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I believe that many of us are clear, that is, in the old age, if our elderly people face a widowed state, then in the future, our old people's old age life, most of the time will be difficult to be happy, the main reason is that when the elderly live alone in the future, the old people usually even if they are lonely and lonely, the old people can only choose to endure in silence; the old people usually encounter any difficulties or misfortunes, when they need help, the old people can only carry it alone If these two things are all attacked by our old man, there is no doubt that the old man's old age will inevitably fall into a kind of "deep water".
And at this time, many of our elderly, in order to make their later life in their later years, can live a happier life, so they decided to find someone to remarry, to tell the truth, once the elderly choose to remarry, then in the future, when our elderly encounter loneliness and helplessness like before, all these problems will basically be solved accordingly, on the surface, the old man's practice is not anything wrong, but the old man chooses to remarry, the old man can really live a happy old age in the future? In fact, this is not necessarily true, the 65-year-old uncle cried and complained: "I remarried after the death of my wife, which is the most regrettable decision I have made in my life!" "Let's listen to the story of this uncle together."
The 65-year-old uncle's self-description
My name is Gao Chengwei, I am 65 years old this year, as early as five years ago, my later life was really very happy, because at that time my monthly pension was nearly 5,000 yuan, in addition, I also had two houses to rent out, the monthly rent income alone was 4,000 yuan, such a good economic condition, enough for me to live a life of food and clothing in my old age, eating and drinking, usually I have never hesitated in spending money.
The most important thing is that at that time, my wife was still alive, usually after eating and drinking, my wife would accompany me out shopping for a walk, if I was bored and lonely, my wife would chat with me to relieve boredom, when I was in a bad mood, my wife would relieve my worries, of course, if I was unwell, my wife would accompany me to check my body, or buy medicine for me.
In my later years, I lived in such an environment, can you say that my old age was not happy? Originally, I still fantasized that after I and my wife could not go, we would both go to a nursing home in the provincial city to stay, and this nursing home, I had already inspected it a long time ago, I thought this nursing home was really good, but who ever thought, just five years ago, my wife left me prematurely.
Originally, for the premature death of my wife, in addition to feeling extremely sad in my heart, I did not feel anything else, because in my opinion, as long as I have good economic conditions in my later years, then I have nothing to fear in the future, but after two years have passed, reality has given me a loud slap.
Because after living alone, I often can't sleep at night, the main reason is that I am too lonely and lonely, empty home is only me, although I also feel very lonely and lonely during the day, but I can barely overcome, but after the old age, the discomfort caused by that loneliness and loneliness is really unbearable.
So compared to these, the most intolerable thing for me is that after I had something to discuss, or when I encountered difficulties and needed help from others, I found that I couldn't find anyone, and after a long time, I was about to get sick, so I decided to find a new wife for myself, and later under the introduction of others, I met Lao Du, who was only one year younger than myself.
At that time, Lao Du was also widowed, although her two children have also been married and married, but Lao Du's economic conditions are not as superior as mine, she only has a monthly pension of 1500 yuan, and she is still renting a house outside, but at that time I thought that Lao Du looked very good, and if I lived with her for the rest of my life, I was bound to be able to live a happy old age.
So in the very beginning, I decided to live with Lao Du, because I didn't want to cause extra trouble for myself, at that time Lao Du also agreed, and before that, I agreed with Lao Du that I would give her 5,000 yuan a month as a daily expense for the family, and the rest of the money would belong to her, and if any of us got sick in the future, the other party had no obligation to take care of each other.
During the partnership with Lao Du, Lao Du not only contracted all the housework at home, but also usually my food, clothing, housing, eating, drinking, lasa sleeping and other things, Lao Du arranged with me in an orderly manner, she did not let me fuck a little heart, not only that, usually Lao Du saw that I was in a bad mood, she would take the initiative to tell me all kinds of happy things to alleviate my current depressed mood.
And I usually if I am bored at home, do not wait for me to open my mouth, Lao Du will accompany me to the outside of the first time to chat with the neighbors to relieve boredom, or accompany me to the outside street shopping, one night I suddenly launched a high fever, when Lao Du immediately sent me to the hospital for treatment, it is reasonable to say that the next thing Lao Du does not have to care.
