When Ling Ling got married, she didn't even inform me, and I was very surprised at the time: because I used to be very good with her, so good that you came to my house to play, I went to your house to live, bought a new dress, and everyone wore a skirt and went out!
Later, she said: At that time, we were separated from each other, afraid that I would run back and forth and be affected, cost money and trouble.
In fact, later I learned that she was married to a very good husband, and the family was richer. We ordinary children, dressed very modestly, were afraid of being disgraced at her wedding.
Especially my so-called girlfriend who grew up with her: I know her situation best, how naughty she was when she was a child, how she stepped on a few boats to pick up her boyfriend when she grew up, and how she spent carefully calculating colleagues after she came out of work...
I knew best, I was afraid that I would open my mouth and accidentally shake out some unbearable past, so that she would not be able to lift her head after losing someone.
In fact, this is very realistic, because now everyone's identity status is different, she has a better future, a better family, and better resources... It is normal to cut the original circle.
The discordantness of friends is only for these reasons:
First, the situation has changed, you have your sunshine road, I have my one-wood path.
One of them has no intention of mentioning the past, and now that they are glamorous and have a good life, they don't want to think about some of the bad things they used to do. The existence of friends is to remind themselves of how unbearable they were in the first place, how bad they were in life, and this taste is very uncomfortable.
Just like in those years, after Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, he invited his old friends who used to be beggars together at the palatial Grand Palace, and some people did not know how to be vicious when everyone snatched a chicken in the poor temple: it may have originally meant reliving the hippie laughter and anger of the past, but the speaker had no intention, and the listener had a heart.
Zhu Yuanzhang's status has now changed, he has become a son of heaven, and when he listens to these words again, he will feel very harsh, and he will feel that he is smearing himself, and he is now in charge of so many people, and it is precisely when he establishes his authority that the human design is to be tall and open the distance with mortals.
Therefore, these people who were quick to talk for a while were finally killed.
Just like me and Lingling, Lingling doesn't have any bad intentions, but her current status doesn't allow her to be so casual. Only by maintaining a high face and moving closer to the more famous and profitable crowds will we live better.
The second and third views are inconsistent, and there is no need to be invited into life.
People will change, and as the environment changes, people's personality will also change.
When I was in middle school, we had a very good friend named Xiaoyan, who was very smart and had a very good home environment. After everyone finished high school, everyone's choices were different, and they parted ways, and she finally chose Shenzhen to live and work in peace and contentment. The city was very fast-paced, so we were able to keep in touch with each other at first, but then she got married and had children, and the busy time became more and more, and the opportunities for small talk became less and less, and we gradually lost contact.
Yes, we spend more time in the small city, in Shenzhen everything looks forward, time is life, where is there time to talk? For her, there is no need to pass this time now, all she sees is work.
Third, people and people, walking on the same road, is only a distance, cherish the happiness of companionship.
Because of the changes in time and space, because of the changes in economic conditions, because of the changes in the state of mind, friends will become strangers.
Like when I was young, I liked to be lively, as if I didn't go out to find friends to play one day, I felt lonely and lonely to the point of unbearable, and even in junior high school and high school, I would use Saturdays, sundays, holidays, and I had to call friends to come out to regular parties.
Now, people are over 40 years old, more and more like quiet, just want to see the flowers in the balcony weeding and do not want to say a word, forced living space has made us do not want to speak, a lot of troubles at work are difficult to tell, can only solve themselves, want to say hugh.
So there will be fewer and fewer friends.
In fact, no matter how the world changes and how our friends change, as long as our hearts in the red dust at this moment are peaceful, quiet, and happy to live, this is enough for everything.
Foreign objects are illusory, and only one's own heart is worth guarding.