In the love of the old society, it is not that you can come together if you love me or I wish, but "the fate of parents, the words of a matchmaker"! Most of them will only see the true face of the other party's Lushan on the night of the cave flower candle. However, at that time, many young people opposed such customs, but they could not resist the cruelty of reality, and how many tragic marriages without love were born from then on?
Marriage for many people now will experience a long love run, love each other, rely on each other to walk into the happy harbor together, when the child falls to the ground, it is the crystallization of the love of two people, for the child's name has also become a very important thing, many people turn over the dictionary also want to give the child a very beautiful name!
The child's name not only contains the deep love of the parents, but also contains their expectations for the future of the child, but the famous painter Xu Beihong, because he hates his wife, actually gave the child an obscure name. What was the reason why Xu Beihong could dislike his wife so much, and even spread this disgust to his children?
First, his family was poor and he learned to paint since childhood
In July 1895, Xu Beihong was born in a small town in Yixing, Jiangsu Province, and his father named him Xu Shoukang, hoping that he would live a life without disease and disaster, health and longevity! Although Xu Beihong was born in a poor family, her mother was an ordinary working woman, but her father was a private school teacher, which can also be regarded as a scholar.
Xu Beihong's father Xu Dazhang can not only teach people to read and write, but also paint, usually will also help others to paint to earn some hard money, barely survive, so Xu Beihong has been influenced by his father's art since childhood, and is very interested in painting, and Xu Dazhang will also teach his son Xu Beihong to paint in his spare time, interest is the best teacher, because he likes so Xu Beihong is very serious and progresses rapidly!
Only nine years old Xu Beihong can fully understand his father's explanation, and his father also began to slowly teach him to color in paintings, at this time Xu Beihong showed a strong talent for painting, he will color himself, create by himself, at a young age, he is immersed in the world of painting almost every day and cannot extricate himself!
At the age of thirteen, his father took Xu Beihong everywhere to collect and sell paintings, and Xu Beihong also gained a lot of insight, and the father and son could already make a lot of money by selling paintings together, and Xu Beihong was also famous in the painting industry at that time! At the age of seventeen, Xu Beihong felt that he should go to the larger world outside, so he began the journey of "creating alone"!
Fortunately, Xu Beihong, who was running alone, came to Shanghai, in order to improve himself, Xu Beihong insisted on coming to Shanghai To study, received a lot of Western culture, let him have a qualitative leap in his understanding of painting, and it was also at this time that the name Xu Shoukang, whose father gave him, was changed to Xu Beihong, which also represented the difficulties of Xu Beihong's study.
The hardships of life did not shake Xu Beihong, who had a very high ambition for the art of painting, but on the contrary, it aroused his deeper understanding and improvement of his achievements in art, and it was during this period that Xu Beihong's paintings achieved a leap forward, and his reputation as a master began to spread widely!
2. Arranged marriages
Just when Xu Beihong wanted to explore painting more deeply, a family letter disrupted his plan, the family letter wrote that his father was seriously ill, Xu Beihong quickly put down everything in his hands and rushed home, however, this homecoming was also the beginning of his tragic life, his father did not get sick, but found a daughter-in-law for him at home, let him come back to marry!
At this time, Xu Beihong was deeply baptized by Western culture, advocating freedom, there was no way to accept such an arranged marriage arrangement, so Xu Beihong righteously expressed his own views and strongly opposed his father's arrangement, but his father felt that it was a very normal thing to get married at an old age, at that time, most people stayed in feudal thoughts, and there was no way to update their thoughts!
In order to oppose this ridiculous marriage, Xu Beihong chose to run away from home, but was arrested by his father, and the neighbors around him also felt that Xu Beihong's approach was very excessive, and it was unfilial to his parents! At this time, his parents played the family affection card again, begging him over and over again, and finally, outnumbered, in the face of strong family affection, Xu Beihong's advocating freedom could not withstand the arrangement of arranged marriage, and he compromised!
Xu Beihong and his unknown wife became married, which is undoubtedly a shame for Xu Beihong, who has always advocated freedom and democracy, arranged marriage has become a stumbling block on Xu Beihong's road to advocating freedom, and it is no wonder that Xu Beihong will hate it, in the later married life, Xu Beihong will also hang disgust on his face, and he has no good face for his wife!
In order to reassure his father, Xu Beihong and his wife also completed the cave house, eighteen-year-old Xu Beihong ushered in his first son, in that era of son preference, I thought that the arrival of this son would add a little color to the family, but I did not expect that this did not change Xu Beihong's dislike of his wife, and even the child he did not like, but also gave him an obscure name, Xu Haosheng!
Maybe it is because of the disgust with this arranged marriage, or perhaps it is really disgusted with his wife, so the child's name has become the meaning of "born in the midst of disaster", after the birth of the child, Xu Beihong feels that he has fulfilled his obligations, since he filled the family with incense, then it is time to continue to pursue his art!
Third, the road is bumpy
Xu Beihong left home again to go to Shanghai, since then he has devoted himself to creation, never asked about things at home, his wife wrote to him he never cared, a few years later, at the strong request of his father, he went home to visit his relatives, at this time Xu Haosheng was four or five years old, and also inherited his father's painting talent, at this time Xu Beihong had a different emotion for the first time to feel joy!
Xu Beihong wanted to teach his painting skills to The Robber, just like when his father taught him to paint when he was a child, Xu Beihong's change of attitude brought a turnaround to the family, and also changed the name of his son, in order to wash away the obscurity of the word "robbery" changed to "Jisheng", but the good times did not last long, when Jisheng was seven years old, he died of smallpox, and his wife was depressed and finally died!
At this time, Xu Beihong was in Beijing, half of his mind was busy talking to Jiang Biwei about love, half of his mind was busy improving his painting skills, and there was no time to go back to the funeral, which also became Xu Beihong's biggest regret in this life, until his old age, he felt remorse and pain! Xu Beihong felt that it was because of the name "Robbery" that his son suffered this disaster!
And With Xu Beihong in love with Jiang Biwei, Xu Beihong met during his time in Shanghai, the two went to Japan together, the arranged marriage did not prevent the two from being together, the first marriage made Xu Beihong do not know what love is, and did not fulfill her husband's obligations, he felt that Jiang Biwei let him experience love, and the two were also very sweet in the early days of love!
The two eloped to France together, and gave birth to a son and a daughter, but the ideal love did not overcome the cruelty of reality after all, in 1930 Xu Beihong met the character model Sun Duoci, the two secretly had emotions, but because Xu Beihong had a family, it was finally over, Jiang Biwei was grumpy about this matter, the marriage between the two also produced a rift, Xu Beihong's first free love hastily ended!
After the divorce, Xu Beihong was once addicted, in 1946 he met a little girl Liao Jingwen who was 28 years younger than him, Liao Jingwen was full of admiration for Xu Beihong, the two had a long-term relationship, came together, after marriage, the two had a son and a daughter, after seven years of marriage with Liao Jingwen, Xu Beihong fell ill and died, Liao Jingwen also accompanied him on the last journey!
summary
How many innocent people have been harmed by the old idea of arranged marriages in the old society! Xu Beihong's wife still we don't know her name, this unfortunate marriage has only brought endless harm to this woman, and Xu Haosheng is so miserable, only 7 years old has not experienced fatherly love! We are so lucky to live in today's society!
Living in the era of marriage freedom, people are happy, we must learn to be content, learn to cherish the people in front of us, learn to get along with our hearts, hope that everyone can find someone who really loves themselves, plain and indifferent to a lifetime, do not seek how rich, only wish to be able to fit the soul, white head with old age.