#亲爱的小孩征文 #
Romain Rolland said: In marriage, everyone has to pay a price, but also to take back something, this is the law of supply and demand.
Xiao Lu, who is always absent
Xiao Lu, who is bent on career success, has performed poorly in his wife's third trimester of pregnancy, neglected to take care of her and is not careful enough, and cannot perceive the anxiety caused by his wife's body shape changes.
At such a critical moment as the delivery room and the delivery room, Xiao Lu was absent, and the delivery room was still absent, at this time, Fang Yinuo had a scar in his heart.
After the late arrival, in the face of the pain of childbirth, the physically and mentally exhausted wife, still took care of as before, and when Fang Yinuo was incontinent because he had just finished giving birth, he had a disgusted expression.
Discharged home, Xiao Lu continued to be in a state of "absence". Fang Yinuo sat in confinement, countless times to take care of the crying baby, Xiao Lu was still asleep;
Early out and late return, can not see the problem of the sister-in-law, can not see the child jaundice, the child is not there every time he is sick;
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law only sought to calm things down, and then they did not return home at night, and finally ushered in the last straw that overwhelmed the marriage, a woman came uninvited at the child's first birthday feast and exposed the scandal in public.
Freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and the breakdown of marriage is not formed overnight. Xiao Lu's countless absences, lack of responsibility, and perfunctory things were undoubtedly worse in Fang Yinuo's heart.
Like a vase, after experiencing repeated bumps and vibrations, it has long been covered with large and small cracks, and finally, even if it is placed lightly on the table, it will be broken because of a little external force inadvertently.
Suffocating Fang Yinuo
But is the responsibility all on Shaw Road? Not quite.
Women give birth to children, born into death, physical and psychological tests suffered a huge test, at this time if there is no meticulous and responsible husband, disappointment is inevitable, but should disappointment be sentenced to marriage death?
Under the various contradictions and disputes, Xiao Lu had proposed to have a good chat, but Fang Yinuo refused. One party cheated, two people faced a marriage that existed in name only, Fang Yinuo counted the tolerance of Xiao Lu, but each time he endured, it was not equal to the end, but it was to transform the anger into another face and continue to needle Xiao Lu into Mai Mang.
Fang Yinuo's endless accusations, pickiness, cold words, and calculations have entered a vicious circle between the husband and wife. The more disappointed Fang Yinuo became, the less angry he became, and the evil words broke out at any time.
Xiao Lu, who faces these things every day, is even more reluctant to go home, more and more unbalanced and numb, and big things and small things will only mechanically apologize and ask for forgiveness.
From the sidelines, Xiao Lu was wrong first, and he was wrong again and again. But Fang Yinuo did not want to find an exit, she was too busy and too tired, with the baby to work, the chicken feathers of life pressed her did not have the energy to think anymore, and it also included some as Zhu Zhu said, she never felt that she would make a mistake.
Women have babies and babies, it is not easy to be difficult, and it is not wrong to have privileges, but it should always be moderate.
Everything must be compared, aggressive, and if one thing is not satisfied, it will be completely denied, and the accusations will be intensified, which is both unwise and contrary to the original intention. Along the way, didn't you have the preparation to tolerate each other's shortcomings for a lifetime to become a family of three!
No sense of responsibility, evasion, derailment, such a Xiao Lu is indeed too scummy. Fang Yinuo is too tough and never roundabout, in their relationship, maybe she chooses not to love first, otherwise she would not have never wanted to change.
When it comes to the responsibility for marital misfortunes, both people have it, and both people are the initiators. Fang Yinuo's loss of control and Xiao Lu's escape were also repulsed by marriage.
There are contradictions in the marriage relationship that are not afraid, the key lies in how to deal with contradictions. Communicate more, open your heart, ask for needs instead of venting emotions, and don't expect the other person to do exactly what they think.
In the marriage of Xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo, their empathy ability is too weak, they are tolerant and considerate in their mouths, but they cannot accept each other's shortcomings in action, nor can they face the problems in marriage.
Even if it is difficult to give up, it can only leave a devastated ending.