After all, before that, we both had an agreement on this matter, but Lao Du did not choose to leave, but took care of me by my side step by step, until I successfully recovered and was discharged from the hospital, after the fact, Lao Du did not give me a penny of expenses, and did not ask for credit in front of me, at that time Lao Du's approach made me very moved, and the performance of Lao Du was also very good in addition to the usual Old Du.
So after partnering with Lao Du for more than a year, I took the initiative to make a remarriage request to Lao Du, and the purpose of my doing this was only to enable myself to live a happier and more comfortable old age in the future, nothing more, and then Lao Du agreed, and at the same time, the children of both of us also agreed, and then I officially married Lao Du.
Then after remarrying Lao Du, Lao Du's attitude towards me was even better than before, which made me very happy and pleased, and then I made an important decision, then the decision I made also made me pay a heavy price for it later.
And the decision I made was that in the future, I would not have to pay 5,000 yuan a month to Lao Du for living expenses, in addition to handing over my pension bank card to Lao Du, at the same time, the rent of 4,000 yuan per month for my two houses was also handed over to Lao Du to collect, because I felt that since Lao Du was married to me, I should no longer think of guarding against her like before, and after remarriage, Lao Du really treated me well.
At the beginning, when I made this decision, how did Lao Du usually treat me, how did she treat me afterwards, but Lao Du, who was originally very simple, then she went to buy new clothes to wear every three to five, and the clothes she bought were not cheap at all, as far as I know, the cheapest clothes she bought, each one was more than 500 yuan.
And before never put on makeup to dress up Lao Du, after she went to the mall every day without any trouble, buy a variety of cosmetics, and even she had to do beauty once a week, the most important thing is that Lao Du went to the chess and card room every night after playing cards, until one or two o'clock in the evening, and this abnormal behavior of Lao Du at that time surprised me, but I did not blame Lao Du too much.
I actually feel that as long as Lao Du can let me live a happy old age in the future, she can spend money as much as she wants, but what I never expected was that in the first half of this year, my son who was doing business in other places called me, he said that he urgently needed 400,000 yuan to turn around in business, Lao Du was not at home, I took the bank card and ran to the bank, and the balance of my bank card showed that it was only 5,000 yuan.
And before I handed this card to Lao Du, my bank card has 400,000 yuan in it, plus my two years of pension and rent income, there should be 600,000 in it, even if I spend 200,000 in two years, I should still have 400,000, so I immediately called like Lao Du, but no matter how I asked Lao Du, Lao Du always said a word: "Which 400,000 I spent." ”
Then Lao Du's words, just like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, made me overwhelmed, I immediately ran home and had a big quarrel with Lao Du, how I did not expect that Lao Du would actually be this kind of person, all blame me for having no eyes, a month later, I finally went through divorce procedures with Lao Du, then the occurrence of this matter also made me completely understand, after the death of my wife, I remarried, which is the most regrettable decision I made in this life! And whenever I think about it, I want to cry.
Small micro-conclusions
In fact, after people are old, a person's old age life is mostly not so happy, which is also many of our elderly people in the widowed soon after, immediately choose to find a wife for themselves again, and then two people remarried together The root cause, it is reasonable to say that at this time, our elderly choose to remarry this way to improve their quality of life in their later years, which is very beneficial to the physical and mental health of the elderly, which is no problem at all, but when our elderly choose to remarry, Never be careless, not to be impulsive to lose reason, but a little careful and careful, must report a kind of "rather lack than abuse" principle, to choose a really suitable for their own remarriage partner, if you can not meet the "right" person, we old people would rather be single for a lifetime, rather than easily step into the road of remarriage, because the purpose of the old man's remarriage is to make ourselves happier in the future, and never to "add to the blockage" in the future. ”
Therefore, I personally feel that if our other single elderly people in the future also want to choose the road of remarriage, then the following few points, our elderly must keep in mind, and also do a good job of them. 1, when the old man chooses the remarried object, the other party's economic conditions can be bad, and even can be said to be very poor, but the other party's character and three views, etc., is that it must be better, can not say the best, but at least must be justified. 2, the old man and the other party after remarriage, no matter what kind of purpose our old people are in, then our old people do not easily put their own passbook or bank cards and other valuables, handed over to the other party to keep, but should be firmly in their own hands, so as not to cause trouble. 3, once the elderly find that the remarried wife has abnormal behavior, and the other party has also made some things that are excessive and cannot be easily forgiven, our old people must choose to leave in time from each other's side, and the elderly must know how to protect themselves.