Husband and wife are originally the same forest bird, because in addition to feelings, there is an extra home between husband and wife. A home is like a group, a company, the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship of interests, entangled, inextricable.
As the saying goes, young couples, old companions. In today's society, with the development of science and technology, the pace of people's lives has also become faster. Feelings have also become fast food.
Getting married is easy, getting along is hard. After middle age, people have experienced everything they should have experienced, and people have lost the fighting spirit and enthusiasm of their youth. For love, it is even less enthusiastic about the original love period. Most middle-aged couples live more like a partnership.
What contradictions occur between middle-aged couples, which are more fatal to the relationship between husband and wife?
1, there is nothing to say, like a strange road.
When in love, there is always no end to each other's words. There is not enough time to meet, but also to send messages, to call to say. They often fall asleep with each other's messages.
Before going to bed at night, say goodnight to each other. When you wake up in the morning, you will also say good morning to each other first.
But even if the feelings are like glue, after marriage, they will slowly deteriorate.
I once read a netizen's submission. She and her husband are each other's first love. After five years of love, I finally came to marriage. I thought I could have a sweet marriage for a lifetime. After they all entered middle age, they changed their original appearance.
The husband came home later and later, and even when he returned home, the two were relatively speechless. No one will speak first, because they don't know what to say.
Not even in the mood for a fight. Neither of them had an affair, but they no longer spoke intimately.
Want to change, want to communicate. When I opened my mouth, I found that both of them had lost their patience and courage.
Two people living under one roof, if they don't even bother to say it, or don't dare to say it. The days will pass more and more tastelessly.
That suffocating silence will also quietly bury the love of two people.
2, complain to each other, no longer care about each other.
In Lu Xun's novel blessing, the nagging Xianglin sister-in-law is pitiful and pathetic.
In life, we are not willing to listen to too many complaints, and when you are in a negative energy environment for a long time, you will also be affected.
The neighbor Wang Aunt is a strong person, and everything must be scrambled to be the first, and the face is good. And his wife Uncle Zhang is an honest and honest person who does not "come to things".
When she was young, Aunt Wang was notoriously spicy. As long as he is not happy, he will scold Uncle Zhang. Zhang Shumu has a good temper and is accompanied by a smiling face. And Aunt Wang was getting more and more stubborn.
Aunt Wang repeatedly scolded Uncle Zhang for not being capable of living a good life in front of outsiders and in front of Uncle Zhang's colleagues. At home, he did not care about Uncle Zhang's image in front of his children.
No matter how good-tempered people are, there will be times when they are angry. Uncle Zhang finally couldn't help but erupt and directly told Aunt Wang about divorce. Aunt Wang was accustomed to Uncle Zhang's "instigation look", and after hearing Uncle Zhang say that she was divorced, she also laughed at Uncle Zhang.
Uncle Zhang was fierce and pulled Aunt Wang to go to the divorce. Aunt Wang was in a hurry, and Sapo sat on the ground and began to scold. Pull the neighbors to judge.
People's hearts are all flesh, which can warm the heart, and naturally it will also chill the heart. In those countless complaints, even the best feelings will be slowly consumed. Never go back in time.
To be married is the fate of this life. Those who can accompany them to old age are people who have loved once. Don't let resentment and indifference completely defeat marriage.
3, mutual respect, mutual understanding.
No one is a sage, and no one can be blameless. The management of marriage requires two people to maintain it together. Marriage is not a one-man show. On this stage, you sing me on the stage. Both husband and wife are both protagonists and supporting characters, and the audience.
Two people need to match each other, understand each other, and care for each other in order to interpret the drama of life movingly.
If you do not leave, I will not abandon you, and I will not give up on the hand of the Son and grow old with the Son. May you have a wonderful marriage.