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It is said that a person's life is good or bad, a large part of the reason depends on their own mentality, some people are difficult to fill, always like to compare with others, only think about what they do not have, and ignore what they have; and some people are content and happy, feel that although the current life is not rich and noble, but the days can also be lived, life is only a few decades, always compared with others, then the heart will always feel unbalanced, but those who are wise and foolish, they are happy every day, the days are plain but happy.
Some people think that the nanny is a service industry, usually to see the eyes of the people to act, or a waiter's chore, always feel that they are inferior to ordinary people, the life must be very miserable, and the employer since the money to hire a nanny, then at least in terms of economic conditions are very superior, even if other aspects are poor, but certainly better than the nanny, but the world is no wonder, some nannies just feel that they are better than their employers.
Just like the 52-year-old nanny, she confessed: "I am an 80-year-old employer," she has children and daughters, and she has a pension of 5,000 yuan per month, if I were her, I would definitely not have to worry about my later life, but her life was a mess, not as good as my nanny." ”
What's going on, let's look down together.
52-year-old Aunt Zhou's self-report:
I am 52 years old, as a nanny for more than ten years, many people know that to be a nanny is to see the face of the employer, if the employer has a strange temper, the nanny will be scolded by the employer every day, but I am also forced by life, my wife left early, I a woman pulled my son around to beg for a life, I did a lot of work, but in the end did not stick to it, the ordinary waiter's salary is too small; into the factory every day standing, my legs and feet can not stand, by chance, I entered the nanny industry, The job of nanny is easier than entering the factory, the salary is higher, and I also eat and live, so I have been doing this for more than 10 years.
Every industry has strange customers, doing our nanny line, but also met a lot of different employers, some good temper, some have a strange temper, and even unreasonable and nanny fights, of course, I have not met with my fight employers, just heard colleagues say that there is such a thing.
I have been a nanny for so many years is still lucky, did not meet a particularly difficult employer, but what impressed me most is Mrs. Li, she is 80 years old, when she was young in the unit as a small leader, at that time very powerful, but also managed dozens of people, now there is a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan, which is more than enough for an old man, although her wife divorced her, but she still has a son and a daughter, and her later life is relatively complete.
Mrs. Li because of her wife to the end of her life with her divorce, resulting in depressed mood, temper is more and more grumpy, really after the divorce, Mrs. Li's physical condition is getting worse and worse, and even lost the basic ability to take care of herself, so she will ask the nanny to serve, I feel that her marriage failure and her personality also has a lot to do with her personality, she is particularly self-esteem, always feel that she is particularly excellent, others are not as good as her, usually talk with a gun with a stick, love to sarcastical others, I feel that her wife just can't stand her personality to divorce, of course, I am just a nanny, specific I can not be too gossipy.
Logically, Mrs. Li has two children, the old age should be old and dependent, but when I came to Mrs. Li's home on the first day, I was really stunned by the scene in front of me, Mrs. Li was disheveled, as if she had not washed her face for a long time, her hair was not taken care of, even the clothes were dirty and could not see the original color, and after walking in, the smell of Mrs. Li's body was really unbearable, I had professional ethics, so I had to endure the idea of vomiting, and helped Mrs. Li to go to the bathroom to take a bath. I changed my clean clothes and changed all the sheets and bedding.
While I was doing this, Mrs. Li has always been silent, did not say a word to me, I really can't stand this oppressive atmosphere, so I took the initiative to say: "Mrs. Li, your living conditions are really good, living in such a big house, and such a high pension, the old age life must be very good, you should hire a nanny as soon as possible, so that you can enjoy the old age life as soon as possible." ”
Unexpectedly, Mrs. Li glanced directly at me and said impatiently: "I will pay you a salary, you just do your part, don't talk so much, don't be nosy!" ”
Later, I have been waiting at Mrs. Li's house, and it is strange to say that other old people will have relatives and friends come to visit the door every three to five years, but Mrs. Li's home has always been cold and cold, and no one has come to visit her at all, and even her children have never come home.
I heard people in the community say that her children are in the city, not far from home, but they are unwilling to come back, it is said that because Mrs. Li was a small leader when she was young, and when she returned home, she treated her children very harshly, and she has always been unsmiling, the children are very afraid of her, and Mrs. Li is also particularly selfless, and many relatives around her ask her to do things, she ignores them, and even mocks those relatives for not having the ability, and drives people out, so in her old age, Mrs. Li's popularity is particularly poor, and no one cares about her at all.
