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Previously, 52-year-old Zhong Liti broke down and cried in the live broadcast room, and the fierce emotions overwhelmed netizens.
On the same day, Zhong Liti appeared on her face to open the live broadcast, and in the process of chatting with fans, her mood was suddenly difficult to alleviate.
She cried bitterly as she complained:
"I know a lot of people laugh at my marriage, laugh at my dress style, laugh at my figure, but I'm also a mom of three, don't ask too much of me."
After waiting for a moment, Zhong Liti wiped the tears that flowed down her cheeks, and then said:
"I'm 52 years old, I'm afraid you say that my husband and I have a big age gap, I have tried my best to be in fitness, beauty, and keep myself in the best condition."
After saying all the words in her heart, Zhong Liti bluntly said that she was too tired to live.
The fans in the live broadcast room all tried to calm her emotions, but Zhong Liti was still difficult to calm down.
In fact, from the state of Zhong Liti in the live broadcast room, it can be seen that her state has been better than many women of the same age, but she did not think that her heart was still so depressed, still living in the words of others and unable to withdraw.
Remember that Mr. Yang Dai once said:
"We once longed so much for the waves of fate, and only later did we find that the most beautiful scenery in the world is the tranquility and tranquility of the heart;
We have been so eager for the approval of others that we have finally discovered that life is our own and has nothing to do with others. ”
In the end, you are the only master of your own life, do not let the words of others control your life.
It is enough to actively live your life at your own pace.
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I've seen a fable story.
A pair of grandchildren led a donkey to the road, and the people on the street saw it and said, "This pair of grandchildren is really stupid, why should they lead a donkey to the road and not ride a donkey?" ”
When the grandparents heard this, they quickly let the grandson ride on the donkey.
After a while, passing by a village, the villagers saw the situation and pointed at them behind their backs: "Why is this grandson so ignorant of filial piety, riding a donkey himself, not letting Grandpa ride a donkey." ”
Grandpa thought it made sense, so he let his grandson get down and ride up on it himself.
Passing through another village, the villagers saw the old man riding on a donkey and talked about it again: "This grandfather is disrespectful to the old man, and he does not know how to love his grandson at all, and he actually rides a donkey to let his grandson walk." ”
The grandparents listened, did not know how to be good, and finally had to carry the donkey to the road.
Even at this time, there was still ridicule around: "This pair of grandchildren are very stupid, why do they still carry a donkey and don't know how to ride a donkey to hurry?" ”
No matter how the grandparents rushed, there were always all kinds of different voices around them, and there was always someone pointing fingers at their actions.
Is this experience familiar?
If you always care about what others think, then throughout your life, you are living in the expectations of others, and you gradually lose your way and lose yourself.
Only by living in your own rhythm and quitting the colored eyes of others can you live yourself and not be swayed by others.
If you care too much about the eyes of others, you will never live your true self.
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The self-media people's table once resolutely blocked a friend next to him.
How annoying is this friend?
When I first started learning to write, I often posted my own words in social circles to express some of my views on life.
Most of my friends either commented sincerely or encouraged them with their hearts, but only this friend always pointed out in his lofty tone.
After posting an inspirational article, he commented: "This poisonous chicken soup is too greasy. ”
After posting an educational article, he commented: "It doesn't work logically at all. ”
Wrote some life insights, he also did not let go of the message: "There are too many negative energy, the values are not right." ”
Another time, the table's car had a problem, sent a photo in the circle of friends for help, he came to secretly poke and poke the table to show off, and even said that the table did not buy a domestic car is not patriotic.
In a fit of rage, the table decisively blacked out the benevolent brother. After the blackening, the table felt refreshed.
Wang Xiaobo once said:
"Mouth foam, making a big value judgment on others, the level is very low."
There are too many people who habitually stand on the high lines of morality and life, intervening in the lives of others in a high-profile manner.
They even use the worst minds, the most mean labels, to evaluate a person.
We can't control others, and the only thing we can do is control ourselves.
We can choose to stay away from them, or even the table-like resolute blackouts around us.
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Psychologist Brian Little divides personality into two categories.
One is a low-self-monitoring avocado-type personality, and the other is a high-self-monitoring onion-type personality.
Among them, self-monitoring refers to self-observation, self-control and self-regulation according to the clues of the surrounding situation, reflecting the individual's tendency to manage impressions in work and life situations.
The avocado is characterized by a hard core that is constant when dug deep, while the onion is characterized by peeling off layer by layer, and the kernel cannot be seen at the end.
Low self-monitoring people are more like avocados, have a stable kernel, and do not easily change with the outside; high self-monitoring people are more like onions, have no hard core, and are more likely to change with the outside.
In other words, make an onion, you will be like the clouds, without your own rhythm, afraid that you will not be able to meet the requirements of others, and always live in the shadow of others.
On the contrary, to make an avocado, you will have a firm heart, do not care about the words of others, always care about the pursuit of the heart, no matter when and where, you will not forget yourself, live yourself.
Life that is not swayed by others, the highest level.
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