Yu Xiuhua, a 46-year-old poet with cerebral palsy, also showed his love on the Internet a few days ago, and joined hands with her 14-year-old boyfriend Xiao Yang after 90 years old, swinging on the swing, wearing Hanfu and dancing happily, a beautiful picture of the world!
However, the next day, the Internet broke up with her and her little boyfriend, ending the rumors of this vigorous sister-brother relationship.
The confusing operation, whether it is true or not, let netizens "can't understand", and once again talk about her "old and young love", mixed praise and criticism.
This middle-aged poet with the label of a disabled body and an unfortunate life has long been famous with her beautiful and profound words.
The famous poet and Shennongjia beekeeper, this relationship between the identity and age of others is extremely wrong, there is utilitarianism in the eyes of too many people.
Recently, Yu Xiuhua released a video in response to the various doubts of netizens about her relationship: "Even if he wants my name and money, I will complete him!" The essence of love is to have a picture! ”
Although Yu Xiuhua said that she was free from feelings, some netizens still had some criticisms:
"I can understand the desolation and longing for her emotions, but I can't agree with her screaming lightning love!"
"Where a poet has love, a poet has only passion!"
Thousands of worlds, three different views. No matter what we do, there will always be different voices, not to mention Yu Xiuhua's lightning-eyed love.
Regardless of whether Yu Poet's efforts are worth it, just because she is not afraid of the world's frankness, it is enough for people to read a praise!
Make your own decisions about your own life! Don't be afraid of people's words, not be swayed by others' evaluation.
Although Yu Xiuhua's thunder and lightning love is vigorous, it is still admirable.
After all, life is your own, it has nothing to do with others; feelings are two people, cold and warm self-knowledge!
1, my life, I am in charge
6 years ago, Xie Xingfang, who had just given birth to her son Xiaoyu, had not yet had time to taste the happiness of a new mother, and was stunned by the news of Lin Dan's derailment exposed by the media.
According to the calculation of the time of the incident, in September when Lin Dan cheated, Xie Xingfang was pregnant.
For a time, the popular "Super Dan" turned into a street rat.
With Lin Dan's rapid release of an apology statement, but also confirmed the rumors of derailment, there was a lot of discussion in the media, And Lin Dan's future was in jeopardy.
At this time, Xie Xingfang made a statement of forgiveness, preventing the derailment from continuing to ferment, and also pushed himself into the hot search.
Originally the accusation against Lin Dan alone, because of Xie Xingfang's voice, she also became the object of netizens' sneering. Seeking perfection, cowardice, and looking down on it, "after all, it is a mistake to pay."
Some people think that Xie Xingfang's rebellious and submissive personality caused by the environment in which she grew up is doomed; some people think that she can only choose to seek perfection for the sake of her children; and even some people think that she is not financially independent and dare not divorce.
In this regard, Xie Xingfang ignored it. She has her own judgments and choices.
In one of the interview shows, in the face of the host's sensitive questions, she calmly replied: Marriage is not black and white, there are other things. Every family has its own problems, which can only be said to be cold and warm self-knowledge.
Her emotional bond with Lin Dan for more than ten years is not something that everyone thinks can be solved by separation.
After all, the highest color in life is gray!
Moreover, the essence of life never requires the approval or denial of others.
Moreover, the determination and wolf nature of the world champion are by no means comparable to ordinary people. Courageous choices come from self-confidence and confidence.
Every brilliant life will not be willing to be in any single role.
Xie Xingfang, who has become a mother, hopes to influence her son's growth through her own shining point.
In 2017, after full market research, the mother and baby brand of "DuFen" was born in the hands of Xie Xingfang.
Relying on rich connections and painstaking management, "Dufen" has become a dark horse in the maternal and infant industry.
And Xie Xingfang has also successfully transformed from a poor girl who "has no career and does not dare to divorce" from the trolls to a confident and atmospheric entrepreneur.
Xie Xingfang, who has a happy family and a successful career, uses a gorgeous transformation to punch those mocking keyboard men in the face: My choice has nothing to do with others!
Others are just spectators of your life, and you are the one at the helm.
Paying too much attention to the participation of others in one's own life will only lose the exploration of one's own value.
2) Don't live in the evaluation of others
I once read a fable from "Father and Son Riding a Donkey":
The father and son had to go far away to save their relatives, but there was no one to take care of the donkey in the family. So, the two of them decided to lead the donkey on the road together.
