Affection is warm, but it is also affection that hurts the most.
In fact, time will tell a person a lot of unexpected things, just like the so-called indifference of family affection, the ruthlessness of friends, for the so-called supremacy of interests, you can do whatever you want, and will not take into account some family affection, friendship, and love.
The bones of the disabled father are not cold, how to divide the 850,000 compensation?
Qi Lili (pseudonym) of Zhuji, Shaoxing, is the only daughter of the family, her parents have some physical disabilities, and there are also disability certificates, so life is not very good, but recently let Qi Lili sad, on January 5 this year, her father died suddenly when he was working in the factory due to overwork, and the employing unit compensated their family 850,000 yuan in a package of compensation.
Because the father's mother is still alive, that is, Qi Lili's grandmother, so if you want to get this compensation, you still need your grandmother's ID card and signature, but your uncle and aunt feel that grandma is older and can't tell her this news, lest grandma can't stand this blow, and finally the uncle took grandma's ID card to sign on behalf of them, and Qi Lili got the compensation.
In fact, it took some time to deal with this matter, resulting in the father's delay in burying for safety, and a lot of expenses were incurred during this period, plus the burial fee spent a total of 150,000 yuan, and the compensation of 850,000 yuan was only 700,000, but there was also a alimony belonging to the grandmother in the 700,000.
Because the compensation agreement included the item of grandma's alimony, but at that time, everyone did not negotiate how much alimony to give Grandma, in short, the total amount of the employing unit at the package price of 850,000 yuan was aftercare.
In dealing with her father's aftermath, Qi Lili suddenly saw red, went to the hospital to check on her to know that she was pregnant, and then she began to protect the fetus, and even had no time to live in the hospital, so many things added up to a lot of busyness.
According to the customs of the village, it was not easy to finish her father's five seven, Qi Lili received a call from her uncle, saying that this money should be given to her grandmother, give a thirty or fifty thousand, Qi Lili also agreed, but at least after giving the receipt must also be written, but what Qi Lili did not expect was that this matter was actually gone, and it was not over.
When she waited until march 10th, her aunt and uncle called her to come to the village to discuss the matter, at which time Qi Lili knew that her grandmother had long known the news of her father's death, and the phone call from her uncle was also called by grandma, but when her father was buried, grandma did not go, and in the new year, she also gave her grandma 2,000 yuan to use, and at that time she also hid that her grandmother's father had died, because she always thought that grandma did not know about this matter.
Of course, Qi Lili is not the reason for picking grandma, at that time the consultation aunt said to give sixty or seventy thousand, the uncle said to give 50,000, Qi Lili felt that no matter how much to give, there must always be a unification, and later agreed to give 50,000, but the premise is still to write a receipt, which once thought they directly said not to talk about this matter.
However, not long after, Qi Lili received a call from the court again, saying that her grandmother sued her and her mother for alimony in the compensation payment, and for a while Qi Lili was confused, and did not say no, mainly because things have not been discussed, right?
In Qi Lili's view, although the father was born by the grandmother, the father's growth experience is very bumpy, because more than 50 years ago, the father died unexpectedly when he was 9 years old, and then the grandmother remarried with the 6-year-old aunt and the 3-year-old uncle, and then gave birth to two daughters, and the father did not have the care of his parents, and his life was very difficult.
Even so, the father did not blame the grandmother, anyway, every new year will come to see the grandmother, Qi Lili felt, now the grandmother wants how much money, can be discussed with her face to face, the family does not need to make so stiff.
So what did Qi Lili's grandmother, Wang Ganniang, really think, and why did she sue so eagerly?
Wang Ganniang, 79 years old this year, admitted that she had indeed gone to the court to sue, but she corrected it, only sued her daughter-in-law, and did not include her granddaughter.
In fact, Wang Ganniang also learned about the death of the eldest son from the small talk of the villagers, when she also called the younger son to confirm the matter, the younger son told her that there was no matter, the eldest brother was fine, but the villagers spread very fiercely, and said that the eldest son's daughter-in-law and daughter were blessed, took so much compensation, and some people in the village asked Wang Ganniang, this money also has your share, how much money did you share? Is it divided into hundreds of thousands.
