All along, when a child is seriously ill, the parent must not say: Well, this is his life, let him wait for death. Instead, they will try their best to find all kinds of possibilities to heal him and save him.
However, sometimes things are so strange that you think that the big truths that seem very simple, in the eyes of some people, he just doesn't understand, and he likes to go backwards. And that's the theme of the story we're going to tell today.
The protagonists of today's story are a couple who have been divorced for 12 years. After the two divorced, the only daughter was awarded to the woman to support. Originally, the two had not met too much after their divorce, but because of a serious illness of their daughter, they pulled the two people together.
After their only daughter became seriously ill, the woman advocated that the situation be ascertained and treated at all costs. However, his father refused to pay for treatment on the grounds that he had no money, and said bluntly: Life and death have a fate and wealth in heaven.
So why is this father so indifferent? And what happened between the couple? Let's take a look.
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01
On this day, the program team received a call from a middle-aged woman, claiming that her only daughter was sent to the ICU due to a serious illness, and she tried her best to collect money everywhere to treat her daughter, but her husband did not want to take the money and wanted to give up. Nowadays, there is no way but to turn to the media for help.
The program team that received the request for help took the equipment and came to the hospital where the middle-aged woman was located. At the entrance of the hospital, the reporter met the helper, who looked tired and had heavy dark circles. You know, she shouldn't have had a good rest for many days.
Seeing the arrival of the reporter, she immediately greeted her and introduced herself, claiming to be Guo Li, 45 years old this year, is a single mother, the ex-husband is called Yang Qiang, 5 years older than her, but the two have been divorced for 12 years, and the daughter is 15 years old.
Guo Li said that she and her husband Yang Qiang divorced 12 years ago due to the disagreement of the three views, and the only daughter of the two was raised by her. In the twelve years of divorce, her ex-husband never paid child support or visited her mother and daughter. Except for the fact that at that time, in order to solve the problem of his daughter's schooling, he gave her 50,000 yuan to buy a degree house, and he never paid attention to them.
Earlier, her daughter always said that her stomach hurt, she thought she was just eating something unclean, and didn't care. She found out after sending her to the hospital that her daughter was hydroperitoneal, and her condition worsened, so she had to be sent to the ICU.
After her daughter was sent to the ICU, she not only sold the house and spent all her savings, but also borrowed everything she could borrow with her relatives and friends, so that she could collect medical expenses and stabilize her daughter's condition. But now that her daughter is still living in the hospital, the cost is as high as 10,000 yuan a day, and she can't think of any way.
Therefore, health and wellness is the most important, small illness is fine, and major illness is really a trick back to before liberation.
To this end, she also went to her ex-husband, hoping that her ex-husband could support her a little, after all, this is the only daughter of the two. But what she did not expect was that after her ex-husband paid 10,000 yuan, he would no longer pay for it, and bluntly told her that he had no money and that everything was left to fate.
However, according to her understanding, her ex-husband opened a traditional Chinese medicine health center in Hainan, although there was not much money, but it was certainly not enough to take out the extra money after taking 10,000 yuan. Therefore, in her opinion, it is her ex-husband who is ruthless and does not want to save her daughter, so she refuses to pay.
Guo Li said that the reason why she divorced her ex-husband was because the other party was too harsh. Since more than two years of marriage, the other party is an iron rooster, a dime, she can't stand it, so she goes to divorce.
After probably understanding the ins and outs of the matter, the program team decided to follow Guo Li to her ex-husband's home and ask what was going on.
02
Under the leadership of Guo Li, a group of people from the program team came to the home of Guo Li's ex-husband Yang Qiang. It's an old-fashioned neighborhood, and the houses nearby are very old. At the Yang family, Guo Li found that her ex-husband Yang Qiang was not at home, only his eldest brother Yang Huai was there.
Yang Huai was not surprised to see the arrival of his former sister-in-law, because Guo Li had already visited the door a few days ago.
Yang Huaihe said that it is not that they do not want to help, but that their Yang family has already given 10,000 yuan, and now there is no extra savings to take out, and they can only have a weak heart.
It turned out that the 80-year-old father of the Yang family was paralyzed a long time ago and could only live in bed. As the eldest son in the family, Yang Huai is more than half a hundred years old, and does not have a fixed job, he can only take care of his old father at home full-time, and the family is supported by the old father's pension.
