Do you know that between men and women, there is a relationship that is more "terrible" and "charming" than extramarital affairs is popular, see this title, are you going to have a lot of questions, what kind of relationship is this, how "terrible", and how "charming", does this relationship really exist between men and women? Today, let's talk about what kind of relationship between men and women this is.
When it comes to the relationship between men and women, please answer my question first: How many relationships can occur between men and women in your impression? I guess people will laugh and say that there are still several relationships between men and women, according to the environment in which they are located, in marriage, at home, is the most intimate husband and wife relationship. In addition to the relationship between husband and wife, marriage, I can imagine that: first, before marriage may be a relationship between lovers, two, ordinary friends in life, three, team partners at work, four, is an extramarital lover relationship, what else can there be, nothing more than these. And I said, you are only right about part, not comprehensive, now between men and women, in addition to these relationships, there is a relationship, and it is still particularly popular, I call this relationship "charming" relationship, is more fascinating than extramarital affairs, then. What kind of relationship does this 'charming' relationship look like between a man and a woman? Let's take a look.
People who have this kind of relationship will definitely have such a heterosexual presence, who can do everything to give each other a response, and everything will help each other arrange a good landing. But this person is not the one who sleeps next to your pillow, you are neither husband nor wife, nor are you lovers, but she (him) is no less important than your pillow person. Such a heterosexual relationship is what I would call a "charming" and 'terrible' relationship.
In fact, this is a relationship with blurred boundaries, if it is classified into the team of love, it is less than love; if it is divided into the team of friendship, but there is more than one concern for ordinary friends, placed in the team of family affection, it does not make sense, I regard this relationship as the sublimation of love, friendship, and family affection, so it is called a "charming" relationship.
The man and woman in this charming relationship, the relationship between them, is not by meeting often, but mainly by a kind of spiritual sustenance. Or in WeChat, or in the buckle, are maintained in the form of chat on social software, you have words, I will have words, the reply may not be timely, but will give each other a response, which has become a tacit understanding between them, because they know each other well, mutual understanding is the secret of maintaining this relationship, are from the heart for each other's sake, will not let each other because of their own more burden, only want their own existence, can make each other happy, can become each other's medicine to adjust life.
It is fascinating because their interactions look bland, as tasteless as water, but also tasteless. A greeting every morning, like mellow coffee, the mellow taste, let each other's body and mind happily devote themselves to the work and life of the day. A few words of ridicule in leisure time can relax the mood caused by the pressure caused by work; when the mood is low, the depression in the heart is released; and the joy will also be shared together. Every moody and sad interaction reveals the concern and care for each other. Their relationship is also stronger after a day of broken thoughts. Just as coffee has been polished again and again, the feelings between them have become more fragrant and mellow.
Someone who sees this here might say. What is the difference between this emotion and love? Isn't that an extramarital affair? Not really. Although they greet each other every day. But love is never involved in their words. Doesn't push boundaries. As I said earlier, this relationship is a relationship with blurred boundaries. Mastering it well is a 'charming' relationship. Failure to master it can become a 'terrible' relationship. So what's so terrible about this relationship?
In my understanding, this relationship compared with friendship, there is a little bit of a taste of love, the two people in the relationship, in addition to not living together like husband and wife, the daily interaction is no different from the husband and wife, some may even be more than the communication between the husband and wife, but there is no Qingqing me, is a pure spiritual level of the partner, so I said, this relationship is the poppy in the flower of feelings, charming and addictive, to say that they are in love with each other, But they never want to have each other, to say that they do not love, but they all have a unique place in their hearts for each other, which is its terrible point, how to control, completely in the two people involved, a little deviation, it is easy to be condemned by morality.
Seeing this, it is inevitable that some people will have to worry about it, will there be such a heterosexual existence around my (her) side? What should I do if there is?
The advice I give is, don't worry too much. I think the relationship between them is just a synthetic type of emotional interaction. Today is not a "men and women do not kiss" era, the interaction between men and women in social life is an indispensable element, for the relationship between men and women who are not lovers, people have long been happy to accept, feel that it is a very normal thing, this relationship is not wrong, as long as there is a bottom line and principles between them, no matter the relationship between men and women, what role they are in, modern society is tolerant of their understanding of this relationship.
If you really find that you have such a friend of the opposite sex next to him (her) in your family, we should not be jealous, and do not overturn the vinegar jar, my suggestion is that you can try to put your married life "loose" a little, so that both parties have a space for independence, and maybe let your married life find a new ignition.
Finally, advice to men and women in this relationship, please always be true friends. In addition to family affection, love and friendship, this kind of feelings between men and women that have been sublimated by time is worth remembering and cherishing, and when you meet, you are lucky, and I hope that this relationship can become a diamond-level opposite-sex feeling, stable and eternal.