"Haven't slept in ten years"
A few days ago, Cai Shaofen shared her experience with a baby in a variety show.
She said she hadn't slept a full night in ten years.
From the birth of her eldest daughter to her three children, she has always been in charge of getting up in the morning.
"Often at 4 a.m., my son shouted for a pacifier, and when he woke up, he couldn't sleep anymore."
Get up at 7 o'clock in the morning and at 5 o'clock in the morning, prepare breakfast for the children, find pacifiers for the three sons, tie pigtails for the two daughters, and arrange food, clothing, shelter and transportation for the children.
Busy and tired, when the mother wants to sleep all the time, it is a luxury thing.
The most tired is breastfeeding, Zhang Xinyi once posted a "pumping alarm clock" picture, poking countless mothers' tears.
Children should drink night milk and have to get up every hour or so to feed it;
The child wakes up and wants to get up and coax;
In short, the child's every move will affect every nerve of the mother...
Even Teacher Huang Lei was boiled into an eagle by the three sons of the fetus, tossing and turning to collapse.
The pain and tiredness of the baby, people who have experienced it understand.
After surviving the early childhood stage, the child grows up a little, to go to kindergarten to go to school, get up early day after day to prepare breakfast for him, and some families still have to bring food, so they have to get up early.
Be hard
In addition to poor sleep, being a mother is also a disease.
Cai Shaofen also mentioned that she often has to hold her son with one hand when doing things.
One hand cooks, the other holds the child, and the foot is on the stove to find the fulcrum.
The picture is funny, but what I see more is the hard work of being a mother.
She said that her shoulder and arm had been in pain for four months, and she could not make a large movement of her hand backwards, and she fell on periarthritis.
Yeah, having a baby has too much of an impact on the female body.
There is a Malaysian mum Doreen, who has given birth to 4 small children, and on the surface, her figure seems to be recovering well.
But when she posted a picture of her stomach, everyone was shocked.
These shocking stretch marks are very conspicuous on the stomach, thighs, and buttocks.
When pregnant, some people will comfort that stretch marks will become shallow after giving birth, but in fact, because of the difference in physique, many people's stretch marks are difficult to remove.
Ugly navels, unsightly flesh, bulging lower abdomen, wrinkles all over... Let the mothers who have given birth to children have a lingering sense of inferiority.
There are also some invisible changes in the body that ordinary people can't see.
Seriously, without having a baby, you never know how hard it is for a woman.
But what they have to bear is more than that.
The plight of stay-at-home moms and working moms
More than a year after becoming a grandfather, Lee Seung-hyun found that it was too simple to see a stay-at-home mother before.
"He actually spends a lot of time and energy, but as it turns out, it looks like you haven't done anything for a day."
The world is full of misconceptions about stay-at-home moms
Getting up early every day and being busy in the dark, in the eyes of outsiders, it is always at home without work, and Ge You is sure to lie down and play with his mobile phone every day.
However, no one has ever thought about the housework that no one does by themselves? Can I eat food without anyone making it? Will the child grow up without anyone taking themselves?
Stay-at-home moms don't seem to work in the workplace, but the work they do is much more difficult than social work, let alone self-sacrifice.
But because this job is a job without a contract, no salary, and can be said to be a job without any guarantees, it is often ignored by others, and behind the neglect is not to care.
It is also very difficult for mothers to return to the workplace.
In "The Biography of Zhen Huan", Shen Meizhuang's actor Huan Xi could not receive a play after childbirth:
"I used to think that having a child and stopping for a year or two wouldn't matter much. Because there are many scenes I have found before, my self-confidence may be a little bursting, but it is true that reality will hit me hard in the face. ”
How hard is it for postpartum women to return to the workforce? It's hard for people who haven't experienced it to understand.
Stars are still like this, let alone ordinary people?
Almost everyone tacitly agrees that if you become a mother, you can't put 100% of your energy into work.
Returning to the workplace, women need to overcome many more difficulties and prejudices than men.
Be considerate and affirm them
Cai Shaofen accidentally found out that she was pregnant when filming "The Biography of Zhen Huan".
In order not to affect the filming progress, she had to wait until the scene was finished before telling everyone.
What do you do in your free time when you're a mom?
"While filming while breastfeeding until the end of the green, every day the eyes open is to suck, work for more than ten hours home to suck milk and hurry to sleep, no time for exercise or leisure..."
In the endless milk, the endless housework, and the endless chores, the mothers are extremely tired and almost collapse.
In the popular drama "Thirty Only" in the past two years, there is such a line:
What body is out of shape, mood is bad, these are not the worst; you know the first day I came out of confinement, I suddenly felt that Gu Jia was dead, and it was Xu Ziyan's mother who survived.
This passage speaks to the hearts of many people.
You can make money while you're with your children, otherwise people will have all sorts of reasons to say you're not a qualified mother.
On the contrary, once a dad walks around the neighborhood with his child in his arms, everyone praises him as a good dad.
It's so hard to be a good woman.
All mothers are not easy, please give them more understanding, less harsh, please don't hurt her.
Be considerate and affirm her efforts, and be nice to her!