Although Yang Qiang has his own TCM nursing home business outside, because of the epidemic, the business is not good, so there is no extra money to give Guo Li to treat his niece.
In Yang Huai's eyes, it is not that they do not want to help, but that everyone is poor, there is no extra money to spend, and in such a situation, they can only give up treatment, and everything is resigned to fate.
After introducing his actual situation, in order to make the reporter believe his statement more, Yang Huai invited the program team into the room and looked at the situation in the house on the spot. In a room in the house, he did see that as Yang Huai said, his old father was paralyzed in bed playing with his mobile phone, and when he saw the arrival of the program team, he put down his mobile phone and chatted with the reporter.
Seeing the Yang family said so, Guo Li and the reporter said that the Yang family did not care for their mother and daughter at all, after her daughter was seriously ill, the Yang family did not come to the hospital to visit her mother and son, has always been her alone in taking care of her daughter, and now it is on the grounds of no money, persuade her to give up treatment, which is not only a kind of harm to her, but also a kind of disrespect for life.
In Guo Li's eyes, after she divorced Yang Qiang, the other party has been single and unmarried, and she is opening a small shop outside, although the Yang family is indeed not rich, but the economy is definitely better than her. But now he is crying and refusing to help her, that is, he has not put his daughter's life in his heart.
At this time, the neighbors nearby heard the sound of the Yang family arguing and all gathered around. Everyone saw that Guo Li came to the Yang family to ask for money for treatment, and they all expressed their understanding of the Yang family's helpless behavior.
Although money is not omnipotent, but no money is impossible, although this thing is said to be an external thing, but sometimes as soon as you leave it, it is really difficult to walk.
Seeing that the Yang family really refused to help themselves, Guo Li quarreled with them. At this time, the nurse at the hospital called and said that her daughter Xiaojie had woken up and wanted to see her. Guo Li ended the dispute with the Yang family and returned to the hospital to take care of her daughter.
03
After the program team followed Guo Li to the hospital, her daughter Xiaojie was lying on the bed resting, for her who had just finished surgery, she could only lie down and recuperate now, and could not get out of bed and move around.
After more than a week of treatment, Guo Li's daughter Xiaojie has now recovered a lot, and she sees her mother working for herself every day and becoming sensible, saying that when she gets better, she will no longer quarrel with her mother, and she will no longer eat those junk foods. I will definitely study hard and repay my mother in the future.
After hearing her daughter's words, Guo Li also shed tears of emotion, telling her daughter not to think so much, first raise her body, and the rest will be handed over to her.
Guo Lihe said to reporters that her daughter was just in the third year of junior high school, and it was originally the sprint stage of preparing for the exam, but this sudden illness had to interrupt the preparation for the exam. And when Xiao Jie heard her mother talk about her father, she did not hate her, but her face was full of disappointment, indicating that she actually wanted her father to come and visit her.
This remark of her daughter made Guo Li's tears flow down uncontrollably, and she could only get up and go outside the hospital bed, secretly wiping her tears, not wanting her daughter to see her sadness.
Outside the ward, Guo Lihe said that although her daughter's condition has improved a lot, but because the exact condition has not yet been identified, it may be necessary to follow up on the treatment of a large amount of money. And she has already borrowed everything she can, and now her biggest hope is her ex-husband.
In order to help solve Guo Li's dilemma as soon as possible, the program team decided to contact her ex-husband Yang Qiang personally. When the program team called Yang Qiang's phone, the other party said that he was in Hainan and it was difficult to rush back to Hunan. However, in the end, after some persuasion from the program team, he still agreed to rush back to meet and talk.
The next day, the program team took Guo Li and came to Yang's house again and met Yang Qiang. Although Yang Qiang is already 50 years old, the whole person looks rosy and looks very young, not like a 50-year-old person at all.
Seeing the program team and his ex-wife, Yang Qiang bluntly said that the reason why he was willing to promise to come back this time was to heal his daughter.
It turned out that Yang Qiang not only opened a Chinese medicine health center by himself, he also knew a little about TCM massage and massage, in his eyes, he was sure to cure his daughter's illness, and did not need to spend more money. Because at the beginning of his daughter's hospitalization, Guo Li had consulted with him, and he firmly believed that he could use the method of traditional Chinese medicine to treat his daughter well.
However, for Yang Qiang's little knowledge, in Guo Li's eyes, health maintenance is OK, if you really use it, it may not have a very big effect, so she does not agree with her ex-husband's traditional Chinese medicine, and resolutely uses scientific therapy in the hospital. It is precisely because of this that the two have always had contradictions.
