In May 2013, there was a very popular movie based on a true story in major movie theaters called "The Chinese Partner".
The film is full of big coffee, including Huang Xiaoming, Deng Chao, Tong Dawei, telling the story of three young people starting a business, becoming a classic of the times, and the producer of this film is Tian Pujun.
In addition to the identity of producer, Tian Pujun has many professional labels: actor, best-selling author, producer, speaker, entrepreneur, interior designer...
In 2014, he was named "Esquire" Crossover Person of the Year.
In 2016, it was listed on the hot search list of star entrepreneurs, ranking first among female entrepreneurs.
In 2017, he won the Beijing News "China Fashion Power List" - "Annual Crossover Designer" Award...
She used these identities step by step to prove the independence of her thoughts and actions, but the public eye was always attached to the original label , "the woman of the king".
In this era of "entertainment to death", everyone prefers to watch the gossip news of beautiful women rather than watching women engage in careers.
But now this solidified label is no longer important to her.
Because over the years, with her hard work and momentum, she has continuously broadened the track of life, and unconsciously has become the best version of herself.
Some wonder, where does her courage to start over come from every time she chooses to start over?
Tian Pujun replied: "Enrich life, otherwise life is boring." ”
Tian Pujun, born in Shanghai to a well-to-do family, is the only daughter.
In 2001, despite her family's opposition, she gave up her home theater and went to Beijing to be admitted to the Central Academy of Drama.
During her school days, because she lacked money, she had to skip class to shoot advertisements. The money was earned, but he was ordered to withdraw from school because of lack of school.
The argument was fruitless, and she secretly swore in her heart, "Tian Pujun, you will live like this in the future."
After leaving the Central Academy of Drama, Tian Pujun was fortunate to receive a call from director Wang Jing, inviting her to audition in Hong Kong.
The turning point of fate happened at this moment.
The first filming was to cooperate with Chen Xiaochun, Leung Ka Fai, Chen Guanxi and other big names to participate in Wang Jing's "Divine Courage Iron King Kong", and at the end of the film, she successfully signed a contract with a Hong Kong agency.
In the film "Divine Courage Iron King Kong", Tian Pujun played a female agent
In 2004, the brokerage company recommended her to Chen Kexin. In 2006, Tian Pujun realized that the development had encountered a bottleneck and gave up the dream of being an actor, but she was somewhat unwilling, and Tian Pujun also cried bitterly for this.
"At the age of 23, I moved from show business to real estate, and for a time I didn't know what I could do or where the future lay. Giving up the dream of being an actor at such a young age?
I also cried, couldn't sleep for a few nights, and dreams and reality always fought. ”
She chose to join a real estate company and started to work on the acquisition of the rotten building, and at the same time, entered Cheung Kong Graduate School of Business to study media management.
Over the past few months, Tian Pujun has accumulated investment knowledge, and the first single has earned a lot of money and successfully crossed the line.
Tian Pujun, who transformed into an intellectually elegant and strong businesswoman, has been appreciated by more people.
To outsiders, she seems to have taken some detours, but the road she has walked unconsciously is based on each other.
In 2012, Tian Pujun also made a cameo appearance in the TV series "The Biography of Harem Zhen Huan" as "Prince Fujin of Dun".
In the TV series "The Legend of Harem Zhen Huan", Tian Pujun played Fu Jin, the Prince of Dun
In 2013, when the movie "Chinese Partner" was released, Tian Pujun gave up her role as an actress and became a producer, and her filming experience and contacts in Hong Kong came in handy.
After that, she traveled to Europe, America and Japan to produce the "Thank You" series of cultural documentaries.
In the documentary, the famous designer Givenchy talked to her about Audrey Hepburn, the members of the fashion brand Fendi family made her rings, the former British prime minister talked to her about life principles, and Prince Charles's cousin exercised with her...
Tian Pujun believes: "We need to make us remember through the sense of ceremony, so that when we are 70 or 80 years old, we will not forget the details of that moment." ”
Her dreams and ambitions had only just begun, and she set up a personal studio, started a film and television company, and began to publish books.
On October 8, 2021, the interview program "Common Talk" hosted by her was scheduled to be broadcast on Tencent Video.
In dialogue with celebrities, Tian Pujun still maintains the same elegance as ever, and time seems to be particularly gentle on her.
Now she still looks like she is in her twenties, and her rich life experience has given her the warmth and humility of a mature woman.
Tian Pujun is an arrogant person in his bones, unwilling to accept defeat, and the more frustrated he is, the more courageous he is.
This kind of personality is deeply influenced by the original family.
When she was a child, her father raised her as a boy, very strict, did not allow her to be spoiled, and basically never hugged her since she could walk.
The mother would say, "Look at how other people's children are," and then the father would get angry next to her, and the mother would "stir up the fire."
Supposedly, as the only child in the family, she should have been favored by her parents, but strangely she didn't.
When he was 10 years old, Tian Pujun went home to get a rubber band because he forgot it.
Accidentally heard his father yelling at his mother at the door, he dreamed of a son!
Tian Pujun understood the truth, and it turned out that he was not accepted at home.
