Read a little attention, the workplace does not get lost.
First, repeated praise, but was promoted to "Waterloo"
Less than two years after joining the company, the staff is small and high, and the work mood in the recent period can be described as a huge change from the peak to the trough.
Her business ability has always been very strong, she usually works very seriously, is often recognized by the leadership, and personally has the idea of promotion and salary increase.
And all this was seen by the supervisor Liu Jie, who had taken her earlier. However, Liu Jie did not want Xiao Gao, who was younger than herself and had a higher education than herself, to run to the front of her personal promotion, but she did not want to discourage the work enthusiasm of her subordinates, so she took advantage of various opportunities to deliberately praise Xiao Gao's work performance, and from time to time in front of everyone, she raised Xiao Gao's work goals.
Just last month, Xiaogao just completed nearly 20,000 yuan of customer orders. In this regard, Liu Jie praised XiaoGao in front of everyone: "Look at the small high, the company is not long, the work performance is so prominent, on the contrary, some old colleagues always stand still." Next, the goal of the small high is 40,000, and the promotion is also a matter of time, don't you have pressure? ”
For a time, Xiao Gao seemed to have become a "red man" in the business group. Moreover, in Xiao Gao's view, if the work performance can be further advanced, it is a natural thing to promote and raise salaries.
However, things did not go as she wished. First of all, the higher performance targets made the pressure on the small and high work increase sharply, and eventually failed to achieve the set goals. Moreover, I don't know which colleague, seeing that Xiaogao has recently been so "publicity", secretly made a small report to the leader, saying that she usually does not pay attention to unity with other colleagues. Later, the matter of Xiao Gao's promotion and salary increase was shelved.
Second, excessive praise is actually a kind of killing
In the workplace, being praised and praised by colleagues, as well as praise from leaders, is often a very beautiful thing, and the work enthusiasm of the praised person will be well mobilized.
However, if it is excessively praised and praised, it is not necessarily a good thing, and it is likely to mean that it will shift from positive "applause" to negative "applause". This is what we usually call workplace "killing". This technique is used very commonly and widely among individuals who have conflicts of interest with each other. Generally speaking, what can be called "killing" has the following three characteristics:
1. Praise it all. That is, for a thing, some people just blindly emphasize that you are doing a good job, and even for others who can see flawed things with their eyes, they still praise them without a bottom line, or grasp things to praise repeatedly, making people feel very fake and pretend.
2. With derogatory attributes. A job that is not particularly praiseworthy, everyone is doing, but it can grasp an aspect or detail from it to praise someone. At the same time, on this basis, we began to deliberately belittle others, causing discomfort and resistance among everyone.
3. Obviously deliberately exaggerated. Even if you do a little thing, it is also regarded as a love company, a manifestation of standing and responsibility, and unprincipledly elevating the meaning and value of your work. And, from time to time, overestimate your ability to work next and the corresponding performance.
There is a saying, the opposite is true. The way in which workplace killing is expressed is basically the same. On the surface, it is setting up a stage for you, but in fact it is dismantling the stage, and it is also necessary to mobilize other people to come together. The goal is to get you out of office as soon as possible. As the saying goes, the killing is cool for a while, and the crematorium after the killing.
Third, to prevent killing, you must understand these 3 points
The "killing" mechanism of workplace killing is similar to "boiling frogs in warm water", through the so-called "sweet words", you put on a top hat, feel very comfortable, and even take it for granted, unconsciously lose vigilance, and when you really perceive it, the person who praised you at first has actually pulled the "hatred" from others for you, and then want to change, but it is too late.
Therefore, to prevent killing in the workplace, it is necessary for individuals to remain sober at all times, see tricks and tricks, and prevent problems before they occur.
1. Lower expectations
There is a saying that the higher you climb, the harder you fall. The most direct embodiment of the use of workplace killing is to find ways to push you to a higher place, and when you reach a certain time, you will feel that you cannot get off the stage, so that the purpose of convenience can be achieved. Therefore, the key to the way of handling is to be able to raise the other party without a bottom line and principle, turn it into nothing or turn it into the norm.
The usual practice, one is to remain modest, no matter the work performance or other aspects, how much achievement has been achieved, it must be clearly stated that this time is only accidental, it is under certain conditions, such as the care of the organization, the guidance of the leader, the acquisition of opportunities, etc., all rely on good luck. Other colleagues know that there are many other factors that contribute to this, in addition to personal ability.
In addition, appropriate weakness. When hearing others "praising" themselves, appropriately "self-blackening" to expose this "shortcoming weakness", so that other people's "praise" becomes a real sense of boasting, into rumors, the effect of praise will be discounted and weakened,
In the workplace, some things also pay attention to "soft and rigid", turning the other party's simple and rough, and using the method of borrowing force to fight into the "end of the strong crossbow", which is not only a respect for others, but also a kind of protection for oneself.
2. Alleviate the degree of hatred
The core point of killing can "kill people invisible", and the core point is to disparage and exclude others in disguise when you succeed, thus causing "hostility" from other personnel. At this time, individuals must not eat "alone", but to know how to share, the more you share, the less hatred of others will be towards you.
For example, if the year-end bonus of 10,000 yuan is spent at home, you can ask colleagues around you to rub a meal or send a small gift, etc., and even take out a certain amount for the department's public welfare and public equipment, so that even if you are jealous of your people and want to gossip, you are not embarrassed to open your mouth.
To tell the truth, everyone in the workplace likes to be recognized by the leader, get rewards from the organization, and become the focus of others' eyes, but also easily become a slot in his population.
In this case, we must learn to share the credit to everyone, transfer the credit to the leader, and regard the rewards obtained as the result of the hard work of the whole department and the whole group.
Therefore, the way to reduce the "hostility" of the same level and make them an ally is to share the benefits and share the blessings.
3. Maintain a sense of boundaries
As the saying goes, "Different ways do not conspire", when someone deliberately kills you, if you react too strongly, everything will respond at all times. Sometimes, on the contrary, it will make the people who intend to frame themselves more unscrupulous, more arrogant, and the whole thing is often more and more unfavorable to themselves.
I remember a friend of mine, working in a private company, with few people and many things, and I was very busy every day. There is a post in the department where the employee is the boss's relative H, usually only responsible for collecting and sorting out information, perhaps because the work is too light, from time to time like to find nothing to do, see others are not good.
Whoever works a little more actively and works harder, she will raise her: "You work so hard, ambition can be ah, the next XX position must be you." "If you reason with her, she will find time to argue with you every day, so that you don't have time to take care of your work."
In this way, you must know not to entangle with idle people, not to compete with bad things. Realizing that you are different from this type of person, that things are not handled this way, that it is necessary to stay away from her is also a silent counterattack, and when you are not cold to her, she will be helpless to you.
In "Cai Gen Tan", it is said: "Life is too idle, then don't think about stealing life." "It is intended to point out that people who are too idle are not many. Keep a fair distance from idlers like this and not be disturbed by them. Instead, according to their own work rhythm and interpersonal handling, they should do their own work and have good relations with other colleagues.
Over time, naturally someone knows the intentions of such a person and who is a person, and his (her) so-called killing will also be self-defeating.
epilogue
The heart of harming people must not be there, the heart of preventing people must not be without, and the phenomenon of killing in the workplace is not terrible. The terrible thing is that you are killed and still have no idea. Or, as soon as you know that you are being targeted, you are confused and affect your work status.
In the face of this "killing" strategy in the workplace, we can neither care nor be too serious about the competition, but we must go with the flow, actively defend, always stay sober, and protect ourselves, so that your ability to survive will become stronger and stronger.
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