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Before a message made headlines, many colleges and universities prohibited students from having relationships before marriage, which triggered heated discussions among netizens.
There are many voices of opposition, and the content of the opposition is cynicism, thinking that this kind of regulation is very funny, it is better to go directly back to the feudal era.
In fact, the people who oppose it are basically men, in fact, this kind of regulation in the school is a regulation to protect girls. But all girls who have experience must know this.
I believe that parents with daughters must also support this provision.
In terms of raising daughters, in addition to this one, which is recognized by all parents, in the process of raising daughters, parents will also have some differences.
For example, whether a girl should be pampered or strictly educated, for example, whether she should make her daughter a tolerant person or let her daughter learn to defend her rights.
There is no good or bad in raising children, as long as the parenting is in place, excellent girls can appear in all directions.
Hou Patzen's growth experience, parents may wish to understand
Hou Patzen's mother, Lin Yueru, was a third party to intervene, and later gave birth to Hou Patzen, after which she left Hou Patzen's father.
Like many young girls who make mistakes, Lin Yueru has been waiting for Hou Patzen's biological father to divorce, but the other party has delayed divorcing, and Hou Patzen has become an "illegitimate daughter".
From the bastard daughter who was ridiculed at the beginning, to later becoming the first beautiful female anchor in the whole station, a number of famous stars must be ranked behind, Hou Peichen is Lin Yueru's "king bomb".
In order to support her daughter and provide a good life for her daughter, Lin Yueru later made Qiu Jiaxiong's qf.
The mother and daughter also lived a good life from that time, and Hou Patzen transformed into a princess and lived in a large villa.
But no matter how materially and mentally, she could never get rid of the reality of "no father".
Once because her classmates laughed at her for not having a father, she quarreled with her classmates, and then this matter let her mother know, Lin Yueru did not help her daughter, but said to little Hou Patzen: Others scolded you, you don't return your mouth, you have to endure, and then meet to take the initiative to say hello, if the other party ignores you, you keep greeting, until the other party ignores you.
Hou Patzen grew up in such an educational way, whenever there are children in the family, if the children grab the toys, Hou Patzen must let each other, this is the mother's education and guidance.
In addition, the time when Hou Patzen sleeps, the time she gets up, and the time she studies are strictly stipulated, and she must strictly implement them according to the schedule made by her mother.
The strictness of her mother made the little Hou Patzen learn to observe the color from a young age, although the living conditions have always been good, but she does not regard herself as a princess, and has always maintained a humble attitude.
In addition, Lin Yueru took her own experience as the first, and she taught her daughter that she must maintain a "perfect body" before marriage.
And Hou Peichen has always adhered to this principle, because of good grades, good figure, exquisite features, Hou Peichen has always been the perfect girl in the hearts of boys, there are many suitors around, from the student era to enter the workplace is the same, even Jay Chou once fell under Hou Patzen's pomegranate skirt.
Hou Patzen's feelings are very rich, there are luxury car transfers during college, she finally married Huang Baijun, vice president of sales of Citi Global Securities, the two people have maintained a stable relationship after marriage, a few years ago, Huang Baijun also followed his wife on a variety show.
Should I be harsh or tolerant of my daughter?
After watching Hou Patzen's growth experience, I felt very deeply, for Lin Yueru's set of methods of teaching women, any one of them is unacceptable to me.
When the child is angry outside, we will think that the mother should help the child to be angry, at least not to let the child be wronged, especially not to tell the daughter to be patient everywhere, so that the child becomes a person without self.
However, under the strict education of his mother, Hou Peichen became a very good person, why is this?
In fact, Lin Yueru's education method is not suitable for ordinary families, Lin Yueru is a cruel person, perhaps the first relationship is really paid, but in the end it was disappointed, and as a third party to intervene, it was originally criticized by the world, but the daughter is innocent.
Everything she did after that was so that her daughter could have a good growth environment, and later she still did not take the normal path, because finding an ordinary person to marry and start a family could not guarantee a good education for her daughter, and it was possible to continue to have children, and her daughter would be neglected.
So she chose to be someone else's qf, of course, Lin Yueru when she was young also had this capital.
Her life revolves around her daughter, hoping to provide a good life for her daughter, she did it, and at the same time she has strict requirements for her daughter, so that her daughter tolerates others everywhere, because the people that Hou Patzen faces are always different from the people that ordinary people face, and the class she is in determines that the people she faces are either rich or expensive.
It is precisely because of her mother's strict education that Hou Patzen has become the later look, always with a shallow smile on her face, never quarreling with people, mild personality, just right, and always seems to protect herself well.
It is precisely because of this personality that she has a later fame.
When the initial contact, you will feel that she is fake, but more contact, but you can feel her warmth, Xiao S initially evaluated Hou Peichen as "true and false", and later Hou Peichen helped her get her in-laws, Xiao S accepted this friend in his heart, and gave this friend a very high evaluation.
I have a new idea for raising my daughter
I have always hoped that my daughter can live freely within a certain rule range, hoping that she will be unrestrained, unrestricted, and have great freedom in her personality.
However, children enjoy great freedom in the process of growing up, and after entering society in the future, they will have the same sense of constraint, and the sooner the child adapts to the sense of bondage, the more powerful the ability to survive.
Now that my child is 3 years old and has entered the nursery, I have made some slight adjustments to my previous education and guidance methods, and I feel that it is time to be strict with my children.
The more tolerant the parents are, the more arrogant the child is, and when the parents become strict, the child is able to restrain his behavior, know what to do at what time, and can do it well.
How to educate children is a matter for parents themselves, and we must believe that any parenting method can educate excellent children.
However, one thing is certain, in the process of children's growth, at a certain stage, parents must strictly restrain their children, and children will become more and more excellent.