Recently, I saw CCTV criticize "Dear Child" for selling the focus of misery and sympathy, and then everyone's comments were suddenly reversed.
In the past, it was said that the male protagonist was how the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was, but now they are saying that the marriage rate and fertility rate are declining, and more people will not want to get married and have children after watching such dramas.
This is true, but this kind of real-life drama is not made up out of thin air.
The pain of having children is true for women, it is also true that the original warm home after having children has become chicken and dog jumping because of busyness, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in parenting and even between son-in-law and mother-in-law is also true.
There is less lubricant for sex between husband and wife and more explosive packages for crying children, and those small things that are not paid attention to in ordinary days can accumulate into a large pustule.
How many couples who usually have good feelings have thought of divorce when they have children, and how many originally happy families, because the relationship between the husband and wife and even the parents of both parties after giving birth to children has not been handled well, and finally ended in divorce.
I don't know if you have it, anyway, I love my husband, I used to love and now I love, but when I gave birth to my daughter and when I was confinement, I thought about divorce three times, and even thought about how to divide the property, and how to live with my daughter in the future.
The collapse of a woman's confinement and the bitterness of having children are known only to those who have experienced it.
Such a drama is very heart-wrenching to watch, but it is really heart-wrenching.
In the play, Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu from classmates to husband and wife, can come together to form a family to get pregnant and have children must be because of love, and Fang Yinuo can insist on marrying Xiao Lu who has no money, no car and no house under the opposition of his parents, in addition to love, I can't think of other reasons.
The life of the two people after marriage must be very happy, otherwise they would not have thought of having children, but the arrival of the children did not heat up the feelings of the two, but directly pushed them to divorce.
A slap did not make a sound, and the two people came to the point of divorce, on the surface, the direct cause was Xiao Lu's derailment, but the strength and stubbornness of Fang Yinuo were also one of the reasons.
Xiao Lu would rather smoke in the car and listen to music than go home to face it, not because he does not love a promise and does not care about his daughter, but wants to escape from this noisy and brain-wrenching environment, working hard during the day, going home at night and being scolded, who can bear it?
In the end, Xiao Lu cheated, the couple divorced, Fang Yinuo lived with the child, and three years later married Xie Tianhua, who had always liked her since high school.
1, too egotistical
Mother-in-law Gao Caiping said a word to Fang Yinuo, your child is too sharp, think of good things ten cows can not pull back, it is true.
When Fang Yinuo wanted to marry Xiao Lu, his parents did not agree, Fang Yinuo was the only daughter in the family, had a stable teacher job, and his parents were both in-service employees.
Xiao Lu is a child of a single-parent family, and a younger brother who is not in business, and his mother is a smoker gambler who hangs around the mahjong table all day, and Xiao Lu has no money, no car and no house, just a small clerk in charge of running business in a private company.
The family with the wrong door and the opposition of the parents were all pushed back by Fang Yinuo, but the life after marriage was not as sweet as imagined, and Fang Yinuo's temper was also one of the reasons for pushing Xiao Lu away.
In their husband and wife relationship, Fang Yinuo said that there was no difference, and in the third trimester of pregnancy, he also had to mix chili peppers to eat noodles, Xiao Lu coaxed her to endure for two more days, eating too much spicy is not good for the child, but she wants Xiao Lu to accompany her to eat non-spicy noodles.
The family obviously only has 70,000 yuan of savings, but would rather take out more than 10,000 to invite the sister-in-law rather than let the mother-in-law come to serve the confinement, in the face of the mother-in-law's complaints, she just closed her mouth and did not say anything, anyway, the idea is that she took it, how to explain to the mother-in-law is Xiao Lu's matter.
She drove Xiao Lu to the living room to sleep on the sofa and also looked at the sister-in-law, observed the mother-in-law's every move with the telescope, smelled whether the mother-in-law and daughter had the smell of smoke, she made various rules for the family, all of which were not reasonable at all in the mother-in-law's view, but she never explained to the mother-in-law, but found that the problem turned around and complained to Xiao Lu, letting Xiao Lu solve it.
Both sides were complaining, and Xiao Lu was sandwiched between his wife and his mother like a pot wrapped in meat.
But Fang Yinuo did not put herself in Xiao Lu's shoes and thought about it, all she thought about was how to be good to her daughter, her daughter became everything for her, and the husband who accompanied her day and night became a maid, and she could not even kiss her.
Later, Xiao Lu cheated on her, and as a woman who could not forgive her husband for cheating for any reason, this was normal.
But Xiao Lu's cheating also has family reasons, Fang Yinuo has not suffered since childhood, but Xiao Lu has grown up with hardships, and he wants to prove himself by earning more money and let his wife and children live a good life, so he will desperately drink to pull business.
If there was a gentle wife and a lovely daughter in the family who made her worry all the time, and there was a warm home waiting for him, he would not indulge himself at the celebration feast to be unconscious.
Much of his indulgence was about escaping, just as he didn't want to go home when his car stopped downstairs.
In the eyes of outsiders, Xiao Lu's unintentional cheating can be forgiven, but Fang Yinuo cannot tolerate it.
She worked hard to conceive and give birth to a child in October, she had to work hard to make money inside and out of the house, and her mother retired two years early to help take care of Hehe, these are all chips for her to blackmail Xiao Lu into being conscientious to the family.
