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These 4 sentences parents should let their children learn to speak loudly as soon as possible
At that time, the son had just been in kindergarten for less than a month, but the mother and the child's father did not worry less about the child, the reason was that there was a little boy in the class who liked to support his son to work for him every day, not to let the son help him take shoes and hand over clothes, or when playing games and toys, let the son follow behind his ass to help pick up the ball and clean up the toys, in short, this little boy seemed to regard his son as his "little book boy"
Sometimes the son will also resist, do not want to serve this "little prince", as a result, the other party will twist his arm, and the son's body is relatively thin, so he has to obediently do it, every day when he goes home and enters the door, the first sentence is "Today is so tired, the kindergarten is really not fun, every day I have to serve others." I have sought out the teacher and the other parent several times, but after a day or two the child is back to the old way. In the end, I decided to change the school for my children, anyway, where to go to school is not to go, why get angry here!
What I didn't expect was that there were no children in the second kindergarten to make his son work, but there was a "little bully", often bullying his son, once this "little bully" threatened his son to help him draw, and as a result, after the son finished painting, the "little bully" was very dissatisfied, and he also lost his temper with his son, pushed his son to a butt and squatted, and kicked his son fiercely.
That night after I saw the bruises on my son's body, I resolutely contacted my son to the third kindergarten, but the situation still did not improve, in the end, the whole kindergarten period, my son has been changing schools, but every time I can encounter "strange" classmates bullying him, at that time I was really very heartbroken, I couldn't figure out why my son would suffer so many strange classmates, was my child destined to be so "good bully"?
By chance, I met an education expert who had been engaged in early childhood education for many years, so I told this experienced old teacher about my son's experience and my confusion, and the old teacher told me that the reason why the child's condition had not improved was that I had made a mistake in the way I handled the problem, and I did not find the key to the problem. Then the old teacher also told me that in fact, no child is born to be bullied, and no child is born to bully others, mainly because of the guidance and education of parents. Therefore, when it is found that children are bullied, the most critical thing is that parents should guide their children to learn to express, learn to resist, and learn to protect themselves, otherwise, how many places will still be bullied.
In life, we often see such examples, children are bullied at school, they have long been miserable, but parents and teachers are completely unaware! Why is this happening? In fact, the child's expression is not good enough, or the child is worried that telling the teacher and parents will be scolded, especially those parents who often like to indiscriminately complain and scold their children when things happen, often making their children daunted and afraid to say things.
As a parent, if you want to protect your child from bullying, you must learn to stand on the side of your child, so that your child will communicate with parents and teachers, of course, the key is to teach your child to resist on his own. Generally speaking, the earlier parents learn to speak out loud in the following 4 sentences, the more their children will not be bullied.
"I'm not afraid of you, you do it again, I'll tell the teacher right away"
The reason why many children who have been bullied and called have been bullied and called is because these children do not dare to resist each other, and they first lose in momentum. In fact, those children who bully people are often "bluffing", especially for the first time, they are often not really bullying, but testing you, as long as you dare to tell him loudly "I am not afraid of you, you do this to me again, I will tell the teacher", so that most of these children will not dare to bully again.
"This thing is mine, you can't grab it, otherwise I will tell the teacher immediately"
When many children are robbed of things, because the other party is menacing, it is likely to be frightened, in fact, as long as they resist loudly, the other party does not dare to do it again. The protagonist in the story "I Don't Like to Be Robbed" is to shock the boy who always likes to rob him after saying this sentence out loud.
"Don't make rumors, it hurts"
Children like to "joke" together, make up some non-existent rumors to coax, win attention, perhaps there is no actual malice, but for the children who are rumored, it is undoubtedly an insult and harm. So at this time, as a victim, you have to tell the other party loudly, don't spread rumors, I am hurt, if you do this again, I will take action, so that the other party will most likely be stopped.
"Stop laughing at me, please learn to respect people"
If a person always likes to laugh at you for fun, then at this time your reaction is to acquiesce or resist, undoubtedly determine the other party's next action, if you will only be silent and endure, the other party will most likely become more bullying you, so when you encounter ridicule, you must tell the child, to learn to refute the other party loudly.
The above four sentences are for the common bullying phenomena among children and let children learn to resist the expression, but we all know that for some particularly naughty children, it may not necessarily work, so as a parent or in the usual care of the child, once found that there is a situation that the child can not handle, parents must come forward to help the child, to give the child the greatest dependence. In addition, parents should still educate their children more in ordinary times, help them establish a sense of resistance, teach them to have the courage to express themselves when they encounter bullying, and learn to say no loudly.
This set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" uses the form of storytelling that children like very much, so that children can learn to encounter bullying from the experience of the protagonist of the story, how to express their true feelings, how to resist each other, and how to learn to protect themselves. The full set of books contains 8 different themes, and there are good introductions to the bullying phenomena that children may encounter in their daily lives and studies, which are very practical and targeted.
As a parent, since you want to protect your child, you can't choose to "escape" when a problem occurs, for example, if the child is bullied in this kindergarten, he will quickly change a kindergarten, but he does not know that this is completely a symptom rather than a cure. If you want to truly protect your children from bullying and let your children grow into a confident and optimistic child, you must help your children from the root, let them face unfair things, and learn to say "no" out loud. Well, today's content is here, if you also have children of this age, hurry up and order a single set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book", we, see you in the next issue.
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