As the old saying goes: it is difficult to be old, especially the old people who are single and empty nests, the difficulty is not the aging of the body, but the inner loneliness and companionship.
In life, many single elderly people in order to get rid of the erosion of the years, let the heart have some sustenance, some dependence, they will choose to find a wife to live together, not for anything else, just for returning home, someone to talk to accompany.
However, real life makes many single empty nesters very helpless, houses, tickets, and children's attitude towards the elderly to remarry, for single elderly people, are all problems they need to think about.
Therefore, even if the single elderly have the will in their hearts, they will also endure the needs, as far as possible to maintain harmony with their children, so that their children can work and live with peace of mind, and they choose to walk alone for the rest of their lives.
The progress of society, the development of science and technology, people's thinking has gradually improved, many single empty nesters in friendship and love, choose to be the rest of their life confidants, accompanied by each other to spend the rest of their lives.
The 72-year-old Uncle Gao and the 65-year-old Aunt Qin have been together for several years after retirement, neither a partner who lives together, nor a remarried wife, they choose to be more affectionate than their friends, and they are less committed confidants than their wives.
The 72-year-old uncle's wife has been gone for ten years, and the only son has worked in the field to start a family with children. Since his wife left, he has become an empty nest old man, and he has thought about finding another wife to live with, or getting a license to remarry.
After experiencing a blind date, Uncle Gao felt that many problems in reality were not easy to solve, his house was to be left to his son, and the savings he had accumulated were also left to his children and grandchildren, but if he did not pay a certain amount of economy, no one was willing to accompany him.
Just when Uncle Gao gave up looking for a partner to live a life, he met Aunt Qin, the two people have the same three views, are also empty nest old people, the thoughts and concerns of their children, no one can complain, can only digest alone in the long time.
Aunt Qin's wife is suddenly ill, the only daughter settled abroad to work, she has also thought about finding a partner again, or have a suitable license to remarry. After several blind dates, I felt that the elderly were reunited, and there were too many troubles, so I gave up this idea.
The encounter between Uncle Gao and Aunt Qin was to hold a "middle-aged and elderly Tai Chi Performance" in the community, and on that day Aunt Qin's set of "32-style Tai Chi Sword" danced like a cloud flowing water, and Uncle Gao's set of "Eight Duan Jin" played exactly the same as in the video, making many middle-aged and elderly people sigh, how he practiced, so standard.
After acquaintance, Uncle Gao and Aunt Qin often greeted each other on WeChat to go to the square to exercise together, and they played tai chi together, practiced tai chi sword, and made baduanjin, which became the happiest moment of their day every morning.
Uncle Gao was a middle-level leader in the unit before retirement, and also liked to write calligraphy and paint landscapes; Aunt Qin was a quality control officer in the unit retired, and her favorite thing to love when she returned home after exercising was to sit quietly at the tea table on the balcony drinking tea, basking in the sun, reading books, and petting cats.
Aunt Qin has a special love for food, but she always sighs, and it is easy to watch the video, but it is not always the case when she practices it. Uncle Gao likes to cook for himself, and has a good study of food, especially making buns and dumplings with various fillings, not only the filling is well adjusted, but also the appearance is also various.
After they met, Uncle Gao would always bring Aunt Qin all kinds of buns and dumplings that he made, and would also call Aunt Qin to enjoy the food with him.
At first, Aunt Qin was very happy in her heart, but she still resisted to get together or get a license to remarry. She did not get along close to Uncle Gao, which made Uncle Gao very unhappy, thinking that Aunt Qin couldn't look at herself, and her heart was also wondering what was wrong.
One day, Uncle Gao prepared good food and wine, and used the wine to tell Aunt Qin what he thought in his heart. He said that he did not want to get a license to remarry, nor did he want to be with others like that, he thought that everyone must be old, each with their own disposition and cleanliness, and he hoped to be the closest confidant and friend of Aunt Qin for the rest of his life.
Uncle Gao talked to Aunt Qin about all kinds of strange blind dates, and he said that he did not want to give the woman protection, nor did he have no feelings, but everyone had their own selfish intentions, and they could not treat other people's children as if they were their own, nor did they want their home to become someone else's home.
Aunt Qin also has the same idea as Uncle Gao, she said, we can be friends for the second half of our lives, care for each other, help each other, but do not need any guarantee commitment, as long as we have feelings for each other, we can accompany each other every day to exercise, chat, eat, go back to each other's homes at night, and meet together in the morning, it is very good.
Uncle Gao and Aunt Qin have become good friends who help each other, Aunt Qin often goes to Uncle Gao's house to clean up, help Uncle Gao tidy up his wardrobe, drink tea and chat together; Uncle Gao often goes to Aunt Qin's house to cook and eat, and they go to the park together to fight boxing, walk, enjoy flowers, take pictures, and go home at night.
In the past three years of the epidemic, they have spent a long time relying on such mutual assistance and reciprocal companionship. Occasionally Uncle Gao is uncomfortable, will send a WeChat message to Aunt Qin saying what he wants to eat, what medicine he needs to buy, Aunt Qin will go to help Uncle Gao to do it, watchIng Uncle Gao slowly get better, he will go home to rest.
Sometimes, when Uncle Gao is particularly uncomfortable, Aunt Qin will also rest in the guest room of Uncle Gao's house so that Uncle Gao has something to do at night. In fact, when people are old, what they need is not material satisfaction, but inner dependence and sustenance.
The mutual companionship of Uncle Gao and Aunt Qin, mutual comfort, each has their own favorite things to do, such mutual aid and reciprocal companionship, than the partnership together a lot less unnecessary entanglement and trivial calculations, than the license to remarry less children opposition and future trouble.
Write at the end:
In life, there are often elderly people who are accompanied by a group for a period of time, unhappy because of various trivial chores, and revenge after separation, and sometimes need the children of both sides to mediate, which not only makes the elderly embarrassed, but also makes the children unhappy.
Like Uncle Gao and Aunt Qin, they are mutually helpful and reciprocal, meeting together for morning exercises, eating, playing, and chatting, which not only alleviates the loneliness in the heart of the single empty nest old man, but also allows the old man's heart to have sustenance.
There are things to remember every day, people to accompany, each other can chat about the past, gossip and homely, not only do not have to worry about trivial calculations, but also open to each other, a handful of age, there is a feeling of sustenance and dependence, the heart will be warm.
With the development of society, the progress of the times, there are many ways to provide for the elderly, suitable for themselves, the way they like is the best, do not have to compare with anyone, do not have to care about whose words, live the rest of their lives is the happiest.
Uncle Gao and Aunt Qin's mutual assistance and reciprocal companionship are suitable for the elderly who can take care of themselves physically, if they really reach the time when the body cannot take care of themselves, that is, each other's spiritual companionship, they should ask the nanny to ask for a nanny, and they should go to the nursing home to the nursing home. But no matter what, when we elderly can make the final say on our own, we should try to make ourselves as happy and comfortable as possible.
Author: Hua Gui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have stories, I have tea, and we talk about the rest of our lives together.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.