This article is reproduced from the public number: Xixi Warm
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The sweetest love in the world is the love that rushes to each other, the two feelings are pleasing to each other, the true feelings are relative, and the happiness is full.
But love likes to tease people, and many times, the person we like doesn't seem to like ourselves.
So, what to do?
Is it to pursue love without hesitation, or to let go in moderation?
For this problem, many women will have some concerns in their hearts: it is not easy to meet a man who moves their hearts.
If you pursue it desperately, will it be cherished by him? But if you choose to let go, will you regret it for life?
The person who loves first is always so nervous and uneasy, and does not know what to do.
If you also have such troubles, I think this article can give you some answers.
"Should i have a face to pursue a person": Qi Wei's answer reminds many women.
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In the latest issue of "Heartbeat Signal", male guest Xue Yixing and friends exchanged "love basketball philosophy".
Friends advised Xue Yixing to "have a thick skin and eat enough" when pursuing love, and when it is time to exert force, it should be forced.
In this regard, the guests in the observation room debated.
Qi Wei believes that "when you fall in love, you must be open-minded, and if you like TA, you will chase it to death", this sentence can be used for boys, but girls can never chase boys.
Zhang Han listened to Qi Wei finish speaking, and spoke: I think it is divided into people, you say that the love of the world is love and love, where is it so much absolute?
Qi Wei insisted on her point of view: "Some passive or active, that is a method, but let others call it cheeky, that is absolutely not." ”
Zhang Han insisted: "When you like a person, what kind of face do you want?" ”
The two are caught up in the common sense of justice and the reasoning of the mother-in-law, because this is a problem of the difference in thinking between the perspectives of men and women.
So, when you like someone, should you have a face?
I think it's better for both men and women to have a little face.
Because face is a person's bottom line, if there is no bottom line, even if you pursue love, sooner or later you will still lose.
Especially for women, if you love someone so much that you lose their dignity, then even if you temporarily touch him, you can't guarantee that he will always be with you.
Zheng Wei, the "jade-faced little flying dragon" in "To Youth", is a girl who dares to love and dare to hate, young, brave, beautiful, bright, desperate to pursue true love.
But in the end? The male god, who was not easy for her to pursue, finally gave up on her and left her.
Love is to be attracted to each other, barely there is no happiness.
When a man doesn't like you, no matter how hard you try and how you give, you may be touched by him, but you can't get love.
For men, love is love, and it has been decided at the first sight of you.
If you don't have love for you at the beginning, it will be difficult to have love for you again, and even if you are good, you will not let him fall in love with you.
Don't pursue a person with a face, it will only embarrass both sides and make yourself more unbearable.
If you confirm that the other party does not like yourself, know how to let go in time, it is not a good idea.
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It is the most painful to love without being able to love, but if the other party does not love you, continuing to entangle will only increase the annoyance.
I know a girl who liked a boy 3 years ago, but at that time the boy had a girlfriend, she was silently kind to him, often gave him gifts, and praised him in front of outsiders.
Later, the boy and his girlfriend broke up, and the girl appeared by his side in time, comforted him, cared for him, washed his clothes, cooked, chatted with him, played games, and even paid him rent.
The boy was touched and accepted her. She thought it was love, but before half a year, the boy fell in love with another girl and broke up with her.
She asked desperately, "Why are you doing this to me?" He replied lightly: "I admit to being touched by you, but I don't like you at all." ”
There is nothing wrong with pursuing love, but pursuing a man without a principled bottom line is no way to get his heart.
Men and women are not the same, women in the face of feelings, it is easy to be impressed by each other's good, if a boy for a long time to a girl, then the girl may fall in love with each other.
However, if the man is not interested in this girl, and the woman is still blindly good to him without a principled bottom line, paying for him, the man will feel that this woman is worthless, let alone say anything heartwarming.
For a man who does not like himself, the more the woman gives, the more the man will not cherish, maybe he will treat you as a spare tire for the time being, and when another woman appears, he will dump you.
To love a person again, we must first love ourselves and retain our own bottom line and dignity, so that we can get the same love and cherishing from our feelings.
And for men, if a woman really doesn't like you, there's nothing wrong with trying to pursue and impress her, but you also need to keep a certain bottom line.
If you love someone to the point of losing the bottom line, although it may touch her, if you face a lost love or divorce, you may face a collapse.
We can see from a lot of news that when a man puts down all his face and gives everything to pursue a girl, but after breaking up, he will do extreme harm to the girl.
It can be seen that it is very dangerous not to pursue love without face, not only to endanger the other party, but also to make yourself crazy.
Qi Wei said: "Even if you chase, even if you take the initiative, you can choose a clever and appropriate way, no matter what, do not reach the realm of cheekiness, and then love or leave a bottom line for face." ”
When pursuing love, leaving a bottom line for face is not only to respect each other, but also to protect yourself.
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So, in the face of the people you like, how to pursue better?
That is in the process of chasing, there are collections and releases, there are feelings and righteousness, there are courage and strategy, and in the end, we can get what we want.
In "Parental Love", Mei Ting did not look at Guo Tao at first, although Guo Tao was also anxious, but he knew how to use the method, did not let his face lose, and finally successfully captured Mei Ting's heart.
Both men and women, on the road to the pursuit of love, must first love themselves, and then love another person with dignity.
In feelings, it is important to know how to use your brain, if you want to pursue a person, you must learn to think in a different position and take care of each other's feelings.
You can't think only about yourself when you pursue her, but cause her trouble, which will make her resent you.
Ding Yuxi said: "If the other party calls you, it is a good couple, and if the other party does not feel it, it is harassment."
So, when we pursue someone, we pay attention to the other person's response to your signals.
If the other person also feels for you, it will give you a positive response, then you can chase after her again and again and continue to please her.
However, if the other party does not call you, or even hates you, then the pursuit of you without face becomes a kind of harassment.
Loving someone, even if you cover your mouth, will still flow from your eyes, and people who have feelings for you do not need to pursue without your face.
We don't have to put down the bottom line to pursue love, if you like someone, send out a sincere concern for her, care about her, consciously express yourself in front of her, let the other party feel your heart.
If she likes you, she will naturally give you a chance, and if she has no expression for you, there is no need to be bitterly entangled, because love is unreasonable.
Just like "Tianlong Babu" Ah Zi asked Qiao Feng: "What is so good about her, where can I not reach her, you always think about her, always can't forget her?" ”
Qiao Feng replied, "You are good at everything, and you are stronger than hers." You have only one flaw, you are not her..."
Therefore, we like a person, try our best, others like you will naturally like, do not like you, no longer faceless pursuit, will only humiliate themselves.
As Qi Wei said: "No matter what, don't be in the realm of thick skin, no matter how much you love, you still have to give face and leave a bottom line." ”
Especially women, don't pursue a man without face or skin, because men like to conquer women and do not like to be conquered by women.
He may be touched by you at first, but over time, when he meets a woman he likes, he will leave you without nostalgia.
There is nothing wrong with bravely fighting for love, but to stop in moderation, a love that makes you lose face will never last long.
In love, we must also live with dignity, and love and pay with dignity, so that it is possible to obtain the same love and cherishing.