As we all know, China is a society with more men and fewer women, and the proportion of men and women is becoming more and more unbalanced, coupled with women's increasingly high requirements for choosing a mate, it is more and more difficult for many male compatriots to find a partner, so parents are also anxious like ants on a hot pot, turning around, forcing children to go on a blind date The drama has played out one scene after another, always without an ending.
The 32-year-old leftover man went on a blind date 3 times a day, shouted that he couldn't stand it, and immediately ran away from home
Mr. Zhou is 32 years old this year, but so far for various reasons and has not been in love, his parents are really anxious, they continue to arrange blind dates for him, often arrange 3 blind dates for him in 1 day, Mr. Zhou really can't stand it. Finally, at one point, he completely exploded his long-simmering emotions and ran away from home after a big fight with his parents.
Parents are good for their children, but the way should be appropriate, and they must not be sick and rushed to go on a blind date
Parents force their children to go on a blind date, the starting point is of course for the children's good, but it is more important to communicate with the children and respect the children's wishes. Sometimes it is not that children are unwilling to make friends, but that today's blind dates themselves are very realistic, if they do not have excellent conditions, blind dates are also a waste of time, after all, the woman in the blind date wants material conditions, and it is unrealistic to simply talk about feelings. It is precisely because of this that many people reject blind dates because they know that they are not very reliable.
If you want to easily find a partner, parents may have to cultivate the following abilities of their children from an early age:
First, social skills: we can find that in life, children with strong social skills are not worried about finding a girlfriend at all, from the case, it can be seen that Mr. Zhou is usually a person who is not good at making friends, otherwise there is no need for parents to arrange blind dates for him all day long, parents should let children expand the circle of friends, from an early age should cultivate his speaking ability, expression ability, including the cultivation of personality, extroverted personality is easier to find a girlfriend than introverted personality.
Second, communication skills: In this case, if Mr. Zhou has good communication skills, I am afraid that it will not lead to the final anger and run away from home. If there is good communication with the blind date, perhaps the blind date may have been successful long ago. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's communication skills from an early age, so that children know how to communicate with different people and how to think differently.
Third, emotional management ability: many people lose confidence once they fail in love, and they are discouraged when they fail on a blind date, in fact, these are not necessary, after all, many of us are not excellent people, it is normal to find a partner to fail once or twice, and the mentality needs to be corrected, that is to say, to have the ability to manage and control their emotions and mentality.
Fourth, the ability to take care of yourself: In fact, this aspect not only refers to your ability to work, but also includes the ability to eat and live simply in life, and men who can wash and cook are referred to as affordable men, and when looking for a partner, they will also become one of the advantages. In real life, many people can't even cook, they can't take care of themselves, how to take care of others.
Parenting experts remind: parents in life to know how to give their children care and freedom, and children also need to understand the parents' difficulty, in the event of contradictions, should be appropriate control of their emotions, do not irrational behavior, so that the parents are also a kind of harm.