Reading "Jane Eyre" again, the state of mind at this moment is very different from reading it when I was a teenager!
Today, as a mother, let's talk about what I'm confused about! Just finished reading the second chapter, I can't wait to share it!
The opening chapter made me feel a very big confusion!
Charlotte Brontë, a woman, why did she start writing when Jane was 10 years old? Not some other time! After Jane's parents fell ill and died, Jane was still a toddler, wasn't it even more pitiful at that time? Why not start writing from that time?
With this confusion, I was forced to learn to solve it.
10 years old is a very critical age for children to grow up.
10 years old is the post-childhood stage, the psychology has undergone a significant change, self-awareness is significantly enhanced!
Jane spent ten years in her cousin's scolding and beating, and she has always chosen to please, obey, fear, inferiority, and patience. But, one afternoon when Jane was ten years old, she chose courage, bravery, self-defense, and resistance.
Excerpt from the original quote:
"You are the murderer, you are a tyrant, you are the Emperor of Rome!"
"I felt a drop or two of blood running down my head and neck, and I felt a fiery pain, and this feeling suppressed my fear for a while, and made me wrestle with him like a madman!"
At the age of 10, I began to have a perception of the world, and I could distinguish between good and bad!
Jane was locked in the Little Red House, and she was alone asking questions, talking alone, thinking alone, and making decisions.
From the original text, we read that 10-year-old children have a certain understanding of the world and a certain thinking about human nature.
Excerpt from the original quote:
"Why am I always bullied, why do I try my best to please others, but still it doesn't work, Eliza is selfish and willful, but I am respected by others, Georgia is harsh and mean, no one in sight, but everyone is conniving, John he does anything bad, and I dare not make a little mistake, others still scold me for being nasty and sinister..."
"It's not fair, it's not fair! I made up my mind to use an unusual measure to escape unbearable persecution, such as running away, and if it didn't work, I wouldn't eat or drink and die. ”
10 years old, more afraid of the dark, more afraid of loneliness, more afraid of the so-called ghosts!
Excerpt from the original quote:
"I began to think of things I had heard about dead people before. Mr. Reed's soul must have been troubled by the mistreatment of his niece, and perhaps he would leave his quarters and come to this room, and all I could think of was frightening things, and my nerves were already extremely tense, thinking that this rapidly beating light was a precursor to the appearance of ghosts from Hades. .....”
If your child is 10 years old (girls are 10 years old, boys are around 12 years old), you may encounter some of the following problems:
My daughter was very obedient in the lower grades, and when she was in the third grade, she became more and more disobedient.
Who did my kids like to play with and why they don't want to play with him now.
My child is now more vulnerable and cries even more at every turn.
The older my child is, the more clingy my mom is to sleep with her.
The teacher recently reacted to my child like a different person, much more difficult to manage than before.
These problems reflect that 10 years old is a very critical growth period for children, and even affect the child's life.
As a parent of your child, you need to do the following:
Be a good listener.
What is a good listener?
Don't deal with your child, don't listen to your child while doing other things. Some parents listen to their children, brush their mobile phones in their hands, or do housework at the same time, or have nothing to do at hand, but their brains are thinking about other things. Children will think that they are not respected by you and will become more and more reluctant to share school matters with you. Listen intently to what your child is talking to you and empathize with and empathize with what he is saying.
Guide your child correctly.
Things your child shares with you, or encounters problems, including interpersonal relationships at school, require parents to discuss and analyze with your child and give correct judgment. The cognitive and judgment of children over 10 years old is very shallow, and parents need to be correctly guided. So as not to go to junior high school, parents will inexplicably blame themselves for being surprised, how my child can become a problem teenager!
The best gift to a child is companionship.
10-year-old children are more afraid of loneliness and more afraid of darkness. She seems to understand the so-called demons and ghosts, but she may be exposed to this information to varying degrees through cartoons, the Internet, books, and communication between classmates. If your child needs you to sleep with her, it is recommended that you understand your child, do not complain about his cowards, and sleep with her before leaving. Or simply sleep with your child and give her enough security.
Cultivate children to develop a good habit of reading.
The age of 10 is a critical period when children begin to form self-perceptions. Some of the correct ways to deal with problems in the books that can choose books about growing up confused for children (juvenile inspirational novel library series books, suitable for children of this age) will subtly affect children and be more convincing than parents' preaching. You can also read with your child, communicate with your child about your reading experience, and your child will naturally regard you as a good friend!
Every child is a Maxima, but not every pair of parents is a Bole!
10 years old is the key age for children to grow!
Listen more, accompany more, respect more, guide more, and set an example!
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