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Previously, Andy Lau rarely posted a home video, which made people look forward to it.
In the video, the 61-year-old King of Heaven wears a gray housecoat, holding a mop, barefoot, bending over, and mopping the floor.
Although as an old artist, he is out of reach on weekdays, Andy Lau's homely side makes many netizens feel very kind.
Many netizens said bluntly: Andy Lau's handsomeness is not only his appearance, but also his spirit and soul.
The flow of the video also allowed netizens to witness the mansion of the king.
Although it is only a bedroom, it is spacious and has a bright view, and from this hardware aspect alone, you can see that the house is worth a lot.
But looking closely at the decoration in the room, it seems that there are not too many luxurious objects, full of low-key feeling.
Some netizens even manually searched for the bedding in Andy Lau's bedroom, and found that the bed price of the Tianwang bedroom was only more than two thousand, which can be said to be quite grounded compared to the luxury home of other stars.
Another netizen even noticed that the mop used by the King of Heaven when mopping the floor, the proper civilian money, the price is only a few tens of yuan.
After these details were pulled out, they subverted the three views of many netizens: "It is too grounded, I always think that the king of heaven is clothed to reach out, and rice to open his mouth." ”
Despite his frugal life, Andy Lau has brought people's lives to a high level of excitement.
He works hard, and every good work is an affirmation of his work; he is actively self-disciplined, has strict requirements for himself, not only to live a good body, but also to live a healthy life; he loves life and devotes himself to his family with full love.
As a public figure in the show business, he was never bound by materialism and focused only on the life he really wanted.
I remember that Zhou Guoping once said: "As long as a person is willing to restrain his desires and be satisfied with a relatively simple life, the territory of life will be wider." ”
I agree.
Temper unnecessary material desires, let life be less decorated, more ideal, your life will live more exciting.
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3 tips to help you temper your desires and have a high-level life.
(1) Use psychological accounts to balance desires
There is such an experiment:
Scenario A: You plan to go to a theater to see a show, and the ticket price is 100 yuan. When you arrive at the theater and find yourself losing a $100 bill, will you buy a ticket to see the show?
Scenario B: You're going to see a show and you're spending $100 on a ticket, and when you arrive at the theater, you find that the ticket is lost. If you want to see a show and have to spend another $100 to buy a ticket, will you buy a ticket?
The experimental results show that:
In scenario A (losing $100), 88 percent of respondents would buy tickets, and 12 percent would not.
In Scenario B (tickets lost), 46 percent of respondents chose to buy tickets, and 54 percent chose not.
This is the mental account, that is, a kind of virtual account that exists in the human mind, and people will psychologically divide the objective equivalent expenditures or benefits in reality into different accounts.
The loss of 100 yuan and the loss of tickets are equivalent in objective value calculation. But in people's psychology, it belongs to different psychological accounts.
In life, we can use psychological accounts to coordinate revenue and expenditure.
The principles of psychological account management are: classified management, independent accounting, balanced development, except for special circumstances, do not misappropriate each other.
For each income received, we distribute it to the corresponding account according to the distribution principle.
This will prevent us from blindly consuming according to habits or temporary preferences.
(2) Understand hyperbolic discounting and fight against desire
It is well known that chimpanzees' favorite food is bananas. So the researchers made a rule that he distributed a dried fruit to each chimpanzee.
If a chimpanzee can hold out for 20 minutes without eating the dried fruit in its hand, it can exchange the dried fruit for a banana.
Most of the chimpanzees lacked patience and greedily ate the dried fruit in their hands, and only a few chimpanzees struggled to restrain themselves.
Later, these chimpanzees, with strong restraint, got a great reward and got a banana.
This is hyperbolic discounting, also known as irrational discounting, describing people's discount decisions, similar to hyperbolic, meaning that most people would rather have a smaller amount of immediate remuneration than a larger amount of future remuneration.
Most chimpanzees, for the sake of the dried fruit in front of them, gave up delicious bananas; only a few chimpanzees, making rational decisions, ended up with bananas.
Imagine, in real life:
Would you rather watch a movie right away for enough sensory stimulation, or would you practice writing for three months in exchange for a beautiful hand of calligraphy?
Do you choose to watch a TV series right away to spend extra time, or are you willing to read a difficult book to get a collision of ideas?
Indulging desires and having fun in time is the tendency of most people, so the phenomenon of hyperbolic discounting is also common.
However, only by always paying attention to and countering your own double-curved discounting tendencies can you have a better life.
(3) Be wary of the ratchet effect and avoid being kidnapped by desire
During the Shang Dynasty, at the beginning of the ascension of the King of Sui, everyone in the world believed that under the governance of this shrewd monarch, the Shang Dynasty's jiangshan would be as solid as a rock.
One day, the King of Lu ordered people to make a pair of chopsticks out of ivory, and they were very happy to use this pair of ivory chopsticks to eat.
His uncle Mizi saw it and advised him to collect it, but the King of Sui did not care, and the Manchu Minister of Culture and Military Affairs did not think so, thinking that this was a very ordinary small matter.
Miko was worried about this, and some ministers inexplicably asked him why, and Miko replied:
"If the king uses ivory to make chopsticks, he will no longer use an earthen clay pot to hold soup for rice, but will definitely use a cup made of rhino horn and a rice bowl made of jade;
With ivory chopsticks, rhino horn cups and jade bowls, would you still use them to eat coarse tea rice and soup boiled with beans? The king's table will be served with fine wine and delicacies from now on;
Eating wine and delicacies, wearing natural silk satin, living requires grandeur, but also to build buildings and pavilions for fun. I shudder at the consequences. ”
In just 5 years, Mizi's prediction was indeed fulfilled, and the Shang Dynasty King's porcelain was arrogant, which ruined the 500-year-old Jiangshan of Shangtang.
This is the ratchet effect, that is, after the formation of people's consumption habits, there is irreversibility, that is, it is easy to adjust upwards, but it is difficult to adjust downwards, especially in the short term.
To put it simply, it is easy to go from frugality to luxury, and it is difficult to be frugal from luxury to frugality.
This consumption habit is like a ratchet stuck in a ratchet, which can only be turned in one direction, and it is difficult to rotate.
The ratchet effect stems from desire, and if you can't limit your desires moderately, you will be kidnapped by them.
Chen Daoming said:
"I think temperance is the greatest enjoyment of life, and the release of material and spiritual is very easy, but the difficult thing is moderation." Therefore, the highest state of mind of being a human being is moderation, not release. ”
Many times, moderation means a reasonable control over ourselves, which means that we have a long-term and clear plan for how things turn out.
Desire will always force us to want to have everything, so that we can do a lot of things that are quick to succeed.
However, a truly advanced life does not care whether you do the right thing at the right time, but controls yourself not to do what you should not do at the wrong time.
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