Sanmao said:
"Young people make friends, out of a fervent heart, eager to go to the twilight, life and death together."
In life, perhaps in the hearts of too many people, the relationship between two people is good, then it should be done without talking.
It is best not to have secrets, which is the greatest sincerity of communication.
But the hardest thing in the world to look at is the human heart.
No matter how good the relationship is, blindly being honest to the point of no reservation will often only increase the probability of being hurt.
People interact with each other, never the more transparent the better, nor the more transparent, the more intimate the relationship.
Some secrets cannot be shared, and some words are only suitable for hiding in the bottom of the heart.
Regret for the past
There is a saying:
"The best attitude towards regretting the past is to let it leave no trace in front of others."
Walking in the world, everyone will experience some things that make them regret and regret.
These things, every time they are mentioned, it is like the wound of the scab is torn again, so we usually hide it.
However, people always have vulnerable times, there are always moments of touching the scene, so many people will choose to talk about their sorrows with people who have good relations around them.
In their hearts, if two people have a good relationship, the other party will be able to understand themselves and explain themselves, so that they can get some comfort.
But in fact, there is no empathy in the world, you have a thousand arrows through the heart, you do not want to die, it is only your own business.
I once saw a conversation like this:
"I'm out of love!"
"Oh!"
"I've been framed!"
"Hmmm!"
"I lost my favorite job!"
"Ah!"
That's right, that's the most heartfelt reality.
Maybe something is very serious in you and makes you very broken, but in the minds of others, it is just a very ordinary small talk!
Ji Xianlin once said in "Sorrow and Joy Self-Crossing":
"On the road of life, everyone is a lonely traveler. There are thousands of conditions in the world, bittersweet, ups and downs, except for self-transit, others can not help. ”
When you think you talk about your heartache and sadness with others, others will feel sorry for them.
But in fact, what you say, 80% of people are indifferent, 90% will be schadenfreude, and 1% who really understand you, they have more than enough and lack of strength.
Seeing more people's feelings, you should understand that some words are only adding to the troubles, and some grievances must be swallowed by themselves after all.
Ambitious
In life, everyone will have vanity, so many people are accustomed to saying something about their lofty ambitions.
Perhaps in their hearts, they will feel that the more they talk about their future plans, the more they will be envied and valued.
But in fact, no one in the world really wants you to live well.
Blindly boasting and showing off will inevitably stab others, and even sometimes make enemies, bringing unnecessary trouble to yourself.
There was once such a colleague.
He is warm and cheerful, and his work is serious, but there is a little bit of bad, that is, he loves to be angry.
When communicating with people, they will always talk about their goals and ambitions, what must be promoted within a year, and how many projects must be completed within two years.
The speaker has no intention, the listener has intentions, perhaps in his view this is just his own ambition, but in the hearts of others is a naked show off.
Whenever he talked, there would be silence around him, not only would no one talk to him, but too many people would have a look of disgust on their faces.
So once, when he was working on a project, no one was willing to cooperate with him, and eventually the project was messed up, and he was punished.
It is also because of this incident that he has converged a lot, and his popularity has become better and better since then.
Ancient Cloud:
"Wood shows that the wind in the forest will destroy it; the pile will come out of the shore, and the flow will be turbulent."
The people in the world who can really be liked and recognized have always been the kind of people who are calm and low-key, leaving the limelight to others.
Therefore, it is good to work hard to achieve your own ambitions, and there is no need to tell others.
When you restrain yourself from publicity, you can be more easily recognized and liked, so as to do things well.
Wealth on the body
We often say that wealth is not exposed.
Perhaps many people will always have such an idea, that is, since the relationship is good, then the other party will definitely be happy for their success.
But human nature is, everyone wants to be good, but no one wants you to be better than him.
Once you expose your wealth, it will inevitably make people jealous, and eventually bring you endless troubles.
I have seen such a short video story on the Internet:
"Three years ago, I made 500,000 yuan from raising fish, I told others, but within a few days my fish pond was drugged!"
I made another $1 million this year, but I chose to keep my mouth shut. ”
Yes, that's exactly what the human heart is.
Don't think that as long as you don't hurt others and you have no malice towards others, then others won't be hostile to you.
In fact, sometimes, the "sudden rich" thing is the fuse that triggers the greatest hostility.
The Law of Jealousy mentions:
"A person is often not jealous of strangers, but will be red-eyed and jealous of the familiar people around them who are better off than themselves."
Life is actually like this, and the human heart is like this.
If you want not to add to your troubles, then you should not let others feel that you have gone lucky, but know how to behave appropriately and not be so lucky.
When you know how to hide your wealth and do not disclose your wealth to others, then you can not be remembered, not hated, and less troublesome.
In this life, everyone will have too many things, no matter how good the relationship, it is not suitable to talk to others.
Only when you keep some secrets will you not expose your weaknesses.
So as not to be hurt and consumed by others, let your life be comfortable.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.