Moreover, she spoke very hurtfully, scolding Xiao Lu at every turn, "Do you still want your face?"
If Xiao Lu's cheating matter was solved privately instead of making trouble in front of many relatives and friends at Hehe's first birthday party, perhaps the marriage of the two people would still be saved.
But xiao lu's derailment was so blatantly placed in front of Fang Yinuo, which was the reason why she couldn't stand it.
She wanted to divorce Xiao Lu regardless of his disregard, took out the family's savings, calculated the details, and finally divided it into two;
She gathered her classmates together to hold a divorce dinner, saying that she wanted her classmates to witness their beginnings and their ends;
She called the third party Zhu Zhu to humiliate Xiao Lu in public, so that he could not get off the stage;
She told Xiao Lu that she would change her daughter's name to Fang He, and also asked Xiao Lu not to appear in her daughter's world in the future;
She went home to move things, cleaned up the messy home, and took away the TV, sofa cushions, sheet covers, and everything else she bought.
At this time, how fierce Fang Yinuo was, how much she hated Xiao Lu, but these hatreds came from love, how true the love was at the beginning, how much hatred she hated now.
Her sharp temper determined that she would not give Xiao Lu a chance to change, and also determined that she pushed the relationship between the two from the most intimate to the most cold two extremes.
2, loveless marriage
If Fang Yinuo divorced Xiao Lu in order to make himself no longer be wronged, then accept Xie Tianhua for his daughter Hehe.
Once when Hehe was playing in the playground, he saw that the little girl next to him was accompanied by his father, and the father wiped his daughter's sweat for a while and encouraged her to be brave for a while, which Hehe had never experienced.
So when she saw the little girl snuggled in her father's arms, she also called out "Daddy" sheepishly. This scene touched her mother Fang Yinuo, who was waiting for her.
Fang Yinuo thought that she did not owe her daughter's mother's love, but because of her unreasonable refusal, Xiao Lu never appeared in Hehe's world, and although Hehe was very happy, he was a child who lacked father's love.
Xie Tianhua is the only man who has given Hehe's father love, he will accompany Hehe to play games, take her to catch a small goldfish, and send her various toys.
According to Fang Yinuo's words, Hehe was closer to Xie Tianhua than to her.
Fang Yinuo did not love Xie Tianhua, and the reason she agreed to Xie Tianhua was because Hehe needed a father, or more accurately, a father who could truly love her.
However, the Xie family did not want to accept Fang Yinuo, who was married for the second time and took his daughter, especially Xie Tianhua's sister Xie Dan.
From the first time Fang Yinuo went to eat at home as a girlfriend to the time she officially lived in the Xie family as Xie Tianhua's wife, Xie Dan never gave her a good look, either sarcastically or pointed to Sang Scolding Huai, and also instigated the relationship between the family and Fang Yinuo, saying that she did not want to give Xie Tianhua a child at all.
In the face of such a difficulty of open guns and dark arrows, Fang Yinuo either laughed or acted as if he hadn't heard it, and from time to time he used words to please Xie Dan, never facing her head-on.
Why did Fang Yinuo, who said that he was not two in the previous marriage, accept his temper?
In the previous marriage, she loved Xiao Lu, so she let Xiao Lu do everything for granted, and she regarded all this as a return of love.
However, in the current marriage, she did not love Xie Tianhua, she chose Xie Tianhua only because he was good to Hehe, and she knew that Xie Tianhua had always loved herself.
Out of guilt, she is willing to aggrieved herself to maintain a harmonious relationship with the Xie family, and she does not want to make it difficult for Xie Tianhua.
Is Fang Yinuo happy with Xie Tianhua? I couldn't see it, she was just using her own good manners and sensible reasoning to repay Xie Tianhua's love for Hehe.
3，
If a person's heart does not pick up the previous person, it is best not to put it into another person, this sentence applies to Fang Yinuo, but also applies to Xiao Lu.
In order to please him, Xiao Lu's new girlfriend cut the same short hair as Fang Yinuo, but Xiao Lu would still look at the photos of the family when Hehe was one year old.
When he heard Xie Tianhua say that he was with Fang Yinuo, although he said he didn't care, he still desperately pulled noodles into his mouth to demonstrate his sadness.
He would beg Xie Tianhua to secretly take Hehe to the playground to play with him and enjoy the short time with his daughter.
In his heart, Fang Yinuo and Hehe still occupied a large part of the position, even though he now had a new fiancée.
And Fang Yinuo?
Although she was determined on the surface, before agreeing to Xie Tianhua, she still enlarged the family portrait in her mobile phone and found Xiao Lu's avatar, which was so easy to make a break with before.
Even after marrying Xie Tianhua for a year, she did not feel good when she received Xiao Lu's wedding invitation.
She hates Xiao Lu, but it is precisely because of love that she feels hate, she has no love for Xie Tianhua, so when she is harassed at her in-laws' house, she never wants to complain to Xie Tianhua.
Marriage without love, just a partner to live a life, Xie Tianhua helped her to provide fatherly love to Hehe, she fulfilled Xie Tianhua's wish that she has always liked herself, nothing more.
From this point of view, the most pitiful thing in this drama is not Xiao Lu, who is not understood, not Fang Yinuo, who was cheated on and divorced with his children, but Xie Tianhua, who married his sweetheart.