If your family happens to have a child with "bottom three" academic performance, then let's seriously discuss the child's academic and future career plans.
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The reason for linking children's learning with future careers is based on the following two reasons: First, in the first round of academic performance competition, the "bottom three" children obviously lost. In this case, there is no need to dwell on the "academic performance" that has been lost, and it is necessary to clearly and decisively "start" the child. The second is how to combine the child's superior resources for academic planning, and effectively transform or partially transform the previous learning experience and subject knowledge into the "specialty" or "new curriculum" in the academic planning, which is particularly important!
It is necessary for us to objectively evaluate the "last three".
The reason why the "last three" appear is mostly because such students have active thinking, a wide range of hobbies, emotional intelligence is generally higher than that of classmates of the same age, their ability to adapt to the environment and the ability to guess the psychology of others are stronger, they are tired of learning step by step, and they listen to lectures and do homework unchanged. In a nutshell, the "last three" are mostly smart, adaptable people, and their potential is not comparable to that of "dead reading" students. Among them, a large proportion of students who have received early special education account for a large proportion.
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According to a survey I conducted, about 39 percent of urban students had received "specialty" training before the sixth grade of primary school, of which about 87 percent had experienced a significant decline in academic performance after receiving specialty training, and about 92 percent did not end up in their previous "specialty" or related occupations.
This finding illustrates two aspects.
First, because parents hope that Jackie Chan is eager, but ignore the child's learning interest and the ability to match it. When "special students" do not perform well in school and "specialties" do not play their role, students will face double pressure and obstacles.
The second is that the willingness to cultivate children into special students comes from parents, and 92% of "special students" did not choose to engage in the previous "specialty" occupation or related occupation in the end, indicating that the initial specialty is not the "specialty" that the students themselves like or are really good at.
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I do not recommend that parents ask their children to learn "specialties" such as singing, dancing, model performance, host, piano, erhu, pipa, etc. when they are very young, because the so-called music, art, sports and other specialties are all speculative psychology of parents "letting children have one more way".
The so-called special students, in the eyes of Westerners, 80% rely on the child's talent, and the cultivation of this "special student" is based on the premise that the child is willing to develop his own potential, and the Chinese who believes in "the book mountain has a road and a diligent path, and the learning sea is endlessly arduous", under the encouragement of its careful thinking and small face, regardless of whether the child has this potential, regardless of whether the child is willing to take the special road, do not ask the child to receive special training. More and more parents are holding that "their children will eventually become famous", and they are sticking to it beyond ordinary people!
Until the child becomes the "last three", whether the parent is sad or accepts it calmly, the parent must have a proper solution. Because parents have once again pushed themselves to the threshold of determining their children's fate! And this time, it is more urgent and realistic than the first one!
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In fact, the last three children, in addition to the most unlikely to learn to catch up later, there are three "lives", parents first plan their children's academic planning, guide children to follow this plan to take their own road and succeed.
The first "life": let the child become a real special student and get a new life.
What I am talking about is for "special students" (not "special students" who have mastered a practical technique or skill (not "special students" such as singing, dancing, modeling, hosting, etc.), and after completing the school, children can easily enlarge their majors and studies into future jobs and careers.
The second "life": There are many "last three" children, who seem to have no hobbies and specialties. At this time, how to guide and guide such children, so that they can become obsessed with a "hobby" or "specialty" in a relatively short period of time, is particularly important. After that, transfer or lock your child's "hobbies" or "specialties" to a practical course or project.
The third "life": jump to the advantage platform and let the child lead.
What is a Benefit Platform? Don't one-sidedly think that "rich and well-connected" is the advantage platform, sometimes, "poverty, weakness, time difference, regional difference, poor concept" may contain more potential energy.
Write at the end:
When other parents take a large sum of money to send their children to the United States to continue their studies, have you ever thought that if your son, who graduated from high school, learned welding techniques that no one wanted to learn in China (free training for the unemployed in the labor department), he would not have the trouble to find high-income argon arc welding jobs in the United States. Isn't it great for children to take courses they are interested in or good at technology while earning dollars? Therefore, even if the child's learning is "the last three", his (her) future also has three "lives"!
Shanghai Psychological Counseling - Good Psychologist - Shanghai Lotte Psychological Counseling Center