street performer who walked the streets and alleys, and the little girls avoided him when they heard his identity, and he completely lost the right to choose a mate.
Seeing that he was getting older, he could only beat a single stick when he couldn't find a daughter-in-law, and he grew several white hairs in one night.
Looking at the friends who used to play together, getting married, having children and having children, he didn't even have an object, and the more Zhang Hongjie thought about it, the more anxious he became.
2.
There are also well-meaning aunts who see Zhang Hongjie look good and have introduced him to a few girls, but people are reluctant to do so until they meet Wen Zhenrong, and his marriage has a settlement.
It was when singing in a village called Qinjiatun, a black and thin girl sitting under the stage saw him perform very the stage, and he was deeply impressed.
After the performance, Zhang Hongjie ran to the backstage to remove his makeup, and as soon as he went out, he met the matchmaker Li Da Niang in this village, who took his hand and enthusiastically said that he wanted to introduce him to an object.
At first, he still felt ecstatic and the god of good luck took care of him, but when he saw Wen Zhenrong, he immediately dismissed this idea.
After all, before he had an accident, he was surrounded by girls with good looks, and this huge gap made him a little unable to accept it for a while.
Aunt Li did not see the change in his expression, continued to praise the girl that he had the ability, turned her head and praised the girl with Zhang Hongjie for being honest, responsible, and capable, and was a good hand at running the family.
Wen Zhenrong saw Zhang Hongjie's loss and quickly added: "I am a regular worker in the substation, relatively stable." ”
This sentence hit his heart, he looked at his current depressed appearance, and thought: If there is a girl who is willing to be good with me, it is not bad, can not be picked.
Then he said to Wen Zhenrong, "Do you know my situation?" So would you still like it? Or you should think about it. ”
Wen Zhenrong did not hesitate and said bluntly: "I know your situation, in fact, the matchmaker is what I found, I just like you." ”
Hearing the girl's words, Zhang Hongjie felt that she was very honest and brave, and immediately had a different view of her, and promised to contact her for a while to try.
In the following days, he felt more and more that this girl was understanding, warm and kind, and a good girl to live a good life.
After talking for a while, they talked about getting married, and the two families discussed that they had reached the age of marriage, so they would settle the marriage as soon as possible, so as not to have a long night.
Soon they received their licenses, and with the blessings of all the people, they held a simple wedding and formed a small family.
But the lie could not be hidden for too long, and by chance, Zhang Hongjie learned that his wife was actually a temporary worker and was not in the establishment at all.
After returning home, he was furious with his wife for the first time, and even felt that everything before his wife was pretended, and he couldn't stand being deceived, and his attitude towards his wife during that period was very bad.
But every time my wife responded with a smile, he lost his temper, and said with some pride: "If I don't say that I have a formal job, you will definitely not look at me, right?" ”
After a long time, Zhang Hongjie slowly forgave his wife, because he found that her wife had cheated on him in nothing except this matter.
In the months when his work was unstable and his income was very low, his wife followed him and even ate pickles for a week, without complaining, before reconciling with his wife.
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However, what surprised Zhang Hongjie was that his wife, who had always been physically tough and had no illness or disaster, would suddenly collapse on the bed.
He quickly pushed away the work at hand and concentrated on spending time with his wife, recalling that since he got married, he felt that it must be his neglect of the family and his wife that caused her to be too tired.
It turned out that soon after the marriage, the eldest daughter of the two was born, and the cost naturally increased, due to Zhang Hongjie's unstable income, his wife and eldest daughter suffered a lot.
Sometimes at the end of the month there is really no money to buy food, the wife will go to the vegetable market to pick up some rotten vegetable leaves that others do not want to live, the adults are fine, but the children also suffer with themselves, Zhang Hongjie is very sad.
The wife knew his inner thoughts and took the initiative to comfort him: "I know that your heart is not a taste, but the husband and wife are one, and I believe that you will succeed in the future." ”
Hearing his wife's words, Zhang Hongjie could not bear it any longer, and after secretly wiping a handful of tears, he hugged his wife and said what he said in his heart: "Daughter-in-law, you have worked hard!" ”
Since then, he has been busy with large and small performances, rarely spending time to take care of the family, and even when the next two children were born, he did not accompany his wife.
Fortunately, his wife was very supportive of him, never complained to him, but carried the family with thin shoulders, so that Zhang Hongjie could fight for his career without worries.
But Wen Zhenrong is a woman after all, the family of three children plus two old people, everything must be taken care of meticulously, orderly, that is not an easy thing.
One night, Wen Zhenrong squatted on the ground and did housework for half a day, and after standing up violently, he suddenly felt that half of his body was a little out of control, and his mouth was open but he could not make any sound.
Wen Zhenrong was frightened and did not know what to do for a while, and finally his daughter called a neighbor and took her to the hospital.
After the examination, the doctor diagnosed that she had a cerebral thrombosis, and the daughter wanted to call Zhang Hongjie, and Wen Zhenrong immediately said vaguely: "Don't... Don't bother your dad at work, I'll be fine. ”
But after the matter was hidden for a while, it was still discovered by the careful Zhang Hongjie.
Because usually, as long as he calls home, his wife must be the first to answer, and then care about the words Barabala said a lot of words, before he was willing to hang up.
But several times in a row, it was the daughter who answered the phone, and each time the reason was the same, that is, "Mom is out of the house and not at home." ”
Perhaps it was the spiritual fit between the husband and wife, he was very worried about what happened to his wife, and he was eager to go home to find out, so he took a few days off with the crew.
When he saw his wife lying on the hospital bed, he prepared a lot of words for his wife on the way back, but he couldn't say a word, he just wanted to hold his wife's hand, not willing to separate.