She cried sadly in the corner for almost a night. I silently swore in my heart that I would not rely on men in this life, and I must be stronger than men in this life.
When I grew up, I once went to the north in order to escape the "pressure" education of my parents.
Later she said:
"This educational model has brought me a benefit, my resistance to frustration and pressure is very strong.
So that now I can face the criticism of the face does not change color, many people praise my psychological quality is good, do not know that compared to my parents' education of me, bad evaluation is really nothing. ”
In the five years of changing careers, everything was strange and needed to be explored by oneself, and Tian Pujun's ability to resist pressure was reflected.
In her book, "Be Tough on Yourself," she looks back on those days and describes:
"When I first started working, I would dream of talking to people about contracts, and I could even memorize that contract."
Once, in order to deliver a document to the client, Tian Pujun waited for three hours in the secretary's office, and the secretary said that the boss wanted to take a nap and let her go out to wait, and in the heat of forty degrees Celsius outside, she stood for more than two hours, and due to exposure, her face was full of rashes.
If she hadn't had the original attachment that had to achieve the goal, she wouldn't have been able to become the Tian Pujun she is today.
Later she was going to renovate the house, and a designer friend laughed at her for not understanding design and not having an aesthetic.
A joke aroused Tian Pujun's fighting spirit.
She has read almost all the design books in the New York Design Library, and now her villa decoration is designed by herself, and friends will come to her for advice if they want to decorate the house.
As she grew older, Tian Pujun completed self-transcendence.
On birthdays, Dad sends congratulatory text messages.
"Now, my dad sometimes tells me that he's very proud of me."
Tian Pujun was very moved, she finally reconciled with her family, but also reconciled with herself, letting go of herself who has been fighting with gender prejudice.
It's an age of anxiety, and staying happy isn't an easy task.
If a woman wants to maintain her charm and temperament, she must improve herself from the inside out and create her own characteristics.
Tian Pujun's method is: control emotions and maintain self-discipline.
In the book "Be Tough on Yourself", Tian Pujun tells how he copes with emotions.
The year tian Pujun's mother was diagnosed with breast cancer was the darkest time of her life, and she even felt weak when she spoke.
So go to the Chinese medicine doctor for diagnosis, the doctor told her, you are emotionally depressed.
At that time, a friend happened to come to Beijing to visit her, and she did not want to neglect her friend, so she said to her friend, "Let's go to the movies." ”
Because then she wouldn't have to talk.
During that time, she used painting to dispel her emotions, sometimes from morning to night.
In life, the expectations of others, their own roles, will be a source of stress, in order to maintain a good mood, Tian Pujun set a "zero plan" for herself.
In 2020, she practiced in the temple for a short time and lived a period of isolation.
Morning classes at three or four o'clock, meditation, chanting, ringing bells, meditating, copying the scriptures...
After school, clean up and do some chores, take a break at nine o'clock, drop the label, and wash away the distractions
Try to make yourself flexible to live, and you can have a restart mentality at any time.
Now Tian Pujun will learn foreign languages after work, learn interior design, insist on controlling diet in order to maintain her figure, and specify a daily work schedule...
Tian Pujun said: "I have seen women in their 60s who are still very attractive, and I have also seen girls in their 20s who are particularly tasteless. ”
She believes that "what can defeat a woman is not a broken marriage and an increasing age year by year, we must always keep a forward posture and bravely move forward." ”
In the 20 years since she left home in 2001, she has written a legend of a female counterattack:
Coming from an ordinary family, being dropped out of school, being an unknown young actor, to becoming a celebrity in Manhattan, mingling with celebrity politicians, becoming an entrepreneur, becoming a producer of big movies, she does not know how many classes she has crossed.
Looking back on the road she has traveled, she divides her heart's transformation into three stages:
20 years ago, the future was very unknown, there was a lot of uneasiness and a lot of uncertainty, and it would be easy to envy what others had achieved.
I started leading the team 10 years ago, and at that time I was more likely to get the affirmation of others.
Now I am very grateful for the moment, and now I feel very happy. ”
For more than thirty years, Tian Pujun's heart has slowly changed.
"As a child, I longed to be a visual focal point, like to express, steal the scene, do not give others space to express, after entering the adult world, I found that this personality is very socially disadvantaged, it is very easy to cause a social dilemma that everyone complains about." 」
Now she knows how to guide and listen.
Once, in the process of negotiating with others, Tian Pujun was too tired, did not adopt a tough attitude as usual, but kept repeating his demands, and finally won the support of the other side.
Tian Pujun realized that this was called showing weakness.
It turns out that life is sometimes more useful to show weakness than strength.
Gradually, she let go of the hustle and bustle of the past and made herself more like a foil, which is probably what the ancients called "dust with light".
She knows exactly what she wants and clearly plans her career.
Now that the dust has settled on the first half of her life, she said: "I want to do things on the premise that I have to make myself feel happy, because I have affirmed myself." 」 ”
It reminds me of teacher Xu Bing's words: "As long as you have experienced it, it will be reflected in your art as a gene." ”
Life itself is also art, and every step you take is carving your own life.
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