Why do some people always meet noble people to help? Is it good luck? What do we have to do to get help from your people? Can you help your growth? I believe that many people have thought about these problems on their own growth path. What would happen if Jay Chou hadn't met Wu Zongxian? What would happen if Yue Yunpeng missed Guo Degang?
I think maybe they will succeed, after all, many people say that "gold will always shine"; it is also possible that it will be others who will succeed, after all, although the effort is most of the time to rely on themselves, if someone can "take you fly", it will really take a lot of detours, and even take you out of the desperate road!!! So how can we have the physique of "meeting nobles"? 1. Good at "asking for help" Noble people will not fall from the sky, even if your luck is good enough to rival the male protagonist in martial arts novels, those martial arts masters are not obliged to show kindness to a person who is unwilling to ask for help. The masters are busy, and believe me, they value time and attention far more than you might think. So why are so many people still unable to seize the opportunity to ask for help from people who are stronger than you, even if they are not willing to ask for help from people who are a little stronger than you in some aspect?
There are several reasons: First, I dare not ask for help. We are afraid of being rejected for help, afraid of being despised by "masters", which is also a manifestation of a lack of "security". In fact, it is not necessary, "masters" are not born, and most masters are not born "masters", and TA also start to accelerate their growth from constantly asking for help from other masters. The second is "fear of indebtedness." Especially in China (the debt of human affection is the most difficult to repay), most people have the "ask for help = trouble others", so if I don't come to trouble you, you will not come to trouble me in the future! Looking around, are there many people who think like this? Then "asking for help and helping" itself is not a zero-sum game of opposites, but a process of common progress. Although the helper grows after receiving help, the person who helps others actually consolidates the knowledge and even bursts out new ideas in thinking. With the mentality of "pleasing oneself and pleasing others", to achieve the result of "teaching and learning"; "teaching as learning" as the goal, and ultimately to achieve "common growth", this is the real "win-win".
The third is "will not ask for help." This reason can be the biggest stumbling block to "asking for help". Many people have been given a rare opportunity to ask for help or questions from people who are much stronger than themselves, and often at this time, because of insufficient preparation or in-depth thinking in advance, the questions asked or the content of the request for help are very superficial and low-level. And the real help is premised, if your question of asking for help does not deserve to be a problem (e.g. how to open GOOGLE in China?). Or if some questions you haven't thought deeply about yourself, then there's no need for anyone to waste time and attention on your laziness. Learning to "ask questions" is in itself an ability that a person should constantly "upgrade". The so-called "self-help person heavenly help", in fact, self-help and help should not be dualistic opposition / correct, precise, deep thinking after the "help" is also a kind of "self-help", but its form seems to be someone else helping themselves.
Therefore, if you want to have a noble person to help, you must be a person who is good at asking for help. You need to give up some of the so-called sense of security, not afraid of rejection; you need to get rid of the "help = trouble" mess, but also need to think deeply and ask accurate questions. 2. There are at least two forms of becoming a noble person: One is to become your own noble person Like this sentence: to be able to meet a noble person to a certain extent is inevitable, because it is a mirror of your own life, when you know that you are a noble person, life will help you find more noble people to help you. This result is actually inevitable. But when will the nobles appear? In what form? This is by chance. It is worth noting that living hard and staying enterprising is not for the sake of good luck, nor is it for the help of nobles. Having good luck and your help is a by-product of your hard work and progress. We desperately want to grow upwards, because life is supposed to be like this... It's as if the game is not just for the sake of falling treasure chests, but for the continuous growth of "life". Only if the level is high enough, you can open more maps and challenge more powerful bosses... Chests do excite us, but upgrades are the end in themselves. So after becoming your own nobleman, you will also be more confident, because this "nobleman" is always available and will never leave you! Is there such a good thing under the heavens?!
If you are a growing person, then you must have the opportunity to become a noble person of others. Maybe you'll be a little unconfident at first. You may think: I have just begun to walk on the road of hard work, how can anyone need to ask me for help? That's because you've been looking forward, and when you turn around a little, you'll find that there are countless people behind you or "struggling" to come to you or "sympathetically" looking at you, and for those who want to get out of mediocrity but are still hesitating, you are a down-to-earth "nobleman". However, in the beginning, the new "nobles" will also have self-doubt, will also look down on their own voices, always feel that their energy is too small, but as long as it is the right sound, they are not afraid of not enough decibels. Mr. Hu Shi said: Afraid of what truth is infinite, there is an inch of joy in an inch!
As long as you have something to say about the world, you may be whispering at first, but reason is not high; voice height does not mean that it will be heard, and hearing does not necessarily change others. So just be serious and bold in talking and talking, and help the person who asks you for help. It doesn't matter if someone else ends up feeling grateful or not, the moment you give, the reward is natural. And interestingly, as long as you stick with it, someone is bound to be attracted. As long as we insist on using our own voice to make screening, and build trust with continuous voice, then the "compound interest of growth" will definitely surprise you! To sum up: meeting a noble person on the road to growth is a very celebratable thing, and he can help you make rapid progress! And if you want to have the physique of "meeting nobles", first of all, you must be good at "asking for help". Nobles generally do not lick their faces and ask you: Little friend, I will take you with me, okay? People are busy!!! You have to give up some of the so-called sense of security and not be afraid of rejection; you have to give up the idea of "asking for help = bothering others"; you have to think deeply about the problem and then ask questions accurately, correctly, and concisely.
Second, you also need to turn yourself into a noble person. This can be achieved by "becoming your own nobleman" and "becoming someone else's nobleman". Remember forrest Gump in the movie "Forrest Gump"?! How many nobles has he become? How could he not have been his own nobleman? Sincerely enjoy reading, I hope you have something to gain every day. We'll see you next time!