Only those who have truly experienced loneliness can truly feel the warmth and coldness of human feelings in this world.
We are born lonely, and the feelings of joy and sorrow, pain or warmth in life will often make us feel that life is too bitter.
No one is not bitter, no one's life is smooth, so in a bitter life, everyone must learn to cross themselves, when you believe that the dream will be realized, at this time the dream is warm.
In the collection of essays "Loneliness in the World But There Is Temperature" co-authored by Yu Qiuyu, Jiang Xun and Bai Xianyong, we should remember three sentences if life feels too bitter.
The first sentence: Nagama is a long river that never stops
Jiang Xun said in the article "Irrelevant Years":
Time is actually a long river that never stops, and it is impossible to divide a single paragraph from it.
Just like our lives, there are beginnings and ends, there are days and nights, there are sadness and joy, and there are moments when we feel that we can't sustain ourselves.
But think of the beauty of childhood, think of the taste of hometown, think of the loving look of your mother, life has strength again.
In Jiang Xun's memory, when he was a child, his family was not rich, in order to let his children eat delicious food for the New Year, he made kimchi and made glutinous rice wine, and in a life that was not rich, let life have a taste, and add some fun and joy to the poor life.
This is undoubtedly a very optimistic attitude to life, in the face of unsatisfactory life, there is no complaint, there is no sadness to leave the homeland, only the hope and determination to think about how to live a better life.
In that era, the separation of relatives, hunger and exile were actually very sad and sad, but life could not be changed, and how they wanted to live was a choice.
And this kind of happiness and satisfaction is to make fun of the bitter life, even when steaming steamed steamed steam
Different attitudes to life also make people face the pain and happiness in life with different gratitude and gratitude.
The second sentence: The ups and downs of life, working together, can always resist the past
When I read Bai Xianyong's "Trees Like This" in "Loneliness on Earth but There Is Temperature", my nose was sour.
It seems to be writing about trees, but in fact it is written about Bai Xianyong's friend Wang Guoxiang, who lives with trees, and the house with trees is the house he and Wang Guoxiang found together, and they have done gardening together for more than thirty years, so that they have today's branches and leaves.
However, when the house was repaired and the surroundings were lush, Wang Guoxiang fell ill, and before he fell ill, he and Bai Xianyong spent many unforgettable lives.
They picked the fruit together, sat together on the lawn of the garden after the work, drank plum wine, ate fruit, and all the fatigue of life, all the gloomy moods became cheerful.
Bai Xianyong and Wang Guoxiang chose more than thirty teak trees of various colors, including white tea, pink tea, and black camellia flowers, and Wang Guoxiang also suggested planting cypress trees.
When the flowers and trees in the garden were thriving and gradually taking shape, Wang Guoxiang suffered from "aplastic anemia" and had been coughing non-stop, and his body was extremely weak, and this disease was several years.
In the past few years, Wang Guoxiang relies on blood transfusions to maintain his life, money is not less spent, sin is not less, when the plasma drips into his body little by little, when the pillow is too much, resulting in redness, swelling and bruising of the skin, but he did not complain a word.
Even if you are seriously ill, you are convinced that you will be able to survive it.
However, Wang Guoxiang, who was very strong, was only getting weaker and weaker, and he had no strength to go up a few steps, gasping for breath, and his expression was very painful.
In the face of the disease, he did not give in, nor complained, but he was still emaciated and deformed, and at eight o'clock that day, he said to Bai Xianyong: You should go back to dinner first.
Bai Xianyong said: I will pick you up tomorrow morning.
In the morning, Wang Guoxiang was unconscious, and Bai Xianyong took his hand and sent him to the last journey of his life.
Heaven and man are divided into two parts, and life and death are wide. And the trees they planted together also died because of the drought that year.
Even if man is gone and the tree has withered, love is eternal, just like the instantaneous prosperity of the world, and the cycle begins again and again.
This is a rebirth after acceptance.
The third sentence: Whatever you do, you don't have to regret
Zhang Xiaofeng asked the students in class: What is love?
Many people answered with hate. But the answer he gave was that "the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference."
Little girls are afraid of being hurt just because they are young, because they are hurt in their feelings, and they hate someone very much.
It's just that life is alive, a star from abrasions, burns to bumps, sprains, and even internal injuries, how can it not be hurt at all?
To know care and love, it must include injury, otherwise it is difficult to be complete and happy.
But you can't deny all the beauty because you are sad, the truth of life is not to be upset about what you do, and you don't have to regret anything.
Life is a big creditor, how we mix are his arrears, rather than this, it is better to relax your heart, come to a "debt without worry", and live happily and calmly.
When we don't regret whatever we do, it's just a good life.
This is the inspiration of the three life philosophies in "Loneliness in the World but There is Temperature", of course, this book also has many famous prose, such as the flow of time, what is the worry, the mountains and rivers are autumn, floating and flavorful, idly reading the five chapters of the world, there are philosophies, stories, and memories.
No one's life is not bitter, but all suffering needs to be self-crossing, only in this way can the dream become more warm, and can the life become more wide.