The hit drama "Dear Child" aired to 24 episodes, and Fang Yinuo, who had gone through difficulties in treating the woman, was preparing to have another child with her ex-husband Xiao Lu to save her daughter Hehe, who was suffering from blood cancer. She filed for divorce from her remarried husband, Xie Tianhua, and Xiao Lu also proposed such an idea to his remarried wife, Dong Fan.
Yesterday, iQiyi launched a vote on the platform, if it is you, in this case, how will you choose?
Leaving aside the ethics of remarried families, think of the children who are about to come into this world and Hehe lying on the hospital bed, how will these two children face their future lives?
Every child who comes into this world has the right to be loved and treated well, but the mission of this child to come to the world is not because of the love of his parents, but to save his sister, who is too heavy.
For the sister, maybe this brother and sister can save their own lives, but what about later? Is it enough to use umbilical cord blood once? Can she live like a normal child in the future? Could her illness be because her younger siblings sacrificed their bodies again and again to save her?
Thirteen years ago, there was an American drama "Guardian of the Sister", 11-year-old Anna was given the mission of saving her sister from birth, she seemed to be the living organ bank of her sister Kate, as long as Kate needed, whether it was umbilical cord blood, white blood cells, or stem cells, bone marrow, she had to continuously provide for her sister. It wasn't until she was 11 years old that she was asked to donate a kidney to her sister, and Anna took her parents to court.
What about Sister Kate? She was full of regret for this family, for her sister, and she felt extremely desperate that she had been tormented by illness since childhood and had never lived a normal life. She wants to die, to face death calmly with memories, longing, and happiness. But her mother was paranoid and deprived her of the right to die.
Many parents do not know that children are more sensitive than adults in the calamities of life. Parents' feelings are not harmonious, many children will blame such mistakes on their own, children will think that they have caused the destruction of the family, either depressed and sentimental, a lifetime of weight forward, or numb and indifferent, broken jars broken.
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Hehe in the TV series is sensible and well-behaved, and her flattery to her stepfather Xie Tianhua's family is painful. In the face of the aunt's robbery and pickiness of the mother, the normal child is hated and hated, while Hehe is cautious, and the grandparents of the stepfather's family are even more mouth-smeared and extremely flattering.
It is difficult for such a flattering personality to grow up to be happy, let alone face her brother or sister who was born to save her? It's a heavy shackle, not love.
When we spare no effort to save a person, wholeheartedly abandon everything we have, sacrifice all that is good for a person, is it really because of "love"?
How many children, selling their houses and inserting tubes on their critically ill parents, are they "loving"? How many mothers sacrifice their careers, devote all their efforts to their children, and suppress their children because of "love"?
I don't deny that Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu love Hehe, but if they want to have another child and destroy their current family, is it that the guilt and satisfaction of self-sacrifice in their hearts are greater than the "love" for the child, and the "love" for the current partner?
The funny thing is that Xiao Lu does not want to divorce, and he expects his remarried wife to understandably support him to have another child with his ex-wife to save his daughter. It is not too selfish to satisfy the personality of his good father and enjoy the tenderness of his current wife.
In the American version of "Guardian of the Sister", the sister calmly faced death, and the mother gradually shifted the focus and love of life to her career and two other children. Anna says at the end of the film that her sister has returned and she has turned into an angel on a holiday with us at the seaside.
Of course, TV dramas are literary works, and the screenwriters are based on real life and are higher than real life. It's just that the author feels that there is more than one side of life, and the decision should not be made just to move yourself.
If the death of a loved one we have to face, then do everything we can to give companionship, care and love in his last moments, and take him to do what he wants to do happily, rather than just to satisfy himself to do the sacrifice of moving himself.