The silence was filled with triumphant songs of victors.
Life is a difficult journey of practice.
In the long river of time, no matter how much prosperity you have experienced, you will eventually have to go alone.
In a flash, it is a person to middle age. If you don't hold fast to time, what do you take to create happiness in life, and what do you use to support your family?
Don't think about anything, be realistic, and learn four ways of living: be patient with things, be cruel in heart, be steady in your words, and save money.
01
Things can be endured, the wind and waves are calm
Man is not a sage, and it is difficult to see through everything and let go.
What can be done is to try not to cause trouble, just as the so-called step back from the sea and the sky, endure the calm of the wind and waves for a while.
During the reign of Emperor Wu of Han, Sima Qian was impeached by his courtiers for defending Li Ling, who had been defeated and surrendered to the enemy, angering Emperor Wu of Han and being sentenced to palace punishment.
The seven-foot boy who has been greatly wronged, how can he not be angry?
However, Sima Qian did not sink because of this, he endured his sad and indignant emotions, continued to create, and finally wrote the "History of History" of Liufang Hundred Generations.
As the saying goes: "If you can't bear it, you will plot big." ”
Everyone has emotions, but we must be the masters of emotions, not to vent emotions at will, let alone bring emotions into social interaction.
If you get angry at others, you will only make things worse and lose the opportunity to cooperate and win-win.
No one wants to cooperate with an angry person.
If you're really angry, yell at an empty place, or try to calm down, read a few books, and look at the moon in the sky.
If you have time, go to the street in the early morning to see, you will find that there are always people, in order to live, wearing stars and wearing the moon.
Sanitation workers, sweeping the streets with brooms; people rushing by with their luggage; the lights in the hospital are always on, and there are people trying to fight the disease.
No matter what is good in this world, we cannot avoid the chaotic life of soldiers.
Bear with it, feel at ease, things will always have a clue.
02
The human heart can be fierce, self-reliant and self-reliant
Wang Guozhen said:
"Opportunity, rely on yourself to fight; fate, rely on yourself to grasp; life is your own drawing board, why rely on others to color?" 」
It is better to ask others than to seek oneself, and it is better to rely on others than to rely on oneself.
In this world, no one will help you for no reason, and relying on yourself is the king.
We are all ordinary people, without a glorious and prominent background, without a congenitally superior family situation.
Every day, we can only walk out of a Yangguan Avenue by relying on our own hard work and step by step.
In the "Warring States Policy", it is written: "Those who discuss the most virtuous are not in harmony with the customs, and those who have achieved great achievements do not seek the public." ”
The most important thing in life, don't discuss with everyone, you have to make your own decisions. Where fate goes, you decide.
The advice of others is important, but others will not fight for you, nor will they take the place of you.
With a fierce force, he forced himself to study and start a business, and when he could not bear it, he responded fiercely to others and showed his true ability.
Use "fierce" to the extreme, and you will find that many people do not succeed, not because they do not work hard enough, but because they give up after taking ninety-nine steps.
You can't just tell yourself when you can't get it up – there's one last step.
When people reach middle age and you are not cruel, then society will be cruel to you and will force you into a corner.
03
Words can be spoken steadily, and disasters are far away
Bing Xin wrote in the article: "In the silence, it is full of triumphant songs of victors. ”
People who insist on silence feel very special and reliable when interacting with people.
If you live in a busy city, you will find that the most difficult thing in life is not to face traffic jams, disputes, and make money, but to "make peace in the middle of trouble".
Many middle-aged people, after some efforts, have achieved little success, but he is very arrogant, a few words, he ruined his future, fell short.
When Zhu Yuanzhang was down, there was a man named Guo Decheng who defected to him and had always been in a low position and was unwilling to become a high official.
When the Ming Dynasty was founded, Zhu Yuanzhang gave Guo Decheng a lot of wine and money, and he could sit back and relax in the second half of his life.
One day, Guo Decheng got drunk and said, "What I hate most in my life is messy hair, if only I could shave my head." ”
A heartless word made Zhu Yuanzhang furious. Because when he was young, in order to survive, he had to become a monk.
In order to find a way out, Guo Decheng shaved his hair and laughed at himself, only to avoid a disaster.
The ancients said, "Dragons have scales, don't anger the scales." ”
In real life, anyone has "reverse scales". If you don't know how to control your speech, then you're probably going to anger others.
Flaunting oneself, bringing jealousy; belittling others, hiding anger; to put things bluntly, bitterly pressing people... Talking less is wise.
04
Spending money can save money and live happily
As the saying goes, if you have grain in your hand, you don't panic in your heart.
When people reach middle age, 80% of their confidence is given by money.
Many people complain that it is too difficult to make money. However, they did not think about it, how should the money be distributed reasonably when it is in hand?
It's just a simple matter of subsistence with money.
As the old saying goes: Man has no far-reaching worries, but will have near-term worries.
When living in peace, think of danger, spend what should be spent, and save what should not be spent. Save some money appropriately to meet the needs of the times.
A friend of mine, who works in Shenzhen, earns about 12,000 a month, but he has no savings all year round.
His money is spent on rent, beauty, fitness, travel, child support, etc.
If he knows how to save money, then the house can be smaller, the place is slightly more off, the beauty can be omitted, and the fitness can go to the park.
In this way, you can deposit at least three thousand or more per month.
It is difficult to make money, and spending money is like a rush into the sea.
When people reach middle age, the real life without discounts is to cut the door hard and pave the way for future life. ▽
I've seen a cartoon:
A middle-aged man, pulling a scooter, going to the door with parents and children, house cars, cityscapes, work...
When people reach middle age, we must live as our own ferrymen, and we must also learn to ferry people.
Bear with it, things will be easier to handle; the heart will be fierce, and the strength will be there;
When words are reliable, the circle is harmonious; money is saved, and there is hope for the future.
May you be unashamed and worthy of others.
Source: Coarse food
Author: Cloth coarse food
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