In fact, the original match is helpless in the face of men's cheating, and even feels that men are irretrievable, not because this extramarital affair is so difficult to solve.
It is because they can't see through men's psychology, don't know how men are brainwashed by Xiao San, and can't guess what the current state of men is.
In fact, there are many states that are very desperate in the eyes of the original match, which is very beneficial to us.
So what kind of man can be saved?
This morning Xi summed up the three states of men who seem to have no hope, but are actually easy to recover.
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Men are willing to spend money on Little Three many times.
Some original partners see that men are willing to spend a lot of money on the three big ones, and they feel that they have no hope, after all, men are very realistic, if there is no deep feeling, how can they be willing to give up?
This idea seems to make sense, but it is not.
According to the difference in the hearts of the cheating men, they have two situations of spending money on the little three, the first situation is a fixed-point quantitative transfer on a certain day of each month.
This kind of transfer is infrequent, maybe once a month, which is more frightening, because this behavior shows that the appropriate responsibility for the little three has become a man's monthly plan.
It shows that the man seriously wants to go down with Xiao San.
But most men don't spend money on the little three in this way, it's basically a bit of money, sometimes it adds up to a large amount, but the number of single transfers is not large.
For example, Xiao San wanted to buy a bag, he transferred 500, after two days, Xiao San took a fancy to a skirt, he gave 300, so sparse, a month also turned thousands.
Although the total number is large, the original match does not have to worry at all.
Because this transfer method shows that men do not include Xiao San in their future lives, they are not responsible for spending money on Xiao San.
Instead, he treats Xiao San as a plaything.
Just like men charge money to play games, they are simply entertaining, spend a little money themselves, and the words spoken by Xiao San will be better, just like the game equipment is stronger.
And this unplanned consumption just shows that this man wants to use money to measure his relationship with Xiao San, because the man knows that he will definitely not be able to give this Xiao San a family.
So this money is a kind of disguised compensation.
In fact, in order not to affect their original lives, many men hope to use money to solve the problem of xiaosan.
Even they don't want to cheat at all, but are more looking forward to a night of love, because they are completely irresponsible.
So in the final analysis, in the eyes of many men, Xiao San is just a bath technician who knows himself better and talks more.
It is precisely because they are willing to spend money, but it shows that they have a chance to save.
Second, the man goes out to live alone and does not want to go home to see the original match.
Similarly, if it is a normal original match, it will feel that the man will not even return home, and this relationship is estimated to be irretrievable.
But there are two situations in which men do not go home.
The first situation is to invest in the gentle township of the little three.
The second case is to rent a room by yourself.
If it is the first case, there is no need to be too pessimistic, because what is not obtained is always in turmoil, when the man gets the little three, he experiences the normal life that the little three brings to him.
It is possible that the little three are not so looking forward to it, after all, it is a different woman, and the feeling of giving themselves is definitely different, and even some of the little three still need men for a day or two, and men feel quite fresh.
And we have evidence that the man and the little three have a long-term cohabitation life similar to the couple, which is helpful for us to divide the property when we divorce later.
If it's the second case, that's great.
The sisters may think, Chenxi, you are not exquisite? Men don't go home, you still say it's too good, isn't this schadenfreude?
Don't get angry, sisters aren't like that.
If the man leaves the house, but does not go to find the little three, but rents an apartment by himself.
This behavior must indicate that there is also a bitterness in the heart of the man who has an extramarital affair.
This standard avoidant cheater's behavior is because they feel guilty about the original, and it is because the infidelity is tormenting them, so that men feel that they cannot face the family.
He went out to live by himself and did not go to find Xiao San, which just shows that he did not fully accept Xiao San, and even the extramarital affair may have been threatened.
In fact, in this case, the man's heart is entangled, and he still wants to deal with the extramarital affair with the original match, but he is afraid that the original partner will not accept him.
Coupled with the fact that many original partners will vent their emotions at this time, it is even more hammered into the fact that men think that the original partners will not accept him.
If at this time the original can make some food for the man to send over, the two people in the rental house to have a good chat, calmly to the man.
Then it's easy to pull men over to our side.
Men have let the little three affect the family.
Some original partners feel that if men still have confidence in the family, at least do not let extramarital affairs affect the family and affect the children.
But some of the little three directly with the original pairing line, and even went to the door to find the original match, the reason why they dare to be so rampant, is because of the man's spoiling.
Therefore, Yuan Mingming also felt that the reason why Xiao San dared to do whatever he wanted was caused by the indulgence of the man, and it was estimated that the man's heart was really nothing.
But in fact, the more this is the case, the less men may be able to let Xiao San succeed.
Because people reach middle age, they have long been less concerned about the stability and ease of life for those who are passionate about love.
After all, the social pressure, family pressure, and parenting pressure are so great that if it may affect his original life, even if it is very tempting, they dare not try.
So in fact, many men have the heart of cheating, but there is a thief's heart and no thief's guts.
This is the reason why all the little three have to pretend, I don't want anything, I don't want money, I don't want to be in office, I just want the way you look - the purpose is to reduce the risk of men cheating.
However, the original match of the small three pairs of lines, and even go to the original match's home to make trouble, is to disturb the man's life, which is certainly not ordered by the man.
For whatever reason, this is not necessarily within a man's plan.
Can such a little three give themselves a stable life?
Now that I can't control each other, if I really live together in the future, will I have a way to live?
Xiao San has such courage, can he live together in the future, can he stop?
Obviously, if Xiao San is really so rampant, men will also worry that in the future days, Xiao San is not in control, and his future days are not under his control, then there is no original day to give himself stability.
That's why there are a lot of little three-man men who like them, crazy enough to not work, but men still don't divorce.
Because they know that if they want to fly the bunting flag, the premise must be that the red flag at home does not fall.
In the above three cases, if your family man appears, don't worry, such a man is not only not difficult to save, but even easy to let them obediently go home.
Even if there is nothing in normal times, guide each other through language, say a few words a day, and maintain a man for half a month may be separated from Xiao San.
So observe men's behavior, don't look at the surface, we need to really understand the psychology of cheating men.
Maybe the extramarital affair you experienced is not so difficult to solve at all, so don't rush to summarize the situation and talk to Chen Xi.
I can provide my sisters with a method that is feasible and has a high success rate for free.
I am Chenxi, a third-party separatist who hurts you to talk to.