Eating phase, also known as "eating phase", refers to the posture and etiquette when eating and drinking.
As the saying goes, "What eats, what people." ”
Through eating, it is easy to see a person's quality, upbringing and personality characteristics.
Eating the phase exposes your appearance.
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Eating is a reflection of your upbringing
Everyone's eating phase is different, so the ancients also created many idioms to describe eating phases. For example, gobbling, starving, swallowing dates, eating fast, being gentle and elegant, chewing slowly...
In the Book of Rites and Fortunes, it is said: "At the beginning of the ceremony, the food began."
It can be seen that the earliest human etiquette began with the etiquette of eating.
From an early age, parents will teach their children to "eat without speaking, sleeping without speaking", "the elders move chopsticks first, and the younger generations move chopsticks", "can not be flipped over, specially pick their favorite dishes", "can not take chopsticks to knock the bowl".
These tiny habits of behavior will also become the embodiment of a person's upbringing.
In the past, in old Shanghai, there was a rich man who had never had children, so he adopted an orphan and raised him as a "rich second generation".
When the child reached the age of eighteen, on his birthday, he danced in front of the guests, played the piano, and acted like a family member, but at the banquet, he picked up chopsticks and poked at his chest, aligned, and began to pick dishes.
This inadvertent action was seen by an old woman, who told the people around her that the child should be called Hanako, because Hanako was asked for food on the street, there was no table and stool, and chopsticks could only be aligned on the chest.
The habits at the dinner table are actually hidden in the bones, and your every move is seen by others, affecting the overall evaluation of you by others.
Therefore, the ancient Xiangshi also summed up a lot of "knowing people" tips, judging whether people have noble faces from eating pictures.
For example: "Those who eat less and fat are wide, those who eat more and are thin are chaotic; those who are anxious to eat are violent, those who eat slowly are sexually violent, and those who eat slowly are sexually stable" "Sitting desire is dignified, and the first desire is straight; urgent and not violent, late and not slow, late and urgent, noble minister." ”
In short, people who eat elegantly will not be too badly educated.
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Eating, hiding your character
"Pipe" has a saying: "The warehouse is solid and knows etiquette, and has enough food and clothing to know honor and disgrace."
In difficult times, when everyone is hungry and seeing delicious food is like a hungry wolf, who has time to talk about table manners? But now, in the prosperous world, even if they are not all rich and noble families, they can have a meal to eat.
And when people eat, it is often the most relaxed time, when some things hidden under the surface will be reflected.
Ma Weidu once told such a story in the show:
A father had dinner with his son and his friends, and on the way home, the father said to his son, "I don't think you can be a friend." ”
The son was very surprised, this friend met in the business field, cooperated several times, the impression is still good, so he asked: "Why?" ”
The father replied, "Although I don't know much about him, from the way I eat, I can basically estimate what kind of person he is." You see he has a habit of picking vegetables, like to put chopsticks into the dish and turn it over, pull up his own dish twice, and don't care about others at all, this kind of person is very selfish. ”
The son retorted, "Because people grow up in different environments, their habits are not similar, and they can't always ask others with their own standards." Later, he still interacted with a friend, but this friend abandoned him because of his unrighteousness.
Careful observation is not difficult to find that when ordering food, you can take care of everyone's taste, know how to take care of other people at the table at the dinner table, and people who eat mildly and elegantly are often responsible and safe people in work and life.
On the contrary, a person who only follows his own likes and dislikes in the process of dining, and does not care about the feelings of others, is basically selfish and does not deserve deep friendship.
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Eating looks reveals the style of acting
Shanghai has always paid attention to table manners, and in the Shanghai dialect, it is often used to describe people as their own interests, unscrupulous and unruly.
In the past two years, "eating ugly" has also become a hot word on the Internet.
The vast majority of children are not good at eating. And the younger the child, the more frequently mistakes are made.
This is because animals have such instincts that when they are hungry, they must eat what they like, and they must be full and will not take care of others.
The so-called "self-cultivation" is to use the form of "anti-nature" to remove or restrain the animal instincts on the body and become a civilized person who conforms to social norms.
Someone on the Internet has summed up a set of "buffet recognition methods":
Some people are wolfing down, afraid that they will not be able to eat back to their own children, such a person's pattern is often small, only focusing on immediate interests;
Some people pile up the plates full, see the delicious food to take, and finally can't finish eating, leaving a lot of people, such people do not measure, do not know the weight;
Some people are very restrained, can eat well, and there is no waste, such people usually do what they can and do things in a measured manner...
If you want to eat without being ugly, don't be too greedy in front of interests, don't think about your own interests exclusively, and don't think about not being able to cheapen others.
If you want to eat and not be ugly, you must understand the spiritual principles and dignity bottom line of your own work, and be prepared to give up certain interests.
For the rest of his life, be a person who eats well, eats without hurry or slowness, does things in an orderly manner and is not impatient, and becomes a cultivated and personable spiritual aristocrat, a calm and elegant and pleasant life.
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