Halfway through, someone laughed at them: "It's stupid, there are donkeys that don't ride, but to walk!" ”
When the father heard this, he asked his son to ride on the back of a donkey. After walking for a while, I heard someone say, "This son is really not filial, he rides a donkey himself, and lets Lao Tzu walk!" ”
The father hurriedly told his son to come down and sit on the back of the donkey himself. Before taking a few steps, someone spoke again: "This father is really cruel, not afraid of tired children?" ”
The father of the soft ear root even told his son to sit on the back of the donkey, and before he could start walking, someone sighed: "What a poor donkey, so thin and hunched, sooner or later it will be crushed to death!" ”
The father and son, ashamed, quickly slipped off the donkey's back, tied the donkey on all fours, and carried it with sticks. Passers-by looked at each other and smiled: "Are there something wrong with these two people, aren't they tired?" ”
The father and son were overwhelmed and simply went to the market to sell the donkey. After that, it was too peaceful to laugh at them anymore.
People who have no opinion, use the evaluation of others to determine their own behavior, how tired they should be!
The father and son in the fable, even if they sell donkeys on the road, I believe that some people will still laugh at their stupidity, why not buy a donkey to reduce their foot strength?
No matter what you do, there are always people who think you're doing something wrong.
The three views are different, the cognition of things will always be different, and we will never meet the standards of all people.
But there are always a lot of people in life who mind the eyes and opinions of others: a word of praise can be happy for three days, a meal of depreciation is so angry that you can't eat or sleep.
Sanmao once ridiculed these people: "We are afraid of losing others." ”
This kind of emotion, which is easy to be swayed by others, will also affect their own lives because of the evaluation of others.
Ruan Lingyu committed suicide because of "fearsome words", and in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Wang Lang died of anger on the spot because of Zhuge Liang's few scoldings.
Many parents who urge marriage cannot stand the "kind" advice and private murmurs of relatives and friends, and the marriage of their children has become their heart disease.
Older men and women who can't stand the urging of all parties, in order to meet their parents' wishes, enter into marriage with reluctance and bets.
The bet is right, the bet is lost, and it contributes a point of divorce data.
People who care about other people's evaluations will never live their own lives.
Sartre once indignantly said: "The other is hell!"
Our goal is to turn ourselves into the form of hope. Living in the evaluation of others will only make yourself a nuisance.
Only by making yourself strong and abundant in your heart will you focus on yourself and do not need to see your own value from others.
What we should live is the life we want, not the way other people "should" look.
3, be true to yourself, live a life like
In the past, the video of Ye Haiyang, a single mother in Shenzhen, only had a ghostly daughter Doris, and now there is a soft and beautiful baby in the picture.
5 years ago, when Ye Haiyang, who did not want to marry, spent 500,000 yuan to buy mixed-race sperm to give birth to his eldest daughter Doris, the three words "Ye Haiyang" became a record on the hot search.
For a time, all kinds of criticism came pouring in.
Some people say that she is "selfish, and the family given to the child is incomplete", and some people say that "the child grows up in such an environment, the character is flawed" and "must have suffered from the love wounds of the dog blood plot".
But Ye Haiyang went his own way, still working hard to run his own business, carefully raising his daughter, and not shying away from recording his daughter's growth on social accounts.
Life is your own and has nothing to do with others.
5 years later, unmarried, buy sperm and have children, CEO, independent women, Ye Haiyang, a "deviant" big guy, has never stepped out of the field of public opinion, but there are more blessings and admiration in the comments.
Live the life you want to live and do what you want to do.
Today's Ye Haiyang, between the elite and the loving mother, lives a quiet and unbridled life.
Public opinion is always thousands of miles away from her.
Ye Haiyang said: "Other people's stories are stories, and their own is life; listening to stories a thousand times, it is better to do your own thing." ”
Those who live in his population cannot withstand the pickling of saliva!
Living your life as you want it is truly happiness.
As long as you don't break the law and don't affect others, follow your heart and live a life of liking.
Write at the end:
"The world is its own, it has nothing to do with others." Master Yang Dai has already revealed the proverbs of life for us.
It is always a reminder that you are the only one in the world, and you don't have to compare yourself with others or pander to others.
You are the master of life, and striving to do yourself well is the most realistic life.
Even if you can't be free, you must "do what your heart desires, and do what you want; life is like a reverse brigade, and a reed is a voyage."
Because, living in the moment, living a beautiful life, enjoying life is the truth!
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