However, because his daughter has always grown up with his ex-wife, he does not have much say, he can only give 10,000 yuan, do his best.
As for Yang Qiang's statement that he was sure to use his traditional Chinese medicine method to cure Xiaojie, the reporter was also very skeptical. Because in the reporter's view, since the other party is so sure, why so far, he is still just a small shop for health care, rather than becoming a very famous master.
For this question from the reporter, Yang Qiang said that he is now working hard, and it is also going towards the master's side, but because of the prejudice of the world, it is not so fast to do it. But he believed that he would be able to become a master, and he would definitely be able to make a sensation when the time came.
However, in fact, Yang Qiang has never undergone formal medical training, let alone medical experience, and will only simply massage and acupuncture, I really don't understand that he would dare to boast about such a Haikou.
And Guo Li on the side saw her ex-husband blowing in the sky, a confident look, she really couldn't bear it, and pointed her finger at Yang Qiang with a grumpy face, saying that this was just an excuse for her ex-husband not to pay money, and said that he was going to turn around and leave.
Seeing his ex-wife accuse himself like this, Yang Qianghe said that he could not imagine that he had divorced his ex-wife for many years, and the other party's temper was still so grumpy.
Yang Qiang said bluntly that his daughter's illness was caused by his ex-wife Guo Li, her daughter loved to eat snacks, Guo Li never took care of education, plus Guo Li was impatient, always losing her temper with her daughter, which led to her serious celiac fluid and sudden illness.
In the face of her ex-husband's accusations, Guo Li in turn said that Yang Qiang did not fulfill the obligation to raise at all, sentenced the child to her for so many years, he had never come to see the mother and daughter several times, and bluntly asked Yang Qiang whether he wanted this daughter or not.
As a result, Yang Qiang said that he did not want this daughter, even if Xiao Jie still followed his surname, but as long as Guo Li wanted to change his surname, he did not care.
That is to say, in Yang Qiang's eyes, Xiao Jie is just a girl, even if she follows his surname, when she grows up, she will still marry other men, and she will not be able to give him a succession, it is better to leave it clean now, or less trouble.
Seeing that her ex-husband was becoming more and more outrageous, Guo Li directly scolded Yang Qiang, saying that his Yang family was always so cold and ruthless, not only refusing to pay money, but also wanted to directly cut off the relationship, which was too much.
At this time, Yang Qiang said that it is not that he is ruthless, nor is he cold-blooded, but indeed he has no money, and he is forced by life, and he really cannot take out excess money. Then he began to talk to reporters with a hippie smile. To put it bluntly, life and death have a destiny and wealth in heaven.
Hearing her ex-husband's cruel words, Guo Li pounded her chest in anger and could not speak. In Yang Qiang's heart, he did not think about what kind of life his daughter lived, such as the age of the flower, but he could only wait for the unknown result in the hospital bed, not to mention that Xiao Jie was still his only bloodline, but Yang Qiang, as a father, talked about crooked reasoning and evaded responsibility.
His remarks made the neighbors on the side can't look down, the neighbor uncle is watching Yang Qiang grow up, he tried to persuade Yang Qiang, now the only daughter is seriously ill, Yang Qiang must take on the responsibility of treating the child, no matter how big or small, do your best.
And Yang Qiang's strange behavior makes everyone feel incredible. In the face of the only daughter's serious illness and Yang Qiang's hippie smiling behavior, neighbors have accused him.
Neighbors said that Yang Qiang's parents divorced when he was very young, and the conditions in his family have been very difficult, so he does not have any academic qualifications to make strange behaviors, but the selfish behavior he shows has reached an outrageous point.
Unexpectedly, in the face of everyone's accusations, Yang Qiang actually said: There is an old saying in China that the poor are left alone, and he has no choice but to be alone. That is to say, Yang Qiang now has a certain avoidance psychology.
It turned out that Yang Qiang's family was poor since childhood, and after her parents divorced when she was five years old, her stepmother was not good to her. After dropping out of junior high school and going to society, he also encountered many setbacks, and his life was not satisfactory, making him very negative or even pessimistic.
Therefore, in the face of his daughter's serious illness, he is more complaining and cynical than actively seeking a solution. He was always immersed in his own fantasy world, escaping from reality.
