Three days ago, a 15-year-old boy in Chai Wan, Hong Kong, stormed his stepmother's bedroom while she was changing clothes, intimidated her with a knife on her neck, and then insulted her with her hands up and down. It is said that the stepmother loves the child very much and treats the child as her own; and this teenager is also recognized as a well-behaved boy. After the incident, the teenager has been arrested by the police.
After the incident, the juvenile was arrested
Seeing this news, I thought of Ma Jiajue and Li Qiming, and I thought of Yao Jiaxin and Han Fangyi, which is not a good child and a good student in everyone's eyes. I wondered: What's wrong with the good boy now? Why did Mom and Dad work hard and finally cultivate white-eyed wolves? When I asked a special teacher about this question, he only said one sentence: You should ask the male and female wolves who give birth to them, ask them how to educate their children, plant melons and beans, it's as simple as that!
Before school starts, send your children to report
Listening to the words of the special teacher, I was a little ashamed. My son is ten years old this year, and every night I wash his feet, because I am afraid that he will not know the heat and cold of his grades, and he will be burned by the water. Every night, as soon as he finished his homework, he would habitually shout, "Mom, wash my feet." "Once my husband and I were on a business trip, and he and grandpa were at home. When he came home a week later, the child said he had itchy feet. As soon as he took off his shoes, the whole house smelled of stench, and the feet were full of blisters, and he rubbed his hands angrily. I asked the child, "Have you not washed your feet these days?" The child said with vigor and words: "I blame you for not being at home, no one to wash me, you don't want to travel in the future, you are not responsible for me at all." I said angrily, "You don't have a hand?" Who knew that he said with resentment on his face: "Anyway, if you have beriberi, I blame you." ”
I almost went crazy, a ten-year-old child, a good hand, obviously you can do anything yourself, why can't you do anything without me? If you think about it, I care too much about my child, do everything for him except learning, and deprive him of the opportunity to grow himself. Over time, the child thinks he deserves my "service." Everything a mother should do, he deserves it, he does not need to be grateful; if the adult does not have a foot, he will be dissatisfied and resentful.
Boundless love, useless child
Do you remember the "airport mother-killing" case a few years ago? Wang Jiajing, a twenty-four-year-old student studying in Japan, went to school entirely on her mother's debt and meager wages for five years, never working part-time, and did not think of any way. On the evening of March 31, 2011, because her mother no longer had money to pay for her schooling, she brutally stabbed her mother at Pudong Airport. Twenty-four years of making cattle and horses, in exchange for the ruthless nine knives, listened to people sigh.
With such protection, can the child grow
Let's go back to the news at the beginning, as a stepmother, it is not easy to see the child as if it were her own, but does the teenager know gratitude? Does Wang Jiajing, who killed her mother at the airport, know gratitude? Do many children, including my son, know gratitude? Gratitude education cannot be delayed. Be truly loving your child, don't spoil it, and remember that there is a kind of love called letting go!