Once, he was the most outstanding teenager in the eyes of other parents.
However, in his own opinion, how many people know about the "Werther troubles" of his youth.
He is the well-known child star "Tile Head" Gong Ao, who hosted "The Big Windmill" when he was a child.
Some people say that Gong Ao was born with a golden spoon,
Although this sounds a bit exaggerated, compared to other peers,
Gong Ao's life starting point is indeed very high.
He was born in Beijing to a typical intellectual family.
His grandfather was an engineer and his father worked as a sound recordist on the Central People's Radio.
My mother was also remarkable, not only was she a high-achieving student at Beijing Normal University at that time, but she also worked for Xinhua News Agency.
Such a family, let Gong Ao's parents, especially his mother,
Since childhood, on the road of educating his son to become a talent, he has taken a few more steps than other parents.
When his mother was in college, she studied early childhood education.
Therefore, she must apply her educational philosophy to the growth of her son.
As soon as the child was born, the mother, Dai Huiming, was thinking about how to get her son educated.
Just after the full moon, her teaching method officially began.
For other parents, the children at this time are still young and dare not carry them out of the house.
However, Dai Huiming ignored the persuasion of his family and carried his son into the cold wind of early spring in Beijing.
Such weather should not be said to be children, even adults may not be able to bear it.
However, she carried the child out every day to let him adapt to the outside climate early.
Six months later, she was carrying her child through the buses and subways in Beijing.
After the child grows up day by day and learns to walk, the suffering to be suffered has just begun.
At that time, Gong Ao's grandparents and grandparents had retired.
There are four elderly people in the family, and it is more than enough to say that taking care of children is completely enough.
But Dai Huiming just didn't let the old man take the child, and she sent Gong Ao to the nursery.
Six days a week, I stay in the nursery.
No matter how the child cries, the mother is unmoved.
In Dai Huiming's view, children must exercise their ability to stand on their own feet from an early age.
Growing up like this, Gong Ao's side can be said to have no relatives since childhood.
Every week, the mother came alone to pick him up and looked at the child's lonely look,
Motherhood can occasionally be a big touch.
But after that, she should still send it or send it.
In the treatment of his son's education, Dai Huiming will never back down.
The post-80s and post-90s people know gong ao from the program of "Big Windmill".
The kid on TV has a very slippery mouth.
But Gong Ao was able to become a small host, but at first it was not because of his own mouth slipping.
When Gong Ao was almost three years old, his personality became introverted, and he was still stuttering when he talked about anything.
This can frighten Dai Huiming, in order to let his son reverse this trend,
She decided to take her children to a TV show.
At that time, CCTV held a children's singing competition.
Under the tutelage of his mother, Gong Ao participated in the competition and won the grand prize.
Subsequently, he began to sing the theme song for the cartoon, and followed the host of CCTV, and frequently appeared on camera.
When he was 7 years old, he grew up with the movie "Growing Up with Love".
He was nominated for the Best Actor of the Hundred Flowers Award.
So many achievements at a young age have benefited from Dai Huiming's cultivation since childhood.
And in this process, Gong Ao gradually understood things,
But I know very well how terrible the bitterness behind it is.
At that time, there was nothing good to eat in the family, and there was always no share of palace pride.
The old man in the family is distressed about his grandson, and always steals to buy a lot of snacks.
However, in the end, they will be blocked by their mothers.
For this reason, the old man in the family always "protested" to Dai Huiming, and it was too harsh to treat his son.
In addition, when she was a child, she was a mother and never bought new clothes for her son.
The clothes gong ao wore when he was a child were all the old clothes of his two cousins when they were young.
The old man protested again, looking at the children in the school, what they were wearing, and what Gong Ao was wearing.
But Dai Huiming was still unmoved.
Wearing old clothes is both frugal and allows children to let go and play.
For those children who get dressed, the parents are always worried that they will get their clothes dirty and broken.
And Dai Huiming is not worried that the child will be like this,
She hoped that Gong Ao could play everywhere, even if it was to roll on the ground.
It is under the strict discipline of Dai Huiming that the problem of children stuttering is not only gone,
And only after that did a series of achievements.
When Gong Ao became a child star, his life changed differently from other children.
The other children played in the company of their parents on Sundays, while he himself went to various activities.
Often on Monday mornings, you have to catch the earliest flight back to Beijing for class.
Especially after starring in film and television dramas, my mother's educational philosophy has undergone certain changes.
At that time, the child went to school, and the rules set by his mother were,
Grades should be good, and then it is time to act in movies and TV series.
When I was younger, every time I went to an event in a foreign country, there was always an adult at home to follow.
He was not only responsible for his life, but also supervised Gong Ao's study.
Under this subtle influence, Gong Ao gradually developed this habit.
Gradually, he went to the field, and he did not need to be accompanied by adults.
Even in the absence of parents, the people in the crew,
It is also common to see this child wearing a costume and writing homework on his stomach.
Mother's teaching of Gong Ao was also reflected in other aspects of life.
Children love to move when they are young, what adults do, and they are always followed by troublemakers behind them.
The mother did not restrict him, but consciously involved him in certain things.
From mopping the floor to cooking and even repairing water pipes, Gong Ao, who is still in elementary school,
Almost everything that adults have to do has been done.
This kind of influence gradually made him learn to think for others.
Once I went to perform abroad, and I was with three other little girls.
They were about the same age, and there were things that the little girl couldn't hold, and he helped them.
Another time on the train back to Beijing,
Seeing that his friends who were traveling with him slept soundly, he actually knew how to put their feet on himself.
Gradually, compared with other peers, he had more maturity.
Especially when filming in other places, from wrestling to filming in the middle of the night, these hardships have been experienced.
