Chinese like to say a "high" word in everything.
The conditions are getting better and better, and everyone is paying more and more attention to the quality of life. Eating pays attention to "high nutrition", sleep pays attention to "high quality", and the spiritual world seeks "high realm"... The first two may be better achieved, but how to define the "high realm"?
All the gains and losses you encounter, every choice you make, must be repaid in another way. A lifetime of hard work, figure what? The picture is to be ashamed and not to be wasted.
Do yourself to the extreme, you can bring your own light. In the process of self-cultivation in life, some things should be put away, let alone greedy. In this way, it is a "high realm" person.
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Life, not greedy
Many people have such a category of people around them:
For some small profits and painstaking efforts - friends dinner, in order to avoid paying the bill and pretend to be drunk, excuse to leave the table; online shopping, in order to save a little money and constantly trouble friends to help bargain...
On the surface, these behaviors seem to take advantage of themselves, but over time, they consume the patience and energy of the people around them, and let themselves be saddled with human debt because of some small cheapness.
Such people often do not realize that their words and deeds are actually picking up sesame seeds and losing watermelons.
Mencius said: Treat people in the world, don't do things that you shouldn't do, don't covet things that you shouldn't want.
People who like to be greedy and cheap, calculate to calculate, but lose their popularity, calculate their own pattern. In the long run, a fluke mentality will be formed, always thinking of opportunism, and taking care of the real overall situation.
Old people often say: Suffering losses is a blessing. Many times, giving up small cheap and small benefits to others can bring unexpected returns for yourself.
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Treat the world, do not covet fame
In life, the vast majority of people pursue the purpose of wealth and status, but in order to get a good reputation and good evaluation, which is beyond reproach.
But many people have reversed the order of gaining fame:
True fame should be to "cultivate one's own character and do things perfectly" as the first purpose, rather than taking fame as the only pursuit.
A good reputation should be an added value after doing your best in the world. If this order is violated, then the fame gained is nothing more than a false name.
"Mencius" said: If you do something and do not get the expected effect, you should check yourself in turn, your words and deeds are correct, and the people around you will naturally obey.
Presumably, one of the most well-known phenomena is that many ordinary jobs are hung up with the names of "director" and "supervisor", but in fact, they are also a migrant worker who has worked hard for five buckets of rice.
For ordinary people, the use of fame is really not so great, rather than coveting a false name, it is better to exchange strength for returns to be real.
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Retirement, not greedy and comfortable
Many people have heard this sentence in Mencius: Born of sorrow and died of comfort. But there are very few people who have heard and heard, and who have really understood and done it.
Someone said:
Retirement is a watershed moment in the second half of life, some people choose to stay at home and do nothing, and some people choose to continue to learn and challenge themselves. The former spent the last golden period of his life in a daze, while the latter lived a new self in phoenix nirvana!
That's true.
After working hard for most of his life, he should enjoy his happiness, but the elite who really has a high realm has never slowed down his pace of progress because of retirement.
You can develop a new hobby: calligraphy, writing, tai chi... You can make new friends: universities for the elderly, tea parties, poetic salons...
This is the most precious golden age! Lacking a tense sense of crisis, it is natural to lose the opportunity for a second rebirth.
Most of the past time has been bound by fame and fortune, and in the next few days, there must always be some pursuit that is cut off from the world, in order to live up to this good year.
"Mencius" said: The poor are alone, and the da is good for the world.
When you are not ambitious, insist on being yourself, not greedy, not greedy, not greedy; when life is still happy, give more play to the residual heat of life.
In this way, it is a truly "high-realm" person.