Originally, I still thought that Mrs. Li was a poor person, maybe what was said outside was all rumors, but after a long time together, I found that what the neighbors said was not false, I have been a nanny for so many years, and the psychological quality is already very good, but I still can't stand Mrs. Li's temper, because she especially knows how to say what hurts the most, and every time she says it can poke at the place where I hurt the most.
Once idle, Mrs. Li and I talked about home, I told her that I have an only child at home, and now I am working outside, but I did not expect Mrs. Li to come directly: "Dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, children born of rats will punch holes, people like your identity, even if they have a son, what about it, they are not working outside for others, in the end they can't even afford to buy a house, laughing dead people!" ”
Mrs. Li just likes to base her happiness on the pain of others, watching her smile so happy, I really clenched my fists at that time, I believe that every parent does not want others to say bad things about their children, I am the same, at that time I was eager to directly quarrel with her, resigned and did not do it, but Mrs. Li gave too much money, give me 5,000 yuan a month, also wrapped up in food, thinking about it, I still endured.
Once Mrs. Li was unwell, she went to the hospital for examination, the doctor said to do a small operation, you must sign the family, I said casually at the time, then hurry up and call your children to the hospital! But I didn't expect mrs. Li to be particularly angry, and directly slapped me on the arm and roared: "My family's affairs, it is not your turn as a nanny to judge the head, you a nanny to manage so many idle things to do, is not full of support!" ”
At that time, Mrs. Li's voice was particularly loud, the people around me looked at our side, and pointed at me, I was looking down at the time and was helpless, I really did not expect Mrs. Li's temper to be so hot, even if she was outside, she was not afraid of losing face, saying that scolding people would scold people, and I said this for her good, it was really kind and not good to report, at that time I felt that I was particularly wronged in my heart, and vowed not to be nosy anymore.
During the time when Mrs. Li was hospitalized, I still served with all my heart, but she never said a word of thanks, because in her eyes, these are the services she should enjoy when she spends money, but once I accidentally spilled the soup, Mrs. Li seized the opportunity and began to insult me: "What do you eat, you can sprinkle a soup, do you want to do it!" ”
I couldn't stand it anymore, waiting for him in the hospital for more than half a month, she made this small mistake and she held on to it, I replied: "Mrs. Li, if you have always had this attitude, then I don't want to wait in the future, although I am just a nanny, but I am also a person, I also need your respect, if you have been bullying me like this, let me have no dignity, then I would rather not earn this money of yours, and I will not suffer this grievance again!" ”
At that time, Mrs. Li also did not accept defeat, and quarreled with me: "You are against heaven, take my salary and tell me what respect, I tell you, you are an inferior servant, I am your master, don't you know the difference between master and servant?" ”
I was really shocked by Mrs. Li's words, what era is it now, he still thinks that it is the old society before, sending some money can do whatever you want, and immediately I also made up my mind not to do it, and my speech became sharp, I said: "Do you really think that you can buy out a person's human rights by spending some money?" I tell you, even if I am just a nanny, I am happier than you, you have become like this in your old age, it is entirely your own fault, if you can learn to stand in the position of others and think more, your children will not go home to see you all year round, and my son is willing to come back to visit me every week, I have relatives and friends, what about you? You are a lonely old man, think about it yourself, I am a nanny who is happier than you, I am healthy, my children are filial piety, and relatives and friends come to visit, you are not as good as me! You are living now, and you are not repenting! ”
I said so much in one breath, Mrs. Li was shocked at first, and then she actually cried loudly, I looked at her so sad, and I also felt that what I said was a bit excessive, but at the same time I was ready to resign, and before leaving, I said: "I want to live a better life in my old age, put down your shelf, learn to respect people, and your family and friendship will come back." ”
Although I am only a nanny, but I also have my own bottom line, now there are many elderly people who choose to ask the nanny to give themselves a pension, here also want to tell everyone, although the nanny is a service industry, they are also people, but also need to be respected and recognized, we have to be heart to heart, do not skimp on your praise, so that the nanny will also be more dedicated to service, this society everyone is equal, do not always stand on the highest point to direct others, occasionally sit on an equal footing with others, you will find different beauty.
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