Recently, a TV series "Dear Child" exploded after the premiere of CCTV, and the opening scene was a fertility drama.
The female protagonist Fang Yinuo was still in class near the fertility period, the amniotic fluid broke to the hospital to give birth, there was no movement for half a day, and her husband Xiao Lu took a phone call home to deal with the work. But after the treatment, he did not return to the hospital as soon as possible, but watched the ball game at home and drank beer.
Fang Yinuo's pain made Fang Yinuo unbearable, and she cried out for a caesarean section, but when the nurse was repeatedly sure, she still decided to endure the pain for the sake of the child.
It was difficult to give birth to the child, but Xiao Lu gave the placenta to his mother for the first time, causing his wife to come out of the delivery room without a family member to pick up and drop her to the ward.
The mother-in-law, only cares about cleaning the placenta, preparing to make supplements for the younger son, waiting for the treatment to go to the ward, after the ward is not to care about the daughter-in-law first, but to see the baby first.
Fang Yinuo wanted to drink some water and couldn't drink it, only his own mother, the first time to care for Fang Yinuo, take care of her to drink water, instead of watching the baby.
Seeing this, the girlfriend said: "It's too real, when I gave birth to a baby, everyone only cares about the baby, no one cares about whether I am good or not, only my own mother will think about herself." ”
The hardships of giving birth to a baby, the numbness of postpartum hands and feet, and the chicken feathers of child-rearing life, it is precisely because of the truth of the plot that netizens are angry when watching the drama, but they still continue to chase.
Even Qin Hao, the actor of the male protagonist, sent a warm reminder on Weibo:
It is precisely because this drama depicts married life and child-rearing life too realistically, many people seem to see the hardships in life and do not want to chase the drama again.
"Dear Child" this drama is based on the movie "Left and Right", telling xiao Lu and Fang Yinuo after giving birth to a child, due to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, child-rearing, husband cheating and other issues caused a series of family conflicts, and finally the relationship between husband and wife broke down and divorced.
The couple reorganized the family separately and began a new life, many years later, the daughter suddenly got leukemia, after trying various methods, the doctor suggested that a child could be regenerated, using the newborn's umbilical cord blood for bone marrow matching.
However, the parents of the children are divorced and have their own new families. An ultimate torture of family ethics pushes several families into difficult decisions.
Many people will think that this is just a movie, a TV series, and there can be no such extreme plot in reality, but the film is indeed based on real events.
The same child is sick, in order to save the child and find an ex-husband to have another child, the difference is that the real couple life is tight, and the final outcome is more cruel.
"Left and Right" starred Liu Weiwei (first from the right) and the film's prototype Yan Ying and his youngest son
In 1990, newlyweds Qin Deqiang and Yan Ying left their hometown to work in Guiyang, husband Qin Deqiang engaged in porterage, wife Yan Ying worked in restaurants, a few years later, the eldest son Qin Xinhua and the younger son Qin Xinfu were born one after another, and life was simple and happy.
The eldest son, Qin Xinhua, when he was 7 years old, often felt knee pain and weakness in his legs, and the couple took their children everywhere to see a doctor, and at first they were diagnosed with ordinary growth pain, and the couple relaxed their minds.
But the child's knees were getting worse and worse, and one day in June 2000, Xinhua suddenly fell ill, and after going to the hospital for another examination, the doctor told Yan Ying: "Your son may have leukemia." ”
After hearing this news, Yan Ying was so frightened that she could not speak, her son had just entered elementary school, and his life had just begun, how could he get such a serious illness?
Yan Ying took her son to Beijing for treatment, in order to save money to see her children, she did not want to live in a guest house, lying on the street for 13 nights, eating only 2 steamed buns a day.
On the 14th night, Yan Ying was lying on the street, a group of police took her away, she desperately explained that this solved the misunderstanding, the police learned about her situation, took her to the hospital to see the child, gave her 500 yuan, and later the police station also arranged for her to stay in the guest house for free.
The son is sick, making the family that is not rich worse, the couple is under great economic pressure, often quarrel over money, Qin Deqiang has a bad temper, a quarrel will beat people, Yan Ying really can't stand it, and proposed a divorce to her husband.
After the divorce, the sick eldest son followed his mother and the younger son lived with his father.
In order to earn money to see her son, Yan Ying learned to drive, running around during the day to transport, going out at night to pick up rags, in order to save the child, she is willing to do anything.
Many well-meaning people have extended a helping hand to them, but Xiao Xinhua's condition has not improved. Yan Ying earns money and saves money while taking her children to see a doctor and treat her.
Life always rises and falls, making people see hope and disappointing.
Yan Ying heard that she could save Xinhua by means of bone marrow transplantation, and she quickly took her two sons to do matching, and her brother Xinfu was successfully matched, but the medical expenses were 200,000 yuan.
200,000 is an astronomical amount for Yan Ying, she tried her best to raise it, but another news from the doctor made her despair, donating bone marrow needs to be at least 18 years old to be able to do so, but her brother is only 10 years old.
After the hope was shattered, Yan Ying did not have a dead heart, and she was constantly looking for hope to save her son.
One day, she saw in the newspaper that by regenerating a child, using cord blood to save the child," she consulted the doctor to confirm that it was real and feasible, but the doctor also told her: the probability of the newborn's cord blood matching Qin Xinhua was only 25%.
Therefore, Yan Ying found her ex-husband Qin Deqiang and planned to have another child to save Xiao Xinhua.
Qin Deqiang did not agree, it has been delayed for 2 months, just when Yan Ying was about to kneel down and beg him, his son Qin Xinhua said: "Daddy, you and your mother are reconciled, and another brother or sister will come to save me, I don't want to leave this world so soon." ”
The son's words made the two burst into tears, and Qin Deqiang finally agreed.
At the end of 2005, 39-year-old Yan Ying became pregnant again, stood up with a big belly, and stayed in the hospital 24 hours a day to accompany her son for treatment.
Hospital rent a recliner to sleep for 5 yuan, she is reluctant, spent 10 yuan to buy a cool mat, every night directly on the floor, she can not take care of her waist pain, back pain, bent on hoping that the baby in the stomach can save her son.
On September 1, 2006, Yan Ying gave birth to a boy whose cord blood was sent to be matched. Unfortunately, the matching did not succeed, and another hope was dashed.
Yan Ying spent time in constant hope and disappointment, but she never wanted to give up, no matter how difficult it was, she had to cure her son.
However, Qin Xinhua could not wait, and his condition suddenly deteriorated and he passed away.
Later, Yan Ying lived in Guiyang with 2 sons, she found a job as a nanny, when she went to work, she took her younger son, the second son Xinfu was very sensible, knew that it was not easy for his mother to make money, and the school did not participate in any activities, because she was afraid of spending money.
Many people have advised Yan Ying to reunite with her ex-husband, but she said: "The first half of my life has been very unfortunate, and I only want to be with my son in the second half of my life, and I will not find anyone else." ”
Many praised Yan Ying's greatness and sympathized with her plight, but some criticized the practice and used newborn children as tools.
For the mother, the child is her own life, as long as there is a glimmer of hope, she wants to try, but if there is any other way, who will go to this step. On the one hand is a sick child, on the other side is the hope of possible success, no matter who it is, it will be caught in a dilemma.
And after Yan Ying gave birth to her youngest son, although the pairing was not successful, she still regarded her son as a treasure and carefully raised 2 sons to grow up, such a mother, what qualifications do we have to blame her?
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