Zhang Hongjie only hated himself for not having the ability, his wife had not lived a good life with him, and he still had to suffer like this, and he vowed in his heart: In the future, he must earn more money and let his wife enjoy happiness.
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The opportunity is left to those who are prepared, and this good luck finally came to his head, and the 49-year-old began to improve his career with the play "Nine Fragrances".
After that, the film continued to create one classic role after another, and he loved to learn, and also learned the skills of director and screenwriter, and gained a firm foothold in the entertainment industry.
But just after a while, his three children began to do all kinds of demons and became veritable "vampires".
Zhang Hongjie and his wife are from a bitter background, knowing that today's good life is not easy to come by, in terms of spending, it can be saved and saved, and they can even be described as very critical of themselves.
But it is different for the child, because he is usually busy filming, sometimes he is gone for several months, he does not have much time to accompany the child, and can only make up for it with pocket money.
As long as the child says what he wants to buy, he will wave his hand and buy it casually!
The eldest daughter wants a new dress, buy it! The little daughter wants a new school bag, buy! The son said to buy a game console, buy!
Several children who were arrogantly indulged became more and more serious about comparison, and their studies instantly slipped to the bottom few in the class, and the younger daughter dropped out of school early and entered the society.
However, due to his low education, he could not find any good job, and he was mixed for many years and did not pay as much as Zhang Hongjie's play.
After the children realized this problem, they all took the initiative to go to him to do filial piety, and then found various reasons and excuses to ask him for money.
Sign up for an after-school class for your grandson today and take the money! Tomorrow for your grandson's birthday, take the money! The day after tomorrow the school organizes a trip and takes the money!
Zhang Hongjie always felt that the children were not happy, he had a certain responsibility, with deep guilt, he offered to buy a house for three children, one person.
But the good original intention was exchanged for the disintegration of family affection, and the three sisters and brothers quarreled over the location, size and price of the house, and made a lot of trouble.
Zhang Hongjie was so angry that he scolded several children as white-eyed wolves, and as a result, the children held a grudge because of his bad attitude when he gave money.
The little daughter muttered disapprovingly: "If you give money, you will be happy, don't scold people, if you don't give, we won't come later." ”
Zhang Hongjie, who hated and helplessly, was so angry that he threw out several children, but after calming down, he felt that no matter what, they were his own children.
After a few days, he had to bow his head again, called several children to his home, and said his arrangement: "My salary card is handed over to you, each person receives it for a year, and it takes turns." ”
Only then did the children restore the "fatherly kindness and filial piety" side, and it was a flattery to him: "Dad, you are the best, we will always love you." ”
His own children are done, relatives do not stop, Wen Zhenrong has a sister, the family has a difficult time, always three days and two ends to his house to play autumn wind.
Zhang Hongjie could not drive people away because of his wife's face, so he could only eat and drink well, and when his nephew went to college, his sister-in-law asked him to borrow tuition, and he never mentioned repaying the money again.
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He had nothing to say about this, because he knew that the person who could have the greatest credit to him today was his wife, Wen Zhenrong.
It was during the time when his wife was just paralyzed that the screenwriter of a TV series found Zhang Hongjie's home, when he happened to be out and almost missed the opportunity to become famous.
Although Wen Zhenrong did not understand what a screenwriter was, she knew that this person must be someone who would help her husband's career, and in order to keep the screenwriter, she tried to squeeze out a few words: "He... Horse... Above... Only... Return. ”
Under the laborious delay of his wife, Zhang Hongjie had the opportunity to meet the screenwriter of "Nine Fragrances" and officially transformed into an actor.
After the show aired, he won several awards and got more performance opportunities, but he had one condition for filming, that is, he had to take his wife.
If the director can accept it, he will shoot, and from then on, no matter where the world is, he will take his half-dead wife with him, and occasionally his wife will act as a group performance mirror.
Under the meticulous care of Zhang Hongjie, his wife Wen Zhenrong's physical condition has recovered better and better, and his fame has become bigger and bigger.
He has starred in excellent works such as "The Director of Men and Women", "The War of the Old Cow Family", and "The Marriage of the Old Mi Family".
But as he became more and more brilliant, his wife became more and more inferior, no longer willing to go out with him, afraid of humiliating him, he thought that his wife was tired and did not want to go out, so he really did not take his wife out.
But when he came back, he saw his wife secretly wiping away tears, and he suddenly realized, took his wife's hand and said, "I will never abandon you in my life, alienate you, you are my lucky star." ”
Some time ago, Zhang Hongjie and his wife began a "sojourn life for the elderly", and finally took his wife to live in a nursing home in Sanya.
There are beautiful scenery and abundant sunshine, and he has worked hard for most of his life to support a large family by himself.
In his old age, he can finally unload the burden of caring for his children, slow down the pace of work, and enjoy life, hoping that his children can wake up as soon as possible, be kinder to the elderly, and do not wait for loss to know how to cherish.
epilogue
Just like Teacher Zhang Hongjie said, the family has a difficult scripture, the children are born by themselves, even if it is difficult, they must grit their teeth and survive.
People are doing it, the sky is watching, and the ability to make a little more contribution to the family, do what they can do well, and leave the rest to luck.
It is difficult to have a family that is perfect, just like the fingers of a person, and there is a distinction between long and short, but it is thin, short and thick, and each has its own advantages.
Rich people will envy the healthy, talented envy good luck, no one will pity anyone, only they can save themselves.
If you want to be noble before people, you must suffer before people, people exaggerate Zhang Hongjie's good lines, but they don't know that he reads the script and sees more than three o'clock in the middle of the night.
When you are young, you must try your best to learn more, look up to people who are stronger than yourself, try to catch up, life is not comparable, who is poorer than yourself, and who is better than whom, life can get better and better.