For a while, Wang Ganniang felt a little uncomfortable, she found her granddaughter's uncle, let her call her granddaughter to ask for money, but the granddaughter did not give her money for a long time, if the granddaughter gave her ten thousand and twenty thousand alimony during the New Year, then she would not say anything, the key is that there is no point, and she was also passed on by the villagers to share hundreds of thousands of dollars.
Wang Ganniang felt that if her daughter-in-law and granddaughter had the heart to give her money, then when they got 850,000 yuan in compensation, they should consult with her at the first time, rather than waiting for her to come to the door to urge.
Another Wang Ganniang thought that there was also a gap with the granddaughter's family, because before the eldest son's family wanted to buy a house, and then came back to ask her to borrow twenty thousand yuan, but she had no money, so she did not lend to the eldest son, and since then the eldest son's family seems to have an opinion and will not come to see her.
Now the granddaughter and daughter-in-law are slow to give this alimony, Wang Ganniang is a little anxious, she also called the eldest daughter to write a complaint, she wanted to sue the daughter-in-law, but was rejected by the eldest daughter, and then Wang Ganniang spent 10,000 yuan to find a lawyer, and then there was such a thing as a lawsuit.
Qi Lili is very aggrieved about this, buying a house is seven or eight years ago, when grandma still has a job, there is also income, aunt bought a house when grandma gave a sum of money, then their family bought a house when almost money, so they want to ask grandma to borrow some, and finally grandma did not borrow, they did not say anything, not to blame grandma, every year in the first month also still come to visit grandma.
Regarding the support of grandma, Qi Lili also said that in fact, Grandma did not let her father support her at all, because Grandma did not raise her father, and her uncles and several aunts were supporting Grandma, but from time to time Qi Lili would also give Grandma a little money.
Wang Ganniang also admitted that she did not let the eldest son support, anyway, the eldest son lived very hard from childhood, so she let the eldest daughter and the younger son who stayed around and the two daughters born after remarrying to support, but the words turned sharply, but Wang Ganniang said that she was also very bitter at that time, and even the sweet potato rice could not eat enough.
At this time, everyone persuaded Wang Ganniang, in fact, the granddaughter is still good to you, the family will sit and discuss, why take the road of prosecution, even if you get the money, won't the family relationship be broken? The people in the village also want to talk about you, and they also want to reassure the eldest son in the spirit of heaven, right?
But no matter how much persuasion, Wang Ganniang did not think so, she insisted on suing, she did not know how much money she could share, or the court judged the fairest, even if it was to let her pour out the money to give to her granddaughter, the most important thing is that the granddaughter-in-law also insulted her in front of the villagers the day before yesterday, which made Wang Ganniang more determined to take the road of prosecution.
It turned out that after Wang Ganniang sued, Qi Lili found her grandmother to negotiate this matter, in Qi Lili's view, grandma and her mother's side is not good to talk, then you can talk to her granddaughter, after all, she is the only only daughter in the family, if there is a brother, she will not be able to talk to her grandmother.
At that time, what she said to her grandmother was that how much money she wanted could be discussed, not without giving it to you, do you know what kind of life my mother has been living recently, what kind of life I have lived, what kind of life we have lived in these three months? After all, my father was gone, and we were all still immersed in grief and didn't come out.
Qi Lili means that her father's bones are not cold, and grandma has always wanted money, which is a bit chilling, and it is difficult to hear it, even if you want to find a suitable time.
However, the grandmother directly retorted to her at that time: "I am not dead husband, my husband is also dead", it is this sentence, Qi Lili cried on the spot, and her husband also felt that the grandmother was too excessive, and when she was angry, she insulted the grandmother: You are so old, why don't you face it, you robbed the dead man's money, your son died for three months, you don't even know where you are buried, how can you say such a thing?
