If you always live according to the expectations of others, you will not be able to live your own life. In life, don't use other people's brains to think about your own life.
In her new book "Don't Use Other People's Brains, Think About Your Life", best-selling author Tsai Wei shared with readers how to be an excellent person and have their own opinions.
The author believes that people without opinion live passively everywhere, and may you fight hard enough, reborn, and find a sense of control in life.
I met a friend who was originally working as a lobby manager in a hotel and switched to insurance sales after marriage. With his contacts and experience in the hotel, but in two years, he opened countless orders and his income rose.
Some say that not everyone is fit to sell.
Those who always like to listen to other people's opinions always end up with nothing.
Because, no one can be responsible for your life, your life, only yourself.
In the book, the author mentions that by doing what you are good at, you beat 95% of the people.
I remember seeing a story that the famous golfer Woods was good at playing long balls, but the coach spent a long time with him in order to train him to play short balls. In the end, it was found that the effect was not ideal.
When the coach decided to maximize Woods' strengths, he used the technique of the long ball to the extreme. Achieved a very satisfactory effect. And in the process, Woods himself was also very active in the training program.
In fact, when people do what they are good at, they will play a higher level.
Sometimes, we are not satisfied with our condition, and the first thing to do is to check if there is a problem with our track. Try another track, maybe you will get some surprising gains.
Netizens said that if you want to earn 10,000 a month, don't ask for advice from people with a monthly salary of 3,000. Thinking determines income, and your circle determines cognition. Making friends with excellent people, in addition to learning their advantages, is to get a lot of value information, which is the core difference between thinking and cognition.
Not pinning your hopes on others is a kind of confidence.
The author also mentions a suggestion: before you like another person, you should like yourself alone.
A person who does not love himself will not be loved by others.
In life, there are many people with a giving personality. Whether it's during a relationship or after marriage, they like to give. Spending your own money on others, wasting your time for others, and eventually getting nothing, the other party also scorns this kind of payment.
The authors say: "Learn to reflect on your mistakes and recognize your own goodness." Don't waste your time alone, learn to enjoy your life", only in this way can you meet a better version of yourself.
There is a value exchange in any relationship, and if you even give up your own value, then you naturally can't get a real and effective relationship, and you can't get the respect of the other party.
Learning to love yourself is one of the values of a person.
The author also mentions: "Overtime is sometimes a manifestation of inefficiency. ”
In an era when internal volumes were frequent, overtime culture was also enshrined as a professional principle by many. It seems that which company does not work overtime, it seems that the amount of business is very bad.
In fact, in an effective time, get things done within the scope of work. Even the performance of the excellent company system is also a manifestation of individual ability.
In today's career, there is really an excellent team, and the assessment goal must not be the punch time, but the performance and profit statement.
When you can bring more value to the team than the average performance, then whether you work overtime or not, it is estimated that no one will care.
Born to be human, only this life. Everyone's life is limited, and it's equally important to plan your time and career.
Of course, there are also some occupations that require always-on call and often overtime. But most industries don't need to use overtime to prove their excellence.
Compared with efficiency and time, it is most effective to improve your own business level.
In order to improve the team relationship, some people do small things and suppress their personality. Instead of being cautious, try to make yourself indispensable.
"Don't Think About Your Life with Other People's Brains" is an inspirational collection of essays, and many of the author's views should be in line with people's anxiety at the moment.
The author himself has also served as a Fortune 500 executive, so some career advice is of great help to professionals. Being friends with good people or reading a book that helps you is also a kind of learning and improvement.