Text/Flying Fish
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Time has been pushing us forward, never had time to calculate, and in a trance we came to middle age.
Along the way, from naivety to maturity, becoming an old man in the workplace, but deeply felt that there is no support in the future, no backer behind him, all rely on their own efforts to spell out a little bit, but it is also very fragile, inadvertently can be crushed.
When people reach middle age, we all can't help ourselves, for the sake of the family, for the dreams of our children, we can only silently support, the money is not enough to spend, work hard, think of ways to make money, there is pain can not be said, support tired, swallowing tears, can not be sick, can not fall, this is life.
When people reach middle age, in order to live, we can only endure silently, walk carefully, work diligently, tremble with fear, spend money carefully, and are afraid of not spending money on the blade.
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People reach middle age, look back, over the years, no matter how difficult and tired, but also have to work, no matter how painful and painful they have to support, because they are the top pillar of the family, there is no way back, can only persist.
Han Xiu in "Our Blues" moved from Seoul to Jeju Island to work, and met an old classmate Eun Hee who had not been in contact for many years, for Eun Hee, Han Seol was her first love, and it was really happy to be able to re-meet again for many years.
Nowadays, everyone is middle-aged, Eun Seol is not married, but still single, Han Xiu has already started a family, but over the years, in order to support his daughter's dream, he and his wife sold the house to support her daughter to go abroad and learn golf.
However, due to family financial reasons, the daughter and wife could no longer continue abroad, and Han Xiu also asked all his friends to borrow money from them, and it was difficult to repay.
People to middle age, for an ordinary family, want to support their daughter to complete the sports dream, it is really difficult, Han Xiu met Eun Seol, know that she is very rich, several times want to open their mouths to borrow money from her, but always can not open their mouths.
Because he saw that Eun Seol's money was not blown by the wind, but the result of getting up early every day and selling fish greedily, how hard he worked.
And he wanted to borrow money is not a small amount, many times close to Eun Seol, and even think of taking her to reminisce about the past, thinking of borrowing money from her with the help of a human atmosphere, but finally Eun Seol knows that he took her out to play, not only for memory, but to borrow money to find excuses to deceive her.
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Is it difficult for people to reach middle age? difficult. Especially for the matter of borrowing money, it is really difficult to open your mouth, one is your own face and self-esteem, and the other is the fear of losing friends. Because talking about money really hurts feelings.
Shaohua is easy to pass away, and the years urge people to grow old. When people reach middle age, they look back at their once-young selves, and the self that used to think about nothing, full of sunshine and happiness, it is really good.
How much I want to go back to the past, but I know that it is impossible, I can only learn to reconcile with myself, bow my head to reality, recognize myself, and let go of the attachment in my heart.
Han Xiu actually knows that he does not have so much ability to support his daughter to complete her dreams, and her daughter feels too tired because she has no money, this is not what she wants, and finally her daughter and wife chose to give up and return to China, Han Xiu also let go of the obsession in her heart, no longer forced her daughter, the family also began a new life, the debts owed over the years, slowly to pay off.
In fact, the good friend Enxi did not want to lend him money, but he was too disappointed, and then took the initiative to call him a sum of money, Han Xiu did not receive it, the original road was returned, because he did not need it, his daughter returned to China, and the human relationship did not need money.
When people reach middle age, the most difficult thing to pay off is human feelings, and they are accustomed to human feelings, and we become more and more cautious.
Who can become a true friend, only when they learn of your encounter, they have extended their help to you, will not look down on you, will not dislike you, or help you as always. These are the real friends.
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People in middle age, have experienced so many things, contacted so many people, the feeling is really deep.
In this life, people always rely on themselves, survive all the difficulties, I believe that no matter how difficult it is, it will pass, and life will always be better.
The wounds suffered in life will eventually become the armor of the future; the scars left behind are all the medals of the future.
Don't shrink back, don't be afraid, life is gullible, the barrier is sad, as long as you clench your teeth, it will still pass. As Mr. Yang Dai once wrote: "Everyone will have an unusually difficult time, the pressure of life, the frustration of work, the pressure of learning, and the trepidation of love." ”
Life is not easy, life is difficult, we still have to stand up, survive, in order to usher in a sudden enlightenment.
Tagore said, "The suffering you suffer, the loss you suffer, the responsibility you bear, the offense you bear, and the pain you endure will eventually become light and illuminate your path." ”
Suffering must be stuttered, and the road must be walked step by step. May you survive the bitterness of life and taste the sweetness of the years.
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