Speaking of this, Qi Lili cried uncontrollably, she said that her husband was standing at the door and scolded her grandmother twice, maybe her husband was too angry to hold back.
However, Wang Ganniang on the side did not feel that she was too much, she explained that the meaning of saying this sentence at that time was that her granddaughter had always said that her mother was bitter, but she was also a husband in her fifties, and she was still so young when I did not have a husband, who had pitied me back then, I was also very bitter.
I have to say that Wang Ganniang's words are indeed a little difficult to accept, everyone is very bitter, but you can't compare your suffering with the suffering of others, let alone you can't be bitter, others must also be bitter, not to mention your own son and daughter-in-law, the son is gone, the granddaughter is still there, and the family affection also needs to continue.
But Wang Ganniang said that her son was gone, and there was nothing to say, anyway, she didn't want to say anything now, and she wanted to solve the matter through the court.
Qi Lili stressed that she and her mother never said not to give this alimony to grandma, and that she had previously finalized the amount of 50,000 yuan with her uncle and aunt, just hoping to receive a receipt.
Wang Ganniang said that she did not know this, her previous idea was to ask for one or two thousand on the line, if the granddaughter mentioned this to her at the New Year, or gave the money, then she was also willing to write a receipt, but the truth is that no one has ever told her.
At the moment, Qi Lili contacted her uncle to solve this matter, for the matter of her mother's prosecution, the uncle also said that she was very surprised, in his opinion, the family is ugly, the family can solve it and sit down to solve it, originally in recent years, and the brother of the compatriots went closer, if this is a lawsuit, then this family affection will be broken again.
Uncle confessed that before seeing his mother's age, he did not tell her about this matter, and then his mother knew that he was anxious to urge him to ask his sister-in-law for money, he was also very embarrassed, he did not know how to open his mouth, so he dragged on for several months, did not expect that the mother misunderstood that it was the sister-in-law and niece who did not give her money.
So the matter has come to this point, the uncle is also willing to persuade the mother to withdraw the lawsuit, and then negotiate the specific amount, but before persuading the mother, the uncle also accused the niece Qi Lili, insulting the old man is definitely not right, what is called dead money you also grab, you are all young people, people with culture and knowledge, how can you worry about the old man with old ideas.
In the end, after 20 minutes of persuasion from her uncle, Wang Ganniang still insisted on solving the matter through legal channels, even if she did not get a penny, it was to take a breath, this step was actually the step that Qi Lili did not want to take, but she could only accept it helplessly.
Emotional summary
In fact, the biggest problem of this contradiction is the reason why there are too many middlemen, at the beginning everyone is from the perspective of family affection, thinking that Wang Ganniang is older and concealing the news of the death of her eldest son.
But when Wang Ganniang learned the truth and did not communicate with the granddaughter's family face-to-face about the issue of alimony, it was still an intermediary in the middle of communication, the key is that the result of the communication was not in place, which led to Wang Ganniang not knowing that the granddaughter's family would give her money, and the granddaughter's family did not know that the grandmother had learned the news of her father's death, plus she was scolded, Wang Ganniang was determined to sue for compensation.
For Wang Ganniang, it is her right to sue, and there is nothing wrong with it, after all, this money does have her share, but if Wang Ganniang can also think more about family affection, things may not be like this, but from the perspective of Wang Ganniang's behavior, she does not seem to be a person who can think more about family affection.
Not long after the death of her son, the bones were not cold and eager to ask for compensation, coupled with the fact that her sons had died, it can be seen in this sentence that there is nothing to say, perhaps she does not want this affection, she feels that her granddaughter and daughter-in-law are outsiders, in the final analysis, Wang Ganniang's approach is really chilling.
For Qi Lili and her husband, although it is not right to scold people, it is not that the old man does everything right, what he does can be understood, forgiven, and angry to say two unpleasant words, which is also the common sentiment of people.
Affection should be warm, should not be cold and ruthless, more for the sake of family affection, they will also live happily and warmly, old and old, do not rely on the old to sell the old, the slow departure of relatives, is the beginning of their loneliness.