Even once went to a foreign country to host a literary and artistic evening, Gong Ao was the child host of the day.
That time, it was his grandfather who was with Gong Ao.
When he arrived at the scene, the staff gave him the line he hosted that night— a full 13 pages.
If it were other children, it would probably be crying.
Because when it comes to live broadcasting, every word can't be wrong, and it has to be memorized.
The difficulty was too great, and the time reserved was not enough, so Grandpa called and told Gong Ao's mother.
His mother encouraged him to play while reciting.
Repeat this and remember quickly.
Under the supervision of his grandfather, Gong Ao quickly memorized the lines.
And in the subsequent hosting, the effect is also very good.
Gong Ao was only about 10 years old that year.
Perhaps in the eyes of her mother, Dai Huiming, the son of this period is the form he wants to create.
And what she didn't expect at all was that the child hadn't experienced anything since childhood.
It's not that it won't be experienced, but it may be that it's supposedly lagging behind.
Just as Gong Ao grew up, with the death of his mother,
All this has come to an abrupt end to the path of development.
After taking over his son's education, the father did not take the same educational measures as his wife.
Especially after Gong Ao primary school graduated from middle school,
My father even adopted a strategy of inaction.
The reason for this is that Gong Ao's father has never been proud of the experience of his child when he was a child.
Unlike his wife's life, dai Huiming took his son to participate in what singing competition,
When the father is very disgusted and disagrees.
Helplessly, the wife did not listen, so for a long time after that,
For his son's growth and experience, the father is not asked.
And Gong Ao himself gradually grew up, and seemed to have discovered his once lost self.
Especially after going to middle school, everything about him and the children around him came to a big turn.
In middle school, my classmates began to understand the desperate learning.
Because of the death of his mother, his father adopted an attitude of inaction, and Gong Ao's life was instead laissez-faire.
As a child, I had tasks and goals every day, and everything was fully arranged.
If you are not careful, your mother will criticize.
Gong Ao, in middle school, began to do whatever he wanted every day.
He was obsessed with rock and roll and had a soft spot for this kind of music.
In addition to this, he enjoys writing and reading.
According to Gong Ao's own recollection, at the middle school level, he could cry the class teacher more than ten times a year.
Either I do my own thing or I confront the teacher.
It can be said that the things that he did not do when he was a child, he did them all again when he grew up.
And because I know more when I grow up, whenever I do these things,
He also experienced a lot of different pleasures.
Sometimes, he did it on purpose.
There was also a time when my father would receive a report call from the class teacher almost every day.
How the child is in school, the father also does not care about this.
Fortunately, the habit of reading when he was a child did not fall down his academic performance.
It's not that he doesn't learn, it's just that, in a way, he's more self-absorbed.
Even after being admitted to college, Gong Ao actually intensified.
He didn't know what the homework was, because he and a few buddies in the dormitory interacted with each other.
In the end, several people did not mix with the diploma.
Desperately doing what he loves, he doesn't think he's making a mistake at all.
At that time, he recorded his first album, "Myself".
Listening to the name, you know that it is about the life and everything you want.
To some extent, when he grew up, Gong Ao almost abandoned everything his mother had created when she was a child.
Of course, this does not mean that he cannot search for his future and goals.
It's just that his practice is completely contrary to the idea of his mother Dai Huiming.
Years later, no matter who he said the most, he always talked about his father.
But for his mother, he never seemed to say it.
He said the memory of being a host as a child has long been forgotten.
After graduating, he became a musician and founded a company.
When the company first opened, he seemed to be back to the way he was when he was a child.
He put on his suit for the first time and worked hard to run everything about the company.
From the negotiation of the project to the decoration of the house, he is almost personally involved.
Maybe he didn't like this feeling, but Gong Ao once said that he didn't like a messy state either.
In this case, whether he recalls his mother or not,
Some of the marks that his mother Dai Huiming had let him cultivate since he was a child would still show them at that moment.
At the same time as the company was founded, around 2013, he also gained his love.
The two people often interact online, and many people urge him to hurry up and get married.
But after a while, Gong Ao wanted to shut down the company again.
At that time, he said he wanted to go to Hong Kong to study.
Whether the palace pride after that was completed or not, the outside world does not know.
The older he got, the more he found that he was still slow to communicate with people.
Especially not like when I was a kid on a TV.
He felt that the look he looked like when he was a child was not his real self.
It's just that it was too mature at that time, so it would perform in front of the camera.
So, he said he still likes the state he was when he grew up.
Growing up, he used to convert his original home into a recording studio.
He and his father lived at the opposite door, shouting at each other during dinner.
And he himself can not leave the house for a long time,
His only hobby was reading, so when he grew up, he took reading to the extreme.
In addition to this, other imprints related to everything about the mother,
I couldn't see it on Gong Ao's body.
Once, Gong Ao's mother, as a model of godson, was often mentioned by the outside world.
People also once believed that through the conscious guidance of adults,
It can set children on a path of maturity and success at an early age.
However, the example of her child Gong Ao seems to prove it again,
When I was a child, if the human intervention was too serious, the shape of the axe was too thick,
The possibility of the child fighting back later is also very large.
What Gong Ao is doing today, no one seems to know.
Gong Ao himself often used misalignment to describe his life as a child.
At the age when he should have played, he experienced the adult world under the guidance of his mother.
When I grow up, although I have understood what the rules of the adult world are,
But he still can't forget the beauty of the children's world.
So it took a long time for him to go on the road of rebellion.
Gong Ao had said that he didn't want every step of his life to be thought out in advance.
So, he's going through the same thing as everybody else.
It's just that age has shifted.
Text | twenty-two
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