In the end, Yang Qiang promised that he could pay another 10,000 yuan for medical expenses, and promised to go to Changsha to visit his daughter. Faced with such a result, Guo Li could only trust him temporarily. In this way, the two stopped arguing and left each other.
04
After leaving the Yang family, Guo Li took the reporter to the house she now rented and talked about her past. Guo Li said that this 50-square-meter low-cost house is her and her daughter's temporary home. In the 12 years after the divorce, everything she did was for her daughter.
She works in a local printing factory, and her salary of 2,000 yuan per month is just enough for the mother and daughter to live. These years in order not to let her daughter be wronged, never wanted to remarry, her personality is very strong, and yang qiang divorced, she will live alone with her daughter, even if it is bitter, she will not ask Yang Qiang for help, her heart is only her daughter, her daughter is living well is his biggest wish in this life.
If it weren't for her daughter's serious illness, she really couldn't afford it, and Guo Li would definitely not find Yang Qiang. Guo Li said that her daughter Xiaojie likes to draw very much, and said that she took out a bunch of albums, and these cartoon characters in the album were all drawn by her daughter Xiaojie according to the computer.
Guo Li also saw her daughter's talent, and at first she planned to save some money to send her daughter to learn to paint. But the accident suddenly came, and everything that had been planned was broken.
After Guo Li went home to pack up everything, she took the album to the hospital. Xiao Jie, who just had a little strength, picked up the pen and drew an apple, in her mind, her mother is like an apple, which can bring her peace, and she also hopes that her mother will be moist and healthy like an apple.
Looking at her sensible daughter, Guo Li's heart is like a knife, the medical expenses are not even, how can she bring peace to her daughter?
In the afternoon, the agreed day arrived, and as a result, there was no Yang Qiang's figure all afternoon, and the daughter was also looking forward to the appearance of her father. Guo Li dialed Yang Qiang's phone, but she was hung up again and again, and she suddenly collapsed. Yang Qiang gave her hope, but now he was even more disappointed.
Under the contact of the program team, Yang Qiang finally rushed to the hospital to visit his daughter. Before coming to his daughter's hospital bed, Yang Qiang has been advising her daughter to work her own, hoping that she will overcome the disease.
Yang Qiang came with some fruit, and after seeing his daughter Xiaojie, he directly put it next to her hospital bed, and his daughter said that if he wanted to blame, he would blame him for not having money, and he would have to run outside every day to do things, and he couldn't always accompany her.
Seeing the arrival of Yang Qiang, as a daughter, Xiao Jie was naturally happy, not only did not blame her father, but kept saying words of thanks to her father.
After Yang Qiang saw that his daughter did not blame himself, he began to use his own Traditional Chinese medicine methods to teach Xiaojie how to treat herself, telling her to rub her stomach every day, believing that it would soon be fine.
Guo Li, who was sitting on the side, did not look up at Yang Qiang during the whole process, and told him to talk about those folk remedies. Guo Li did not want to turn her face with Yang Qiang in front of her daughter. She only hoped that he would leave quickly and stop saying strange things to her daughter. Now, she no longer has any hope for Yang Qiang, and all the responsibilities of her daughter's treatment. She would carry it herself.
In the ward, Yang Qiang kept chanting his treatment method to his daughter, hoping that she would do what she said. But his daughter is 15 years old, and the basic ability to distinguish between right and wrong is still there, and he rejects his father's advice. At this time, the only meaning of Yang Qiang's appearance is to make her daughter believe that her father still cares about her.
A week later, Xiao Jie's diagnosis came out, fortunately, what she suffered from was not malignant lymphoma, but lymphoproliferative disease, follow-up must take medicine for treatment, about 5,000 per month, these burdens may be pressed on Guo Li alone.
In order to alleviate the burden of Guo Li alone, the program team decided to launch a charity donation. Soon, he raised some medical expenses to help Guo Li alleviate the temporary financial pressure. (Although sometimes mediation in the quest does lead to moral kidnapping, it is relatively well done.) )
However, relatively speaking, the whole society is trying to help this little girl, and Yang Qiang, as a father, should not back down. In contrast, Yang Qiang is very weak and widowed, so cruel to his only daughter, unwilling to pour out his money to save each other, unwilling to give more money for his children, and now he has long lost a sense of responsibility as a father, and his approach will be condemned.
I hope that with the help of well-wishers, Xiaojie can recover as soon as possible and complete her dream of being a painter.
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